To make such a big deal of this?

[Littlebme12]

Dp sent my ds to school with mouldy bread yesterday. Mouldy bread that didn't even have a filling as apparently he couldn't find anything in the fridge (i always buy fresh school supplies on Sunday evening, plus I was upstairs - he ciuldve asked.

Said he didn't realise bread was mouldy. He was trying yo use up last of the old loaf before opening new one in the knowledge that it had been there since the middle of last week am hadn't been used over the weekend.Ds came home and said his sandwich tasted funny, so that's how i worked this all out. Ds has slight learning probs and needs reminded to pick up his lunch. Dp also 'forgot' this and Ds water and snacks were left behind.

I want to actually punch his face in. Im just imagining poor Ds at school eating a mouldy slice of bread and it quite honestly makes me want to cry. Am i over reacting? Dp thinks so, also cast up a thing i did with dd at school years ago in his defence!

YANBU. He probably didn't do it on purpose but it's not good.

Actually, just re-read and seen that he didn't give hima sandwich filling, a drink or snacks - so he just gave him a mouldy piece of bread for lunch? that's worse, not on at all.

YANBU. Even if it wasn't mouldy, why didn't he put anything in it? This is neglectful and shit of him.

Am i over reacting? Dp thinks so,

I think you'd have been overreacting if you'd actually punched him in the face, but you didn't.

I do think that a grown adult ought to be capable of making a sandwich.

Yeah I'd make a big deal. What a lazy twat cavy even be stars to make a sandwich for him.

If my H sent my Son with that as a supposed lunch I would be very cross, but would try and give some sort of benefit of doubt.

Your child had a slice of mouldy bread for lunch?

And nothing else?

:(

You need to ask your DP why he did that. If there's no fillings he should walk to the shop.

Thats fucking outrageous! I would be furious.

YADNBU.

That's terrible. Your poor son. How can someone give a mouldy piece of bread to their child for lunch? Where were the lunchbox police when you actually need them then? If the school noticed they should of given him a hot meal and then billed you!

YANBU. What is wrong with your DP that he doesn't see this as an issue?!
DH makes the packed lunches in this house, and he was disgusted by what you describe as much as I was. Your poor son, he deserves to have a proper dinner with at the very least a proper sandwich in fresh bread.
Is your DP always like this?

YANBU. I would go ballistic.

I would be very cross too op :-(

He say you are over reacting as a defence as he knows he's been a twat. It wasn't just a case of giving him mouldy bread (when you had perfectly good bread available, he had no filling and no snacks.

FWIW.... my OH usually does DS's lunch... if there were an occasion we had mo brad or fillings...he would blummin well go and get some from the shop

Mouldy bread could be forgiven as an error if it was a bit of mould on the crust as this can be easy to miss. The forgetting the snacks is also unfortunate but could be a one-off error in a rush.

But not putting anything in it is just odd. Who on earth would think that sticking a slice of bread (mouldy or otherwise) in a lunchbox is enough? Wouldn't you seek out a jar of jam or slice a banana or something to put in it?

I bet he wouldn't have accepted it for lunch himself.

Unless he has some kind of medical condition that is making him behave out of character, I would tell him to get fucked.

The bread....ok maybe he didn't notice.

But he cannot honestly think that putting no filling into the sandwich was normal. No one could think it's ok to send a child to school with a slice of bread.

Has he said why he didnt put anything inside the sandwich?

The bread I could forgive him for - he'll check it more thoroughly in future.

The no filling etc... I wouldn't forgive him. Your poor ds :( Yanbu.
How can a grown man even consider for one second that it's acceptable. Would he be happy with that for his lunch at work.

If he had put some kind of filling in the bread, he would have been likely to notice that it was mouldy, so I think the two are linked. Did he say why he didn't?

Impossible to believe this was a genuine oversight unless your DP has difficulties of his own. No sensible adult would think it acceptable to give a child a (mouldy!) slice of bread for lunch. It's sad and strange. You aren't overreacting.

Assuming it was a bit of mould on the crust I think this was an oversight and not the end of the world.

Ditto taking water and snacks was a mistake and not the end of the world (presumably there is water that can be accessed at school).

So whether he is BU, depends what else was in the lunch really.
My DC often have bread with no filling if it's appropriate to accompany whatever else they have. So if lunch was (say), bread, cheese, carrot sticks, yogurt and an apple - this sounds fine.

If OP's DS literally had a slice of bread, agree this is pretty poor!

Is it a reflection of his general approach whenever you expect him to do something domestic? If so I think this is about more than just this 'sandwich'.

I would have been so so cross. Not for the bread, which is a mistake anyone could have made, but for the general lack of giving a fuck about his own child!

You minor it's not going to cause him any long term harm. You know it caused him no ill health. You know DS has probably forgotten it by now.

And yet you are upset. And too bloody right!

It was thoughtless and utterly lacking in paternal care to give his son a mouldy slice of bread ( when fresh cream was available!). I think you are completely right to be upset. Because it's not just about mouldy bread, is it? It's about a parent being sloppy and uncaring towards their child.

Minor should read 'know'

Oh goodness, cream should read 'loaf'!

I would have punched him. Right in the kisser.

Your poor DS! YADNBU!