To be a bit shocked at employers son always walking around house in boxers...

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

I do a bit of part time work for a lady at her house. Twice now I have been working and her 20 year old son has risen from bed and swanned by me in his boxers to go down stairs for his brekky.

AIBU to find this a bit bizarre. I am often about the house and we I haven't worked there years or anything- hence i don't know them well.

I get very uncomfortable at a bloke in his tight tiny boxers and a tshirt strutting about. Am I a prude? I mentioned it to dh and he was raging! Said he would never do this.

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

Ok let me clarify: dhs insecurities are that men will flirt and ogle me and he knows I wouldn't do anything, but he still feel threatened by my working with a youn bloke swanning about half naked.

[LoveSardines]

I am a bit surprised at this thread.

OP is working in someone's home, sure, but I would expect that as an "outsider" who is there doing a job people would get dressed when she is around.

In our house we all wander around in various states of undress, but DH would never go around in just his pants while the cleaner was here, and I would always get covered up when the builders were here.

I am surprised by the response TBH. I would not have expected that so many people would think it was totally normal for people to wander around in their underwear when there is someone there to work.

Funny how MN throws up some things which make you realise you are totally out of step really.

[AnyFucker]

How are you working "with" this young bloke and how does that pique your H's macho, chest beating pride ?

My wife must not see a bum in boxers kinda thing ?

[ImAThrillseekerBunny]

"I trust you - I just don't trust other men/women" makes no sense whatsoever unless you actually fear that your partner is going to be sexually harassed or assaulted - and that wouldn't be jealousy, just (over?)protectiveness.

[MinesAPintOfTea]

Half this thread need to turn their heating down!

And op I think it would be reasonable to mention it to your employer if it really bothers you.

[Itsfab]

I thought you must be a lot older to be bothered by a man in his boxer shorts.

Makes no sense your husband feeling like that unless he thinks he owns you.

What are men ogling at? Are you walking around in your pants too? .

[eatmydust]

My son is the same. Currently just come in, showered, wandering about in boxers and looking for beer. It is what they do. At least when they get older the boxers are always clean and they shower without being asked

I am waiting for him to ask for the heating to be turned on.

They don't think..'oh, it's the woman who works here, I can't walk round in boxers'. They just think 'oh,I've woken up, I must go and get a coffee'

Don't think the issue you have is a 20 year old in his boxers, doing what 20 year olds do in their own home - it is your relationship with your husband and his jealousy issue.

[LoveSardines]

Adults I should say.

Young children is different. If I was working somewhere and a kid was running around in pants no worries, but an adult, I would think that was a bit off really.

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

Thank you love sardines

I am not about to inform my employer it leave te job. It not causing me monumental distress. I am just curious if I am being prudish ... My guy tells me yes... He seems harmless. Its just ... A bit ott for me. I am a pretty liberal person too !!

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

Gut.* silly phone sorry

[wigglesrock]

I used to clean in student halls - most of them would wake & head straight to the kitchen to get something to eat & drink, usually in whatever they'd slept. It was very commonplace.

[Mitzi50]

My son wanders round half dressed but if there was anyone other than immediate family he would have the courtesy to put more clothes on.

I once had an appointment at someone's home (home visit for a child in my class) and was surprised to be introduced to Dad resplendent in baggy boxer shorts with his belly hanging over the top. Both he and his DP seemed to feel this was normal attire for meeting their child's teacher.

[Onesleeptillwembley]

Ill explain. Slowly. Why on earth would a so called grown man be 'enraged' about a very young man walking around his own home in as much as he would wear at the beach.
No normal man would be bothered by this.

[Enjoyingmycoffee1981]

OP, when you say you are doing a little bit off part time work at this house, are you referring to cleaning?

If so, I would hazard a guess that he hardly recognises your existence, hence it not even registering on his radar that it might be inappropriate.

But the fact that he is wearing a t shirt, doesn't that just make it like an ordinary summer's day, when people wear t shirts and shorts?

Your DH is raging? Odd. Just odd.

[indigo18]

Oh give her a break! I think he should put his jeans on if there is a non family member in the house working. I bet all these who think it is fine would really NOT like a teenage girl in pants and t shirt making breakfast while their DH was working in the kitchen!

[LoveSardines]

He hasn't been brought up very well if he doesn't recognise the cleaner as an actual person

OP hasn't said what the job is anyway, it's not necessarily cleaning, could be anything.

DH would not walk around in pants while the cleaner was here, I never walked around in pants while the builders were here.

Am still experiencing a bit of surprise that our approach is not the norm in the UK!

[Bowlersarm]

indigo do you have teens?

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

I was in uni halls with lotsa males, I don't recall many of them walking about in their pants.

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

He is not a teenager?

[Bowlersarm]

Not quite the same OP, they aren't in their family home.

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

Bowler> sorry what? I saw it as my home. We all did ...

[sothathatswhenI]

Hmm. When I was a student (19) I did a bit of cleaning as a part time job and in one family the teenage son would swan about in boxers the whole time I was there. I thought it was creepy TBH. I was paid to clean the house and just did my best to ignore it but a half naked man walking past you repeatedly can be intimidating. I agree its his house but its also your place of work for the time you're there!
Maybe just an occupational hazard - you have to decide for yourself whether you want to see that or not!

[Bowlersarm]

Halls in uni aren't the same as being in your family home. What have I missed?

[wigglesrock]

Boxer shorts & t-shirts was usually the attire at about 8am in the halls where I worked. They'd come into the kitchen, get some Lucozade , then go get dressed. I also worked in halls with shared bathrooms - the students didn't get dressed then head to the loo or shower.

[KeepOnKeepingOnAndOnAndOnAndOn]

I do not recall half naked men every morning...