Controlling or not?

[Joanne279]

After row with dh, he's told me I'm trying to control his behaviour when I asking him to talk to me with some respect?

Um, I don't see this as me controlling him, or am I? X

Oh dear. This sounds like my DH who claimed I was trying to "pressurise" him into changing his mind. Despite the fact that he had previously refused to discuss the matter.

Your DH sounds like he feels guilty about something.

YANBU! Respect is the least a couple should expect of each other - and willingly give.

we shouldn't comment on this, as we have no idea what your interpretaion of "with respect" means