to think this present was Ok?

[Miren]

Recipient: Woman, early 30's. Professional, no children.

Giver: 3 young children.

Occasion: Birthday

Gift: Homemade pink lemonade in nice glass bottle. Homemade cookies wrapped with homemade gift tags and a handmade card.

We don't know her very well so I thought this was a way to be generic whilst personal. It wasn't very well received.

If you're low carbing, I can see how that would be a non-gift, but as her boyfriends niece/nephews made it, you bubble over with fucking enthusiasm, take a bite, declare them the best things ever and share with the kids.

You really don't need have kids to know how to be polite.

And I would have eaten the cookies!

Yes, but surely even if you aren't 'into' children, you've been raised with enough awareness and respect to smile and say thank you regardless of whether you like the gift?! How horribly rude of her! Jeez, before I had my dd I would have acted delighted if I'd been handed a flippin' mud pie from a child. My response would be the same now.

It doesn't matter who gave the gift or what the gift was. Has the woman no manners at all? OP, I seriously wouldn't bother going to the effort again. Sign a card in future and leave it at that.

Exactly. This about manners.

She has no manners.

If she's still with your bil at Christmas, get her something from the poundshop.

She should have made more of a show of appreciating the gift. I wouldn't have wanted to try them tbh, because I don't want to eat food cooked by other people's children. I'm not that keen on eating food cooked by my own children tbh, but I would have said something about how much I'd enjoy trying the cookies later with a cup of tea or something.

If your dc would have been disappointed not to see them tried, then it probably wasn't a wise idea as a gift tbh.

Unless she was blatantly rude, there's a chance you were expecting too much from someone who doesn't have children and who might have very little interaction with children.

How rude!! To such a lovely thoughtful gift.

Adding my birthday to the list - 11th Jan

Impatiently tapping fingers till Jan 11th

i wouldnt be rude but i would bin it as soon as they left tbh , i would not eat food the dcs had made .

Grasping at straws here but is it possible she finds receiving gifts uncomfortable?

My brother is practically phobic about this and always opens presents on his own. He just finds the whole thing really uncomfortable and doesn't know how to respond, he's been this way since he was little.

I would imagine he would come across as quite rude to people who don't know much about him.

AdeleNazeem I have been around here for a few years and remember when it appeared after biscuitgate but i'm not dead sure what it actually means.

I once volunteered at a bread baking session for children making First Communion in the DCs' school. Each adult volunteer had a group of 8 to 10 7-yos and the idea was to make yeast dough from scratch, let it rise, bake it in small loaf tins and send the children home with a mini loaf and some idea about bread baking.

The children were all dispatched to the bathroom in small groups to wash hands first, supervised by one volunteer. Back they came and we all got stuck in with mixing the ingredients and then kneading in turn. I divided my lump of dough into three parts to give everyone a turn at kneading in little groups of three as I know children love kneading but tire fast, and hate waiting for 8 or 9 others to have their turn..

Anyhoo -- to my horror and too late, I noticed the state of the hands and nails of several children while they were busy pummeling and pounding the dough (aka 'kneading' ). Clearly they had not washed their hands properly for weeks, never mind 'under supervision' right before we started. We ploughed on anyway. I left the dough to rise and when they all went to their prayer session in the church made a very quick batch myself with extra yeast and sugar, crossed my fingers and put it in a really warm place to rise. I used this batch to fill the little loaf pans. All worked out well.

I was left with the dough I had set aside. I put it into the car and drove home, forgot it in the back seat, but one of the DCs spotted it and without telling me, decided to bake it. It was the best loaf any of us ever tasted. Gorgeous crust and texture, and presumably all microorganisms including the yeast well and truly dead after baking at medium high for 25 minutes.

The gifts sound lovely btw.

I would have been thrilled with them.

She sounds like an ungrateful person but perhaps she doesn't like the idea of small children being involved in making them.
Horrible for her to let her dissatisfaction known.
What did she expect a Gucci Handbag?
She sounds awful.

meand no comment (in a hth way) on MN.

She sounds like an ungrateful cow.

(meand->means)

Some people are just weird about homemade stuff, any homemade stuff. It has to be boring, mass produced and unimaginative consumer goods.

I don't get it either and love to receive something that a friend has spent time and thought on.

If she let you know that she didn't like it, then she was very rude too.

She was very rude,if your children reacted like that to a gift you would be mortified.
I would much prefer that than something out of a shop.Just dont bother next time.

Id LOVE that, even if kids had made it. Im a sucker for presents, you could give me an old stick and Id love it. But homemade stuff tops it all.

What a bitch.

My birthdays at the end of the month and I'd love this gift. I was given some cookies as a thank you by some children I baby sat when I was 15. It reduced me to tears the fact they made them. I'd love either the lemonade or the cookies....

I dont think homemade food is a generic gift tbh and was probably a bit ill judged. I have children and would not want to eat food made by somebody else's kids. When 30 and childless I would have thought it a very odd gift. Having said that I would have smiled and accepted graciously so she was rude. I imagine she was just a bit taken aback.