About use of "done". 10 year old DS thinks I am a loon

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So. I can just about cope with the use of "epic" and "awesome" every other word (though I have told DS the correct meaning of both and suggested he may wish to consider using them in their original sense in his writing.).

But AIBU to be so cross at the grammatically incorrect use of "done" as in

"Today at school, we done science"
"I done my homework already".

I have pointed out to DS that it is "did" or "have done" or possibly even "finished", "completed" or "carried out" or a variety of other synonyms depending on the context. He sighs. Possibly because I point this out EVERY time he done* it which makes for somewhat stilted conversation.

He says that "everyone" else uses "done" in his way (and thinks I am a loon although thankfully it seems I have done something right and he realises this would not be a good thing to actually say to me).

So AIBU?

• deliberate incorrect use before 25353787879 people point this out

My ds has no choice,he uses "did" within our four walls or he doesn't eat.

What he says when with his mates is his business. In the house it's mine.

Surely, the chance to be utterly pedantic is one of the main reasons for becoming a parent? I have been assuming so and looking forward to the idea.

I had 'friends grammar', 'parents grammar' and 'teacher grammar'. I think this neatly set me up for a life of being able to fit in almost anywhere. Innit?

He wouldn't have houseroom round my way if he said that more than once ! DD (aged 4) occasionally lapses into baby talk and says 'want to go bathroom' or whatever, for which she gets very short shrift. But mine and DH's jobs are to be pedantic about words and grammar, so she's lucked out there.

I am with you. Shudder. Just be the cop. He will thank you when he's older and always stand firm on the assertion that 'everyone else does it'.

My DS shrieks out the word "sick" a lot esp when he is playing the x box - drives me potty!

YANBU, but it's so common these days, even in written English :(. I tell my 11 year old off for saying them instead of those, but I don't think that's as bad as done and seen.

my lot quickly learned that the "everyone else" argument just did not wash with me is EVERYONE ELSE my child?

He's plenty old enough to manage the differences between home and school...keep up the good work OP

DS now 13 used done until the last year...it drove me mad but there was no point banging on about it.

Keep being fussy. He will know what to say eventually (probably already knows and is just trying to be irksome).

By the way, if we are having a moan about people's grammar, I would quibble with your use of "thankfully". (Please have fun correcting my grammar and punctuation.)

YANBU, DH and I are just as pedantic with the DDs. We do not tolerate 'I done', 'I weren't' or any of that nonsense. The rule is that they can speak in any way they like when they are with their friends, but in the house grammar must be correct at all times.

Keep it up!
I'm a teacher at secondary school, the students in Yr 11 have mock interviews. Those students who can speak properly using the correct tense etc perform so much better that those who don't.
You can tell which children get reminded at home how to speak properly.
Dropping "the" is my bugbear, "can I go toilet?"

I get very annoyed by teenage family members using 'dat' instead of 'that' in texts e.g 'yeah, dats cool'. It's not even an abbreviation! There is no 'd' in 'that'!.

I nagged my ds so much apparently he now corrects his friends' grammar..
But I do think "done" has become acceptable - certainly up here many adults use it instead of "did"

jesus you are so NBU

DH says it very occasionally and i cringe

YANBU!!! If you stand in the European Elections I will vote for you!

Two examples that really annoy me are, "I'm done" meaning "I've finished."
Also, "Can I have a toilet?"

You may go to the toilet, you may not have it.

Hold on to your standards he will get there in the end.

I had exactly this kind of issue ( we was / I won him ) when DC were at primary school.
I never, ever let it go uncorrected and it paid off in the end.
When DS2 was 14 and heard someone say "we was going...." he said "Mum, I now feel your pain"
Of course I now have two other pedants in the house, but never mind.

I have a very close adult friend who's 'done' it. Her kids do as well. She's very very lovely in every other way.

'I won him' ??

Christ alive.

The one that gets me is 'versed' as in Manchester United versed Chelsea'. Arrrgh.

sat vs I'm sitting is one I've been pondering over lately.

It seems to me that 'sat' is a valid expression because it is different from 'I'm sitting'.

Sat implies a dissatisfaction with the situation, whereas sitting is more neutral.

I've been sat here waiting for you (how annoying for me to be held up waiting for you to get here.)

I've been sitting here waiting for you (I haven't been standing or walking. This sentence draws attention to the seatedness rather than the waiting).

so, despite being a card-carrying pedant myself, I shall defend my right (and everyone else's, for that matter) to use sat when they mean to imply being fed up with whatever it is they are sat there doing, or wish to emphasise the other action in the sentence over the being seated there.

ShakeYourTailFeathers yes that one started as soon as they went to the local village primary.
Whenever DS1 said "I won him in a race"
I would reply with "Shall we display him on the mantelpiece then?"