This makes me feel uncomfortable, what do you think?

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Bit of background.

My dad has a friend (Derek) who is in his 60s. Without being unkind, he's not a young 60 or a handsome 60 more of a chain smoking, denture wearing 60. They met a year ago at a hospital during step mothers treatment for cancer, and bacame friends. He drove step mother to and from hospital, kept them company, did bits of shopping - he was invaluable to them. Unfortunately she passed away 6 months ago, and since then he has been a good friend to my dad. He seems to have become part of their family and seems close to my sister and brother.

I've always thought him a bit odd, and felt slightly uncomfortable around him, although he's ever given me a reason. He's not suggestive or bad mannered, he's friendly enough.

However, he went on a month long holiday to Cambodia about 5 months ago. I thought it was a strange place to go for a holiday and said so to my dad, who said he had gone because he has never been. Derek has a Facebook page and started adding younger (late teens and early 20s) Cambodian women and tagging them in photos etc.

He went again to Cambodia last month and has announced that he has got married. His wife is in her 20s. I was chatting about it to my dad and said that it doesn't seem right, he said that Derek had made a conscious effort to pick a woman who was not in her teens (yuk) and that he really wanted to become a father so he would have someone to leave his money too.

I just think the whole thing is uncomfortable. My dad and I had a slight disagreement about it, he thinks that the lady in question will be glad that she has someone to look after her now, I think that having to have sex with an old man just to put food on the table is disgusting and he's taking advantage. Derek says Cambodia isn't what I'm thinking it is (im imagining a poor country, with a big sex trade industry and sex tourism etc)

His wife will be coming to the UK shortly for a visit and staying with my dad and his family.

It just doesn't feel right and I don't want to be around someone who would buy a wife, but maybe I am just totally wrong about the whole thing.

Having seen some of the posts on here, I am surprised my post was deleted but thanks mumsnet for giving the link more exposure.
link, for posterity,
www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-pacific-12802339

Let me try again.

I think either the op or Derek are mistaken. As the link above states it is illegal for a marriage like this to occur in Cambodia.

Maybe they had a village ceremony or something but this will not count in law anywhere and certainly wouldn't give the woman any protection or rights. And in fact would probably be worse for her if the relationship soured as she may feel obligated to him and her family might well consider them married but she has none of the benefits actual marriage may have afforded her.

Something else to bear in mind with all this as well is the respect for their elders and especially older parents that is ingrained in a lot of Asai, older husbands can be quite a status symbol in some cultures.

That said, it doesn't sound as though this guy is much of a catch and probably is just using his financial status in the same way Bernie Ecclestone and Joan Collins do.

I'm not generalising and I don't want to offend anybody, but it must be difficult being a child of one of these marriages (if not loving/consensual). I've taught 2 teenage boys in this situation at different schools and they were both very difficult, lots of anger, very unwilling to link school and home in any way.