About use of "done". 10 year old DS thinks I am a loon

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So. I can just about cope with the use of "epic" and "awesome" every other word (though I have told DS the correct meaning of both and suggested he may wish to consider using them in their original sense in his writing.).

But AIBU to be so cross at the grammatically incorrect use of "done" as in

"Today at school, we done science"
"I done my homework already".

I have pointed out to DS that it is "did" or "have done" or possibly even "finished", "completed" or "carried out" or a variety of other synonyms depending on the context. He sighs. Possibly because I point this out EVERY time he done* it which makes for somewhat stilted conversation.

He says that "everyone" else uses "done" in his way (and thinks I am a loon although thankfully it seems I have done something right and he realises this would not be a good thing to actually say to me).

So AIBU?

• deliberate incorrect use before 25353787879 people point this out

I'm fine with use of slang - 'sick', 'bare', etc - that changes the meaning of words and makes them fresh and interesting. I hate poor grammar: dropping 'the', 'should of', 'done science' or using the wrong tense. These sound ignorant and uneducated and will hold the children back.

""Went," as in "the cat went miaow," is popular here. DD will not get away with it at home, even if she does with her friends.

I've picked up a few localisms, largely because I was picked on at school for being "posh," but even at the age of 33 I speak more carefully in front of my parents.

My pet hates, I done it and I seen it.

No you didn't.

I'm not British, and a lot of British people i meet every day wouldn't pass a secondary school English test... In Lithuania.
The phrases that kill me:
"I has..."
"I likes..."

Then there's the omitted verb before or after never.

I phoned you yesterday.
No you never!

Horrible.

Ooh yes, loathe, loathe LOATHE it! The problem is my DC's keyworkers at nursery talk like that so when I correct them, they will say 'But X says that!'

I have fed back to the nursery that although I think they are brilliant in every other way, these speech patterns are becoming entrenched and it isn't a helpful way to prepare kids for school. No result. And now my DH says I am a snob....

I was kind of hoping that this would fall away when they started primary as I didn't think teachers would talk like that!

I can remember coming home from play group having learned the word "ta" from the dinner ladies. My father was most unimpressed.

My friend is 26. Her last text message to me read "can ah come ova 2 get ma bike iff ur in?" I despair! It's not even English.

But Bertie, it would be perfectly correct in American English to answer the question " have you done your homework?" with "I did it already" (ugly, but correct nonetheless).

I feel your pain op. I have an adult friend who makes similar use of the word lent.

I "lent" this skirt from Jane.

No. You BORROWED the skurt from Jane or Jane LENT you the skirt.

Aaaarrrgghhhh.

There are some places in this country I just could not live, the way of speaking would finish me off - and I'm from South Shields , but I love some 'local language', even though it's gramatically incorrect and I agree that whilst some terms are irritating ('sick' etc) we pretty much all said something like that as children/young teens - when I was young it was 'cool'

Some of these are just awful though...

We went cinema
A toilet
Like (being said every third word)

... and the teacher that says 'we was' or even worse 'today the children was doing...' Gahhhhhhhh

I agree with Nutella re sat though, I will defend to the hilt. 'I was sat there like a lemon waiting for you!' shows an annoyance that 'I was sitting there...' just does not. Language evolves and if it's evolving to have greater meaning then it's good with me

YANBU. I don't think we were ever guilty of "I done it" because I can clearly remember my mother commenting on other children that "done it" ... we had it proactively beaten out of us.

Another one was "yous". "Are yous coming to the movies?" I clearly remember mum LOSING HER SHIT in 1991 because she thought she heard DSis saying it. (DSis denied til she was blue in the face).

When DD was about 12 she uttered the immortal sentence " And then they went and gone and did " .
Broke so many rules of speech that it has entered the family phrases of amazement .
But I get very irritated by the use of robbed as in " I robbed it from him"
"Please may I have an Americano ?" Is good. "Can I get an Americano ?"
makes we want to say " well,yes, you probably can get an Americano if you ask properly !

Grr DH says "I was sat" when he means "I was sitting" - grrrrrr

Other one I hate is "Do" as in "Have you any cheese?" "Yes, I do"

AARGH NO you mean you have we are NOT Americans - well not in the UK (mostly)

I remember a chap who was in the Forces during the Second World War joking about having had three men in his unit called Bean, Gawne, and Dunnett!

YANBU

Does anyone have any ideas how to educate dh into the correct use of "brought" and "bought" because I cannot bear his misuse of them every single time...

I am currently having this slow and steady battle with my Y5class.

The best so far is 'I've done!' Shouted to me (as in: I've finished my work). My class get met with 'you've done what?' Or usually 'no your not' occasionally I'll just keep saying 'did' at them till they twig.

• I brought it at the shop
• No you brought it from the shop. You bought it & then you brought it. Unless you stole it

Hmm, I've been correcting him for 14 years... not sure that one will be enough!

Bought and brought - can you tell your DH that "bought" is related to "buy", which has no r in it?

Will try, I think he can't be bothered to work it out - grrr

Reading with interest for how to handle this. All DH's family (including DH) seem to be unable to use 'did' or 'were' e.g. 'I done it' or 'we was going to...' Drives me potty. Obviously I correct DH every time but it does spoil the conversation somewhat. And how am I suppose to teach our children to speak like their mother and not their father?

I hate done.
Bit uncomfortable correcting it the other day in DD, when PIL were there who use it, but it grates on me so much I still had to do it.

witchway I can't see what is wrong with 'Yes I do' (have some cheese)

Bring & Brought (buy and bought no r's)... but Random, it just sounds like he doesn't care to remember and I'm not sure you can make him :( I feel your pain it may have been a contributing factor to one ex being an ex