To wonder why 'have a spa day' is touted as the solution to so many problems on here?

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Husband run off with his secretary, leaving you with three kids under 6 and no job? Have a spa day. Maybe get your hair cut too.

Thinking of running off with your secretary? Take some time out to think about it, have a spa day.

Boiler broken and flooded the kitchen? Awwwww, have a spa day. Not in your kitchen though.

Lost your job, got kids to support? Get yourself a massage, sweetie. Preferably in a spa.

Boyfriend stumbled in a 4am and pissed in the wardrobe? Selfish bastard, you show him who's boss. By having a spa day.

This advice appears over and over again on MN. It irritates the fuck out of me for some reason.

Has anyone ever, genuinely, found having a spa day helped them with their life issues in anyway whatsoever?

I agree, OP. Having been around on MN longer than I care to admit, I have seen "why don't you take yourself off to a spa for the day for some pampering and leave him to it?" offered pretty regularly as advice to posters whose partners aren't pulling their weight.
I spent a day at a spa once - it was like being in One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest. Never again.

My best friend gave me a voucher once for a spa day for my birthday and said 'let me know when you want to go and I'll come with you'. Still feel guilty that voucher got 'lost'. I just can't stand the thought of a spa day and people mauling me and giving me towelling dressing gowns to walk around in. Would much rather go for some pasta and wine.

Ok, just saw on a thread about an8 yr old starting her periods:

Take her on a spa day

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Ok, just saw on a thread about an8 yr old starting her periods:

Take her on a spa day

...

I recently was v down in doldrums and loads of crap goin on and the number of ppl who said maybe get your nails done!!

I recently was v down in doldrums and loads of crap goin on and the number of ppl who said maybe get your nails done!!

Why would anyone use 'spa day' as shorthand for 'have some time to yourself and do so,etching relaxing'? Spa day is an incredibly specific suggestion.

I was moaning talking to a friend about us having no money for treats & going out and that it was getting me down a bit (all work & no play et ). Her solution was 'book a spa day & get your nails done'. With what, you twerp?

I've been given vouchers for spa days by people who don't know me very well but not used them. I don't like being poked and prodded

I once went to a spa in turkey, the guy was very inappropriate! Never again.

i LOVE spa crap

Alll that fiddling. I dont know if i need the day thing, just a few treatments in a room with plinky plonky music and a woman with an NVQ who spouts a lot of bad science.

I can't imagine anything I'd less rather spend my money on than beauty treatments. I like doing my own nails etc, but hate the thought of someone else doing it.

I'd never twigged that it was shorthand for day to yourself, but I never twigged that a school run dress isn't a dress specially bought for doing the school run either.

no i made up the school run dress.
its something you throw on to make yourself decent after being scantily clad au jardin.

See, I don't do scantily clad in the garden, so that would never occur to me, I do the school run in whatever I happen to be wearing that day.

That or getting a cleaner. Everyone has money for one, and it makes up for marrying a lazy twat who sees women as domestic appliances.

i don't do it at all any more. BUt at one point, when the summers were warm and I had toddlers in paddling pools wistful look I used to bikini.

I used to be quite sneery about spas, then my friend bought me a voucher for the local Turkish baths. I had a steam room, jumped in a freezing cold pool for a bit and sat on some hot tiles for a few hours. I came out feeling so relaxed! I am not sure what it was but I'd do it again.

I had a great spa day with my mate the other day. We went for lunch before and got pissed then laughed all through the treatments and nearly drowned laughing in the swimming pool.
Now that's a spa day I'd recommend.

I am considering a spa day but because I know I've been stressed recently and could do with a wind down. All I can do to fix the situation has been done its also almost a year since my mum passed so that's stressing me a little too.

For me it's not a solution. It's a time out after the solution has been found.

However if I had a dp and he was to come home drunk a spa day might be a nice way of him saying sorry.

Ah, Golightly getting your nails done - I see this as sitting down on the kitchen table, doing some lopsided filing and slapping some polish on.

It does make me feel better, but it does not involve the faffing around in a stupid overpriced spa, wasting time and money and getting stupid things dome to one's body, and soul.

So I might have been one of the ones recommending nails done. but I didn't mean it in a spa way.

Am I the only one who likes spa days and getting my nails done? Not that I get my nails done very often, as a nurse there's no point.

It's not about liking then.

It's about suggesting a spa day as solution to everything from divorce to the plague via unruly toddlers.

I know, I commented at the beginning of the thread.