to think this present was Ok?

[Miren]

Recipient: Woman, early 30's. Professional, no children.

Giver: 3 young children.

Occasion: Birthday

Gift: Homemade pink lemonade in nice glass bottle. Homemade cookies wrapped with homemade gift tags and a handmade card.

We don't know her very well so I thought this was a way to be generic whilst personal. It wasn't very well received.

[ShoeJunkie]

Sounds good to me! Shall I pm you my birthday and address?!

[OurMiracle1106]

My birthday is in august so if three cute little munchkins with help from their mummy/daddy/other sensible adult feel to make me some I would be very grateful :) :)

[mathanxiety]

If you don't know someone well, then I think homemade gifts are a bit too personal.

Something that would be acceptably personal but still mindful of the fact that you don't know this person well might be a better idea. Nice small box of hand made or unusual choc, gourmet food item along the lines of fancy olive oil, bottle of wine that isn't too pricey, very nice candle, indoor plant or something pretty for a garden would all fit the bill.

That being said, she was rude if she gave the impression the gift was not well received. Nobody should respond like that.

[PenguinDancer]

sounds amazing, I would LOVE that!

What an unpleasant woman.

[OnaPromise]

Eh? She sounds charming.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

Sounds lovely! I'd have been delighted.

Manners cost nothing. You smile and say thank u.

[PenguinDancer]

BILs new GF?!

If DPs SIL and kids did something so lovely for me I would cry!

[Joules68]

Young children aren't renowned for cleanliness tho .....did they help make them? I'm thinking along the lines of snot/worms/poo/wee.... But she should have been gracious.

Not even a thank you?

[yegodsandlittlefishes]

Wow, that sounds fab! Even if on a biscuit and lemonade free diet, the wrapping and bottle and gift tags by small children would make me break out in big grins.

[Miren]

Devoniandarling - Good Food recipe. Sugar, lemon, orange and raspberries

[Pleasejustgo]

That is horrendously bad form on her part.

Even if you'd weed in the bottle she should have the good grace to appreciate the effort everyone went too. Much more thought than just buying

[chipshop]

Sounds adorable, wish someone would buy me homemade cookies.

[AdeleNazeem]

am quite new here, whats the significance of ? (worried look)

[chipshop]

Make me them, even

[MammaTJ]

recipe*

[CoffeeTea103]

Just me then but doesn't sound like a birthday gift, more of an everyday kind of thing. Agree with the pp who said about the kids being involved with the baking, first thing I would have thought of was the cleanliness.
I wouldn't have said anything to you though.

[devoniandarling]

Lovely, thanks! Off to research pronto!

Hope your kids weren't too upset. I'd have been thrilled with that gift. As would the majority of my friends.

[HindsightisaMarvellousThing]

I think you're asking the wrong demographic here - try asking a bunch of childless 30 year olds instead and I bet the answer would be different!

I've got a child, and wouldn't be that keen on food made by children TBH. The pink lemonade sounds good, but she might not like soft drinks. Or biscuits. She should have made more of an effort to sound pleased though.

[Miren]

Meditrina - hadn't thought of that, oh dear!

[LineRunner]

Is she generally bad mannered, OP?

[mathanxiety]

I left the computer to get a cup of tea and help with a homework question while in the middle of typing and missed the bits after AdeleNazeem's post

So in light of the fact that she is a GF of BIL, I would say YANBU to be miffed and hopefully she won't last long in the role of GF.

Outside of people who are romantically attached to relatives, however, I would still say there is no gift that could be both generic and handmade at the same time.

[Purpleroxy]

Well she could have been a bit more positive about it but maybe:

She was on a diet and not thrilled with sugary food and drink

Or

She felt that stuff made by 3 little kids was a bit ick. I've seem loads of threads on here where people won't eat kids' offerings!

Id just forget about it.

[LittleMisslikestobebythesea]

I think that's a lovely and thoughtful gift. Even if she wouldn't eat it, she could have smiled and said thank you.

There is no excuse for rudeness and she is the one with the issue.

[sleepyhead]

Whether it was a good gift or not isn't relevant. She's rude.

I know a couple of people who wouldn't be able to bring themselves to taste something homemade by children, but they'd gush appropriately and say something about how lovely they looked and that they'd save them for later.

[AlpacaPicnic]

I would have said thank you lots, and given hugs.
I'm childless and in my mid late thirties.
I'm not a rude baggage though, that's the difference