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Nursery went home and left dd!

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lookingfortheanswer · 28/04/2014 18:36

Posting here for traffic, I don't have an aibu.

Went to pick up dd from nursery this afternoon and found the whole place locked up and nobody there. After frantically calling, banging on doors, checking nobody else had picked her up we managed to contact the neighbouring school. The staff who were still there were amazing, helped us to get into the building where we found dd on the toilet, on her own, lights off and doors closed, staff gone home. It took us half an hour to get in so she was there at least that long. She was obviously very upset but is now home and fine and drinking lemonade as a treat while I try to stop shaking.

Obviously this is a huge safeguarding issue and there is no way she is going back. The head of the neighbouring school has been in touch and is organising a meeting for the morning.

Any advice on where to go from here, who to complain to? Should we get legal advice? I am so so angry!

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littlewhitebag · 28/04/2014 19:19

Have you contacted the nursery head?

Atbeckandcall · 28/04/2014 19:19

I'm horrified that your dd had to go through this today. An absolute nightmare for all of you. I'm just glad that she is now home, safe and happily chatting away with you.

May I suggest that you try to record any conversations you have with the nursery tomorrow (put them on loud speaker and video record the call). What someone says over the phone to you and what is then documented by authorities are two different things.

And quite right, if you think this is a bogus thread report it, because if it isn't, this family have had enough to deal with today.

80sMum · 28/04/2014 19:20

My god, that's terrible. Don't they have to sign all the children out in the register? How could they not know your DD was still there?
Disgraceful negligence on the nursery's part.

Rainicorn · 28/04/2014 19:20

Your poor dd. Glad she seems ok.

IamInvisible · 28/04/2014 19:20

Gobbolino Everywhere I have worked we have checked the building before we left, and the children were marked off the register as they left with their parent/carer.

IamInvisible · 28/04/2014 19:21

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Itsfab · 28/04/2014 19:21

And you are troll hunting IamInvisable Hmm.

TheScience · 28/04/2014 19:21

Obviously that's what should have happened IamInvisible!

Forgettable · 28/04/2014 19:22

Nb for personal safety, staff might not give out home tel numbers.

SistersOfPercy · 28/04/2014 19:22

Considering the influx of 'interesting' posts on here today I'm not surprised people are asking more questions of the OP.

No offence OP if this is genuine, but it has been one of those days for threads that aren't quite what they seem.

Mckayz · 28/04/2014 19:22

If you do not believe it IamInvisible and Windchime then report and go away.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 28/04/2014 19:22

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VivaLeBeaver · 28/04/2014 19:23

Jesus. Really hope they take this seriously tomorrow.

FunnyFoot · 28/04/2014 19:23

Windchime
See my earlier post.

Waltermittythesequel · 28/04/2014 19:23

I am just Shock at this.

At ds's preschool all children are accompanied to the toilet.

DC are also personally handed over to parents and if the parent (or usual guardian) isn't there to collect, the collecting adult has to sign a form etc. etc.

Was your dd hysterical? My ds would have been terrified. Sad

upyourninja · 28/04/2014 19:23

This makes me feel sick to my stomach. What a bloody awful failure of care. Glad to hear your DD is handling it well.

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lookingfortheanswer · 28/04/2014 19:23

No alarm, or I guess not since it didn't go off. Although the caretaker let us in so I guess he knows the code anyway. All the doors have codes and I wasn't paying attention.

Nobody else could have picked her up, we live an hour and a half from family. I didn't immediately presume she was inside, I presumed she was somewhere with a member of staff or there had been an emergency, but with no missed calls and nobody to contact.

I am going to write things down once she's in bed, good idea.

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Aeroflotgirl · 28/04/2014 19:23

Omg that is absolutely disgusting. Yes Ofstead, police, Lea. I would also demand a meeting with tge manager, and never send her back. Poor dd stupid people, do tgey not check before going home!

Forgettable · 28/04/2014 19:24

People please, if you have doubts do hit that report button. Don't hunt on thread. Please.

Thanks.

riskit4abiskit · 28/04/2014 19:24

Your poor dd. Hope you're all feeling ok now.

FatalCabbage · 28/04/2014 19:25

I can see how a 2yo might play a hiding game, or get very absorbed in something under a table - we've so far assumed she was in the toilet when the staff locked up, but she might have been elsewhere and gone for a wee later.

Sometimes toddlers are absolutely oblivious to the danger they've been in Confused

icanneverremember · 28/04/2014 19:25

I honestly think this should also be reported to the police. Leaving such a young child on their own is a criminal offense. They may also have some good advice for you. I would call 101.

trixymalixy · 28/04/2014 19:25

Shock your poor DD, she must have been terrified. Thank God she is safe!!

ContinentalKat · 28/04/2014 19:25

That is truly shocking! Please report to Ofsted and LEA before you go into your meeting tomorrow.
I was successfully talked down after a serious safeguarding issue and regret not having kicked up a bigger fuss!

frignorant · 28/04/2014 19:26

Why did you think your child was in the shuttered/locked up nursery? Didn't the caretaker have a number of other key holders, such as the nursery manager?

I don't know why posters are suggesting the police, no crime has been committed. This is more a matter for Ofsted to deal with.