To be a bit shocked at employers son always walking around house in boxers...

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I do a bit of part time work for a lady at her house. Twice now I have been working and her 20 year old son has risen from bed and swanned by me in his boxers to go down stairs for his brekky.

AIBU to find this a bit bizarre. I am often about the house and we I haven't worked there years or anything- hence i don't know them well.

I get very uncomfortable at a bloke in his tight tiny boxers and a tshirt strutting about. Am I a prude? I mentioned it to dh and he was raging! Said he would never do this.

OP I think it's you.

I think you're stoking up your DH about it all.

Bowler why?

Please enlighten me :)

Because you aren't comfortable with it. You told your DH and now he's angry. In my experience, a 20 year old male would be oblivious to it. He's not showing off his huge penis. or his small one. Or his erection. That's all. He is just getting up in the morning, in his family home.

I wouldn't do that to my dh.

Bowlersarm- my DT were twins not so long ago. My DS would, and still does, come into the kitchen I boxers (NOT tight pants) and t shirt. He would not do this if there was a guest or someone working in the house, he would think it disrespectful. My DD would come into the kitchen in pyjama shorts and top, NOT in her pants.

I think it's quite normal and not seedy. However, you are clearly uncomfortable therefore you need to mention it to your employer? She will hopefully mention it to her son, and therefore he should make sure he covers up. If you talk to her, she would be wrong not to do anything about it.

indigo are pyjama shorts not like pants?

Anyway, it's horses for courses. Ds1 would. Ds2 is like a Victorian maiden and is buttoned from wrists to ankles. But I don't think the employers son is doing anything wrong, it's how he is, and if the OP doesn't like it she needs to rethink her job.

No, Bowlersarm. They are shorts. Not tight fitting pants. Not knickers. Not thongs. Pyjama shorts.

I don't dislike I enough to want a new job, I have stated this before. I merely did it odd. I am obviously rather prudish- which is a suprise to me given my wayward, mental teen years

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I'm quite prudish too, OP, believe it or not. I just have a teen son that would do that, with no agenda!

Is he fit? Is he single?

A 20 yr old lad would probably have just got out of bed and headed for the fridge - it just wouldn't cross his radar that there was the tiniest possibility that him having boxers and a t-shirt on to do that in his own home would be in any way inappropriate. I would suggest you are being a little bit over sensitive.

DS is 20, he wanders around looking for food in his boxers and does so regardless of who is here. The thought of putting more clothes on because someone is here would just never enter his head. Even if I suggested it - he wouldn't compute.

He may grow out of it not holding out much hope

I dunno if he is single and he is a good looking lad - but before anyone jumps on this comment, he is too young and not my type!!!

And if he was my type I wouldn't look anyway as happily married! Before anyone reads Into my previous comment too much , again!

Bowler> iswym -I imagine I would be less uncomfortable if it was the norm in my house

Just wanna add- i dont think he has an agenda, he is obviously just not thinking anything at all abou my presence - which is fine, but still I feel awkward

I don't get why the half-naked person would be ogling the fully clothed one, rather than the other way around. Your DH's 'concern' makes no sense.

You are probably near invisible to the young man. Your DH must be concerned about you seeing half-naked men who are more attractive than him and about your response to that. He's telling you that, to him, half-naked bodies equal sexual thoughts. For him, not you. That's what he thinks about when he sees scantily clad women. He hasn't applied the imagination required to understand it isn't the same for you.

Though, it would be possible to have thought he just saw it as disrespectful to you in your workplace - if you hadn't banged on about jealousy, lack of trust and immediately linked those issues to this situation.

Lottie > i dont know how to answer that without sounding insanely arrogant / big headed etc and then having a subsequent backlash from a swarm of MNs no doubt. So I'll keep schtum.

If your in 20s and he's in 20s... How is he ' way too young'?

If he's young and good looking, I see nothing wrong.