To tell HT about Phone porn in year 6?

[CuntyBunty]

Another parent mentioned that a pupil in year six was showing other children porn on their smart phone, but had only heard rumours and didn't know who it was.

I then grilled DS who is in year six, who, along with his yr 6 friend who was there during the grilling, unfortunately, confirmed the rumours as true.
The lad in question is showing stuff to other pupils, or telling them xxxx is a good website to go on. They apparently type it in and are faced with porn.
I'd like to inform the head teacher, as in give her the information and then move on. I am more than capable of sorting my own boy out, having explained the consequences of porn use when I grilled him. He doesn't have a phone, so I know he hasn't done anything wrong, however, I don't want him grilled further at school, or to be made to feel bad just for knowing about it.
Do I email the head? Give her a ring? Mention the name or not? I'm not angry, or anything; I just don't want this stuff to be so pernicious especially amongst 11 year olds.

Och i did mean 10/11

Year 6 in England is 10/11, not 9/10.

And for the poster who asked why they were allowed phones in class, I don't suppose they are, but short of searching every child's bag/pockets every morning, you can't really prevent a child sneaking one in. At the school I work at phones are handed in in the morning and collected at the end of the day, but children often 'forget'...

Squeegle. Who is your mobile network provider?

Thanks, Yeti and everyone else for their input.

My concern re all of this, is that "you can't unring a bell", in that, once it's out there, seen or heard, you can't go back; it's in your head.
As I said to DS and his mate, when grilling them, real women and real sex is not like porn. Porn could mess with their expectations, mess up their sex lives and distort their view of women. They don't need that stuff in their head at any age.

Well I think you've done the best thing and explained the difference between reality and porn. Along with a quiet word with the teacher, that is probably all it needs.

My concern re all of this, is that "you can't unring a bell", in that, once it's out there, seen or heard, you can't go back; it's in your head.

To be honest keeping children away from sexualised images of women is nigh on impossible. They'll have already been exposed to images of women being objectified on bill boards, page three of the Sun and music videos and TV adverts. I'd be more worried about them shaping attitudes to gender and sex they are far more widespread and insidious than outright pornography.

That's funny, because I did sneak in an "it objectifies women" during the lecture/ inquisition. DS reckoned it also must objectify men, if any men are in it too. I gave him a really rubbish comeback, telling him that the women will have to be attractive in porn, whereas the men don't. I didn't really know how to refute that.

Your son is right, cunty

Porn objectifies everyone ...the damage it does is not solely confined to women

Just in case anyone is interested... (I have posted this before)

If your kids have IPhones or IPads running Ios7 then the following info tells you how to block inappropriate material. You can tailor it to the age of your child.

BLOCKING ADULT WEB CONTENT (ie porn and stuff)

Even if you have decent controls on your home network and it's worth following the info in the following THIS LINK This feature is even more important if your child has a 3G device or accesses the internet via networks with no controls.

PREVENTING CHILDREN FROM BEING ABLE TO DELETE THEIR BROWSING HISTORY . (I love this feature)

SETTINGS >>>> GENERAL. >>> RESTRICTIONS >>> your PIN NUMBER >>>> WEBSITES >>> then tick LIMIT ADULT CONTENT

You can also limit whether they can add new apps/music/videos etc or you can specify what age ratings you will allow. The photo shows all the things you have control over.

This removes the option to delete the history of which websites your child has visited. For younger children you can specify which websites you DC can visit and prevent them from visiting any other sites at all. You can find this option by doing the following

SETTINGS >>>> GENERAL. >>> RESTRICTIONS >>> your PIN NUMBER >>>> WEBSITES >>> then tick SPECIFIC WEBSITES ONLY this will allow you to specify which websites can and can't be visited.

I think phones should be banned at school, kept secure until hometime.
Children can be checked, it stopped dc carrying knives at my ds1 school.
Perhaps people are more bothered about knives, but yes, a school could have a zero tolerance to porn if they wanted to.

Why do they need smart phones so young? Yes, 11 seems a bit young to be fantasizing about sex. But it seems like it's more about immaturity than anything else. When I was 12, sex and how to have it was all kids were talking about in school. The kids need to know that it's not appropriate to spread that stuff around, if not for moral reasons the fact that it's 18+ on those sites.

Schools here are already installing a legal version of cell phone jammers in buildings (and getting caught with illegal ones).

That's funny, because I did sneak in an "it objectifies women" during the lecture/ inquisition. DS reckoned it also must objectify men

But then the images in mainstream pornography are produced primarily for the gratification of heterosexual men. The woman's body is the main event.

Cunty
K9 has been adapted for phones now including the samsung galaxy.

I use it on my laptop but not tried it on my phone. You set up the different content that it will/will not allow. If a website is blocked you can over ride the block with a pass word either for a few mins while you check it out or give permanent access. The key is that you have the password your ds must not (that includes you typing it in his presence).

The link is to K9, but at the bottom of the screen are other parental control apps

play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.bluecoat.k9.android

compos I think you are being exceptionally naive about the type of porn that's readily available on the internet these days. It is nothing like the old magazines.

A lot of porn these days is apparently about degrading women as much as possible. I read an interview win school children where most of them were saying they'd been exposed to things like bestiality.

I am not sure that all the phone sharing was happening at school. From what I heard a lot of it was happening out of school. Then it really is down to parental input & discussion. With school in the know and supporting.