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To judge parenting at softplay

93 replies

catgirl1976 · 06/05/2014 18:54

Just taken DS to softplay. It was very quiet, just us and another family with a child about DS's age (2) though he could have been 3

Other boy was pretty rough in the the ball pond, throwing balls at DS's face and shoving him and jumping on him, but toddlers can be like that so I didn't mind too much.

He started talking to me and was pretty rude (in a shouty, demanding way) but again, only looked very little so.....

Then he wanders off, returns with a packet of Quavers which he proceeds to eat in the ball pond. At this point I was a bit judgeypants.

Parents of this child nowhere to be seen in the play area. Later saw they were sat in the coffee bit reading the Sun (judged choice of paper a bit along with total lack of concern for the whereabouts / behaviour of their DC)

But then DS and I were sat at a table and the little boy came over and sat down at it. Looked over at his parents who were too engrossed in the Sun to notice.

I made polite conversation with the little boy. Who then spat a load of Haribo sweets all over the floor. Which I cleaned up as his parents were not paying him any attention.

Then he grabbed my can of Diet Coke and started drinking it. At this stage was torn between annoyance that he had drank my bloody coke and concern he shouldn't be having diet coke (possibly, mine isn't maybe he is allowed it but I had no way of knowing) and also concern he might cut his tongue on the can.

At this point I said "Are you allowed to have that?" loudly enough to get his mother to look up from her paper.

She came over, grabbed his arm really roughly and said "You'll cut your tongue, put it back".

Didn't apologise to me and then went back to her paper leaving him sat at our table with me looking at my toddler drooled in drink.

AIBU to have hoicked my judgey pants? Or am I a joyless old bint who should be more tolerant of other children's behaviour?

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Mrsjayy · 07/05/2014 09:51

oh god I just LOL at would you like to express yourself in the medium of dance

BuzzardBird · 07/05/2014 10:05

Grin @ MrsK, you must live around here. It's all "darling, can you write down the chemical compounds found in Diet Coke and its effect on the human body?"

Rhine · 07/05/2014 10:10

I also just people who read The Sun. I wouldn't wipe my arse with that rubbish,

LizzieMint · 07/05/2014 10:20

OK, maybe i'm just an oik, but what is actually wrong with drinking from a can? Have I missed something somewhere? I find that a very odd thing to be hoiking bosoms over. Aren't cans of drink kind of designed to be drunk from?

Atbeckandcall · 07/05/2014 10:20

I'd have hoiked and given myself a full front and back wedgie!!! YADNBU.

Nummer · 07/05/2014 10:25

I don't get the can thing either - what's the problem? (and I say that while living in a country where typhus-infected rats pee on the cans in the supermarket....but we just give them a wee wipe before opening).

I'm drinking beer out of can right now. I came in from a walk and was bloody hot....cold beer straight from the fridge. Wonderful.

KnittedJimmyChoos · 07/05/2014 10:31

For me its not the can, its the contents...coke....

KnittedJimmyChoos · 07/05/2014 10:32

lizzie ANOTHER poster was jokingly alluding to the vile ness of coke, it was the coke, not the can.

LizzieMint · 07/05/2014 10:54

Ah OK, it was the response of 'I wasn't drinking from the can, I was decanting it' that confused me then.

Nummer · 07/05/2014 11:08

That confused me too! However I also love diet coke....

catgirl1976 · 07/05/2014 11:12

Hey MrsJay

How are you? x

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MissOtisRegretsMadam · 07/05/2014 11:21

I think yabu for clearing up sweets he spat out on the floor... Yuk, dealing with my own child's spat out food makes me shudder let alone a random child's! At that point id have gone over to his mum and dad and said "excuse me your little one is spitting sweets on the floor" and hoped they took the hint.

This thread reminds me how much I dislike soft play and dread the upcoming party my ds is invited to this weekend...

catgirl1976 · 07/05/2014 13:26

I love coke Blush

I've only recently weaned myself on to diet. I miss the full fat lushness.

But nothing beats drinking it from one of those little glass bottles. ice cold on a hot day.......

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Mrsjayy · 07/05/2014 15:12

*Hey MrsJay

How are you? x*

I am fine lovey Smile

to the poster who hated the thought of picking up naother childs spat out sweeties I had a boy today spit his banana into my hand was to save him spitting it on the floor god children are disgusting

Mrsjayy · 07/05/2014 15:12

another*

JoInScotland · 07/05/2014 20:12

Yes, I obviously go to the wrong softplays or used to. My mild-mannered DS was hit in the face with balls from about 5 inches away. The response was the nanny saying, "Matilda, stop that! Persephone, stop that!" (I kid you not). The two turned and hit the nanny in the face with plastic balls.

Another time, a bigger boy followed my son around and took delight in pushing DS down, taking things off him, slapping him, you name it. So yes, I helicoptered because SOME PARENTS DON'T ACTUALLY MIND THEIR CHILDREN. Big shock, eh?

MrsKoala · 07/05/2014 20:22

Jo - what is the 'i kid you not for'? Is it the names? Because if it is - OUTSIDE! Persephone is the name for our DD Grin

Atbeckandcall · 08/05/2014 08:45

I don't the "I kid you not bit either" if it is aimed at the names I'm a bit Sad. My dd is a Matilda and I love the Persephone. Please don't let this turn into a judgey name pants thread. Anyway whatever they were called, yes the behaviour is unacceptable.

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