About use of "done". 10 year old DS thinks I am a loon

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So. I can just about cope with the use of "epic" and "awesome" every other word (though I have told DS the correct meaning of both and suggested he may wish to consider using them in their original sense in his writing.).

But AIBU to be so cross at the grammatically incorrect use of "done" as in

"Today at school, we done science"
"I done my homework already".

I have pointed out to DS that it is "did" or "have done" or possibly even "finished", "completed" or "carried out" or a variety of other synonyms depending on the context. He sighs. Possibly because I point this out EVERY time he done* it which makes for somewhat stilted conversation.

He says that "everyone" else uses "done" in his way (and thinks I am a loon although thankfully it seems I have done something right and he realises this would not be a good thing to actually say to me).

So AIBU?

• deliberate incorrect use before 25353787879 people point this out

Not quite the same but on another forum (MSE) there is a board for eBay questions or discussions.

Often someone will post "I sold this and now the seller is saying it arrived broken" or "I bought this and it's missing a bit now the buyer has said they won't replace it"

NO.

If you sell something you are the seller.
If you buy something you are the buyer.

It's really easy when you think about it.

If I worked in somewhere like a shop or restaurant and someone said "Can I get X?" I'd be heavily tempted to answer "Certainly, it's over there, feel free to go and get it."

ocelot41 this would fall away when they started primary as I didn't think teachers would talk like that
It's likely that even if the teacher doesn't speak like that the rest of the staff will, and the other children will. That is how my DC started to pick up bad habits.
It took years of correcting them every single time, but I got there in the end. I would say by the time they started secondary school they were as pedantic as me speaking correctly. That's not to say we don't all have a local accent, but that's different IMO.

My kids have a strong London accent. We are not Londoners, and it is a bit strange, but we are fine with it (no reason to give the children a complex about it). But "I done X" doesn't get the same treatment. I am not nearly as sensitive to grammar as some above appear to be, but I want my children to know how to write and speak correctly. it's too big a disadvantage if they can't.

When DD was about 12 she uttered the immortal sentence " And then they went and gone and did " .
Broke so many rules of speech that it has entered the family phrases of amazement

Trumpton I think you could excuse that as creative writing. I will look for an opportunity to use it.

I once worked with a teacher who refused to allow his (primary) pupils to use get/got. As far as he was concerned they were meaningless and there was always a better word to use.

But what do you do when it's your adult children who consistently use the incorrect word? My pet hate is the misuse of amount and number and fewer and less. I can't keep correcting them, can I?

I'm the same with my DCs. My grammar isn't perfect by any means but I'm trying to teach my DCs to speak properly. I don't mind them using slang, I use it and have since I was little, but I don't let them away with bad grammar.

It drives me nuts when my DSD an nieces ask me if I can "learn them to knit/cook/bake something". My dd1 asked me to "learn her to knit" when she was 4. It was the first and last time a I corrected her as I couldn't stand having to listen to it for the next ten years.

When I was at school everyone always asked to "go for the toilet" it was like nails on a chalkboard and I always remember my year 3 teacher sending them back to their chair then come back and ask correctly.

The revised teachers standards have a specific one relating to the correct use of spoken English. Pity so many would fail it, including our Deputy Head! I wince everytime he says " frew" for "through" or uses "yes, you may go toilet". agggghhhh!

when i younger.... my friends (not i, who had a grandmother who would cut off my tongue if she caught me saying done instead of did) used the word "din" as a sort of hybrid, not sure if it's just our local accent but i hear adults hear using it as well.

"I et all my lunch. The dinner lady said I could go out to play if I et all my lunch."

"I've et it."

No, you ate all your lunch or you have eaten it.

We have an ongoing battle with my DCs dropping 'the' but we're in Yorkshire so most of their class are the same as they haven't quite managed to work out how to say "close t' door" so it comes out as "close door". It's hard when a dialect has things like this as they will inevitably speak with the dialect but I try to teach them the correct way to speak/write as its a skill that many DCs that I know don't have and they then write how they speak.

I'm another that had 'school/written grammar', 'home grammar' and 'friends grammar'. I'm trying to do the same with my DCs.

In Scotland it's common to replace why with how.

"Can I go out to play, please?"
"No."
"How not?"

Drives me insane. Along with "I done" and "I seen".

I sent my three children to Millfield,(brutal to the finances though it continues to be) I will never have to go through any of that nonsense.

Ooh, would someone like to come and talk to my PILs?

They are forever telling dd1 to "learn dd2 to do that"

Or giving her something and telling her not to "loss it"

Or saying "You've ate your dinner"

"I'm sat here"

"He's fell over"

And in yesterday's rain storm they were "drowned" so today they're staying in or they'll "drowned."

Argh! My lips are bleeding from biting them.

In yesterday's

'We was' is another.

You must hold the line, redsky.

In yesterday's rain storm they were "drownded".

Even my phone won't allow it.

At school one of or teachers wouldn't let us use the toilet if we asked "Can I go to the toilet?"

He would reply " I'm sure you can. But you may not. Unless you mean may I go to the toilet."

LouSend ... catch!.... My Mum says a lot of those too - as well as 'itch' when she means 'scratch'

Thank you.

Yes 'itch' is another. And 'et', as in "I've et me dinner"

And 'anaal' as in "we went to the market and our Barbara came anaal."

And everyone is 'our'. Even dd1 gets annoyed with that one.

And there are more. But my bp is rising so it's time to

take deep breaths.

And 'ta' (thankyou)

'tarrah' (goodbye)

And pussie (cat) and dicky (bird). I've asked them not to. I've explained that language has moved on. That these words have different, less socially acceptable, meanings these days. THEY. DO. NOT. LISTEN.

Lou - You'd love my Mum

I like 'Our Sarah' though, it just seems so 'cosy' :)

My northern roots shine through sometimes - ta and tarrah don't seem so bad to me, though not things I say often. I do miss being called 'pet' by the older generation though.

Hmm - pussy cat & dicky bird too...(& horsey/doggie) though they only slip out occasionally, but maybe I should still be shot! Hilariously I have never thought of those two together - they seem even more unseemly when said together

Oh and only ever all said to 'toddlers' which is good in some ways and worse in others... I know, I know....

At school one of or teachers wouldn't let us use the toilet if we asked "Can I go to the toilet?"

This can I/may I really irritates me in an inverted snob way. My husband exaggeratedly says "Maaaay I have the blah blah di dah" in restaurants. Yes, I know it's strictly correct. But I dislike the affectedness of it. I also dislike "It was I" and similar, which although technically correct belongs in normal speech in the same way as a tomato belongs in a fruit salad. Poncyness for the sake of it. Nothing wrong with informal speech.

and then they went and gone and did actually makes.perfect sense to me
Ta, taraa and ta muchly are used by all locals round here so doesn't.figure on my arsiness radar. However the use of 'baa lamb' and 'moo cow' drives me nuts. Thats not motherese, it's just ridiculous and a sure fire way of confusing young children, because as soon as they're old enough to master baa lamb they're told it's called a sheep.

"And then they went and gone and did " is great.

It needs to be said wide-eyed in amazement in a tone of shock and horror at the terrible thing "they went and gone and did"