To tell HT about Phone porn in year 6?

[CuntyBunty]

Another parent mentioned that a pupil in year six was showing other children porn on their smart phone, but had only heard rumours and didn't know who it was.

I then grilled DS who is in year six, who, along with his yr 6 friend who was there during the grilling, unfortunately, confirmed the rumours as true.
The lad in question is showing stuff to other pupils, or telling them xxxx is a good website to go on. They apparently type it in and are faced with porn.
I'd like to inform the head teacher, as in give her the information and then move on. I am more than capable of sorting my own boy out, having explained the consequences of porn use when I grilled him. He doesn't have a phone, so I know he hasn't done anything wrong, however, I don't want him grilled further at school, or to be made to feel bad just for knowing about it.
Do I email the head? Give her a ring? Mention the name or not? I'm not angry, or anything; I just don't want this stuff to be so pernicious especially amongst 11 year olds.

Yep, report

Either ring or email. She needs to know and deal with it. Not all parents will deal with it at home, or may not find out - or may not even care.
We had a slightly different issue with smartphones and the head sat down with the whole year group to discuss the issue and dealt with the originator's parents

Definitely report.

Definitely report. It's a child protection issue in my opinion.

Totally agree. Speak to HT so nothing is left out and they have the opportunity to ask you questions immediately without the delay of email. And yes, of course give names - how will they find out the root cause of this otherwise ? The ball's then in the school's court and they can make the appropriate investigations and take action as necessary - including maybe, re: child protection issues. I'm sure they'll take into consideration your son's position - can't imagine he'd be grilled about it, or made to feel bad by any of the staff.

no question really tell them

It is a child protection issue you should report it just as you would if you knew about any other form of child abuse at school.

They will have a process in place for dealing with this issue.

Same issue here but even younger - Year 5. And in two different all-girls schools (the one I work in and the one my own DDs go to). I blame the older brothers

I was SHOCKED that my 9 year old had seen that stuff. It was pretty hard core. Awful. You can't un-see it. Her poor little innocent 9 year old eyes.... not so innocent any more.

Dealing with it was one of the hardest parenting challenges so far. I wanted to help her understand that that stuff was not real, those are not the expectations, that a physical relationship between two consenting grown ups is a normal part of life, what she had seen was not natural and not normal. There were a lot of tears. She was pretty messed up.

The Head needs to know and will hopefully inform other parents. These kids should not be seeing this stuff in a vacuum. They need guidance and support.

yes, definitely!
how did he get mobile provider to get 18+ websites approved on his mobile?
was it a hand down one?

Why the hell have they got these phones in school at all. This is primary!
Speak to Ht she will need to know.

I don't know how he got the sites up. I don't think any less of the "perpetrator", he's still only an 11 year kid who doesn't know the true consequences of his actions. Yet.

Thank you for all your responses. I'm going to give the school a ring now. Not really looking forward to the conversation, but hey.

Absolutely report it. Definitely needs to be dealt with in school and HT needs to be aware this is going on amongst the Year 6's incase any other issues arise.

I would report. Well done for ringing.

What was the outcome, CB?

I had this conversation at the weekend too. Maybe we have kids at the same school!

REPORT!! I was taught watching porn isn't wrong as long as it's not illegal (and got told what illegal stuff was, I was about 13/14 then and my mum took it really well!) but parents, 9 times out of 10, don't want their kids watching porn! Definitely report!

I spoke to the receptionist who is really professional and she said she'd pass it on to the head and to the year six teachers.

Are you in the South West, UC?

Hi CB. Yes, I am.... Maybe we have just outed eachother!!

Why on earth are these children allowed phones in class?

My teacher friend's school have a strict prohibition on phones throughout the day.

If she spots anyone using a phone in class she confiscates the phone! She has a drawer full of them.

Report. The parents of said child should be done for neglect. There is no reason why they can't block porn on their child's smart phone.

I'm so worried about ds being exposed to this sort of thing, especially at such a young age.

I think the 11 year old is more than old enough to know what he is doing is very, very wrong. I would be furious if one of my kids behaved like that.

It is also the fault of the parents. It's so easy to prevent this happening. You can totally block internet access if you aren't capable of setting up the phone correctly.

I find this type of thing shocking and I find the lackadaisical attitude of some parents scary.

Cunty and UC I'm in the southwest too.

DD is in Y6 but lives in a bubble and doesn't notice these things happening around her

I hope this isn't rife in the SW

I don't think it's a particularly SW related issue Iorek....

But I think possibly I may have actually been the person the OP was talking to at the weekend!

Glad you phoned the school they will deal with it

, maybe the other kids parents didn't know he was looking at porn it is not neglect it is a silly boy looking at porn which he shouldnt be doing, but the things kids look at these days is easily accesible I do agree parents should be more internet aware,

I had a similar thing happen to me a couple of weeks ago.

Was reading a thread and then realised it was my friend. I never thought it would happen, recognising someone in RL