Conditions

[Fitz66]

That I can't agree to the condition that my Husbands wants and that is - I can't ask my kids [23 & 21]to go into our bedroom and get/put something in there for me as he doesn't want them in our bedroom "under any circumstances" as that's our private space. I understand that its not right for them to just walk in etc., but if I want them to get me something then they have my permission surely. But he's steadfast about it.

YANBU It is the family home!

Well we had talk and I told him that there was no way I was accepting that! Also, I said that'd I'd be putting some conditions down [not for kids] for our relationship to work! I told him that the kids were his own flesh and blood and that it was going too far.

Yes, he was OK about her relationship and said that it was her home?? and he has no problem with her coming back!

No gimp suit/chains!!!!!!!

Well done OP - it's your home too and your views count every bit as much as DHs.