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To tell HT about Phone porn in year 6?

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CuntyBunty · 28/04/2014 10:36

Another parent mentioned that a pupil in year six was showing other children porn on their smart phone, but had only heard rumours and didn't know who it was.

I then grilled DS who is in year six, who, along with his yr 6 friend who was there during the grilling, unfortunately, confirmed the rumours as true.
The lad in question is showing stuff to other pupils, or telling them xxxx is a good website to go on. They apparently type it in and are faced with porn.
I'd like to inform the head teacher, as in give her the information and then move on. I am more than capable of sorting my own boy out, having explained the consequences of porn use when I grilled him. He doesn't have a phone, so I know he hasn't done anything wrong, however, I don't want him grilled further at school, or to be made to feel bad just for knowing about it.
Do I email the head? Give her a ring? Mention the name or not? I'm not angry, or anything; I just don't want this stuff to be so pernicious especially amongst 11 year olds.

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AreWeThereYeti · 28/04/2014 13:17

I actually think that it is very neglectful to give something to your child which allows him free access to hardcore porn. No normal person would leave a stash of hardcore porn mags in their kids bedroom would they?

It's not the same as looking the type of seedy mags that were about when I was a teen, it's much, much more harmful.

It is also largely preventable if only parents could be arsed to put a little research into it. Unfortunately, parents don't bother and seem to think that because everyone does it there is nothing they can do.

Yes, I am judging!

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CuntyBunty · 28/04/2014 13:31

I think we have just outed one anothe UC. You keep my dirty secrets and I'll keep yours Wink

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CuntyBunty · 28/04/2014 13:34

Well, they made a mistake (the parents), Yeti, I know the mum of the boy who has been putting it about. She's lovely and she'll be horrified. She definitely isn't negligent and I really feel for her. I'm sure she won't make the same mistake again. It must be great to be perfect and never do anything stupid.

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UC · 28/04/2014 13:50

He he CB!! I promise that I will not go and look up all your previous threads!! I debated whether to say anything when I thought, oh I think I know who that is, but decided it was better that you know I'd realised - gives us both the opportunity to name change if we want!

I also don't think it's negligent, just very unfortunate. What actually matters now is how it is dealt with.

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CuntyBunty · 28/04/2014 14:00

All you need to do is look me up on the Sociopath thread: 70%, so you better give me a wide berth....

I reckon you had me marked out to do the interrogation/ head teacher thing because I am gobby and have no shame, you bag!

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UC · 28/04/2014 14:02

Blimey. When I next see you, don't be surprised if I run away then!!!!

sashh · 28/04/2014 14:12

I don't know how he got the sites up. I don't think any less of the "perpetrator", he's still only an 11 year kid who doesn't know the true consequences of his actions. Yet

Unfortunately that is not what the law says. And I genuinely mean that, an 11 year old IMHO should not be treated as an adult in law, this is something the school/parents should be able to sort.

AreWeThereYeti · 28/04/2014 14:50

CuntyBunty. I never said I was perfect Blush ??? but I do think its really stupid of parents to allow kids free access to the internet? Don't you? There has to come a point where parents have to take some responsibility.

If you let your kids have smart phones then you have to find a way to limit what your young kids look at. If you can't be bothered then you are putting your kids AND other people's kids at risk of seeing really nasty things.

WhoAteAllTheEasterEggs · 28/04/2014 14:59

I've got a yr6 boy. I'd absolutely want it reporting if there was someone in his class going around showing stuff like that!!

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CuntyBunty · 28/04/2014 15:47

But Yeti I am not tech savvy, have put safe mode into DSs new phone and now he can't access Instagram and some of his games, so if restricted mode is this cast iron, it's a bit too all or nothing, isn't it?

The other mum might be less tech savvy than her son, as I am mine.

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ComposHat · 28/04/2014 17:33

They've seen some people fucking on a tiny screen. Not ideal but not the end of the world. Is it any different that when we'd find an abandoned wank mag in a hedge on the way home?

It is silly juvenile and inappropriate but I don't think it warrants the kind of reaction. (Do the parents for child neglect!!! Their poor innocent eyes!) that it has garnered here.

A word with the school is all this really needs.

Mintyy · 28/04/2014 17:37

It is very different to the wank mags we might have found under a hedge ComposHat. Interesting that your opinion is out of kilter with everyone else on this thread.

UC · 28/04/2014 17:56

Actually Compo's view isn't that out of kilter with mine. It isn't neglect on the parents' part, IMO, it's naivity maybe. It is silly and juvenile, and needs discussion with the children ie. educational about forcing anyone to do anything, that this doesn't reflect the reality of adult relationships etc.

AreWeThereYeti · 28/04/2014 18:00

Cunty. Depending on the phone, network and any parental controls you have there will be ways to sort out your sons phone so that it allows Instagram and whichever games you don't mind him playing.
I used to use a program that logged every site my kids visited. I didn't check that often but they knew I could if I wanted.

The info on how to install parental controls should be easy to find if you search online. There will also be info on your mobile network providers website. OFCOM gives some useful info here

I can give advice on IPhones but not on other phones.

If all the kids could see was naked people and a bit of bonking it wouldn't be such a problem. Unfortunately the problem is that there is a lot of extremly disgusting stuff.

I'm looking forward to the day when you have to opt in to be able to access porn.

ComposHat · 28/04/2014 18:46

Care to say why mintyy instrad on making snide comments?

Mintyy · 28/04/2014 19:42

Snide?

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 28/04/2014 19:54

how did he get mobile provider to get 18+ websites approved on his mobile?

Mobile providers cannot block adult content on phones. More than one bog standard internet browser (Opera/Chrome)will bypass any filtering system they have (or that you may put in place). not maliciously, just because that is the way the browser works.

Mrsjayy · 28/04/2014 19:59

the mags that you found in a hedge Hmm are different what a child can see on the internet i said this on another thread but my friends son was looking at some vile porn on YOU TUBE she thought she had the settings high she learned she hadn't

Caitlin17 · 28/04/2014 20:03

For us benighted Jocks living in Jockland can you use ages? Please? Pretty please ?

9,11, 95 is shorter to type than "year six" anyway.

Assuming year 6 is somewhere between 6 and 18 YANBU to be concerned and want to do something.

Squeegle · 28/04/2014 20:04

How do I block porn on a Samsung galaxy? That's what my son has.

Mrsjayy · 28/04/2014 20:05

I magine it is the same as on a computer you go through the browser and then block from their

Mrsjayy · 28/04/2014 20:06

year 6 is primary 5 age so 9/10

Caitlin17 · 28/04/2014 20:06

Actually can I change that from 6 to 15 years and 364 days. After that it's not your problem. Except of course you can stop paying for a phone.

Caitlin17 · 28/04/2014 20:09

Actually can I change that from 6 to 15 years and 364 days. After that it's not your problem. Except of course you can stop paying for a phone.

BehindLockNumberNine · 28/04/2014 20:15

Year 6 in England is age 10 /11