to think this IS an acceptable lunch for an 8 year old?

[Helenagrace]

I'm helping a friend out today as she has twin 8 year old boys and she's moving house house tomorrow. I've had them since 8.30am and in my text last night I said I'd "drop them back before dinner - about 5.30?"

I've just given them lunch. They were offered: toast (with peanut butter, egg, pate (homemade mackerel) or cheese), oatcakes (with the same options), half a packet of crisps, tomato, cucumber and pepper, fruit and a piece of home-made chocolate and cherry brownie.

Both have had oatcakes with cheese (6 each) plus salad, a hard boiled egg, an orange, crisps and a piece of cake.

My friend rang to see if they were ok and she spoke to one of the boys. Then I get a text from her saying she's coming to pick them up as she "hadn't realised they wouldn't be getting a proper lunch". I sent a text back saying that we were eating our main meal in the evening and I thought they were too and I've just had the reply back "yes but that's not really much of a lunch is it?"

It's a perfectly acceptable lunch in my house. Does anyone want to ring social services and dob me in for starving my children?

All I'll say is if she ever returns the favour, send your DC to hers with plenty of oatcakes!

I guess you're joking, SuzzieScotland! I haven't eaten meat for nearly 25 years (since I was 12) and I'm taking a Masters' degree. 23 month old DD has never eaten meat, and she can count to 15 and regularly constructs 11+ word sentences.

That lunch sounds lovely anyway.

That is so bloody rude of her!

Sounds more than enough for a lunch
I wonder what their lunch normally consists of
She seems rather ungrateful and very over the top

Suzzie, that is one of the most ridiculous things I've read on mumsnet. I hope you're joking!

You should have told her they were offered but chose not to have bread!!! I would sent them home with her tbh. You shouldn't accept this sort of treatment from your friend.

Your friend was rude to let you know she didn't like the lunch option even if she felt that way.
Tbh I think it sounds like you threw a few random things together, but then everyone's tastes are different.

Sounds like a decent lunch to me,and its about what I would happily eat for mine.

Your friend is a bit thick and rude

Just to add my dd would not have eaten peanut butter, pate, egg, peppers or the cake. But that's her preference and shouldn't be over catered to if that's what's on offer, and I see plenty there for her to have had a descent lunch from even if it was crisps plain crackers and salad.

And if your DCs consider that much food a snack, they must be quite large, Janethegirl. It's a lot of food. My limit is about 4 oatcakes, when I'm really hungry.

If I was going to give my boys oatcakes as a snack, assuming it was Nairn's oatcakes, they'd get 1 or 2.

Jesus what an ungrateful cow.

When I read they had 6 oatcakes with cheese, salad, a hard boiled egg, an orange, crisps and a piece of cake, I thought you were going to say she was complaining about you over feeding them.

I genuinely couldn't eat that much in one sitting, so god knows why she thinks an 8yr old would be hungry after that lot.

Did she know they'd been offered toast (ie bread) but that they had opted for oatcakes instead?

My dcs wouldn't eat oatcakes, my DP is the only one to eat them. No, my dcs are not overweight, nor ever have been. I meant what the op offered would have been considered snack food, not that they'd eat the quantities offered. As I posted earlier, different pp obviously eat very differently from others. However my dcs would not have been rude about the food offered.

"Tbh I think it sounds like you threw a few random things together"

what, oatcakes, cheese, salad, fruit and cake? Whic bit doesn't go?

Can I just draw this to your attention

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2058885-not-feeding-meat-to-niece-and-nephew-when-they-stay-for-one-night?

Suzzie is clearly joking and having her own problems with very stupid people

Jane,

Do you warn people before your DC's go to lunch?

Sorry I was joking, half fuming about a comment fr bill anyway thats another thread

Suzzie, I hope you didn't mind me linking your thread. I just didn't want you to get piled on and roasted by anyone who did not realise

No, I don't warn people when my dcs go to lunch. They are polite and if hungry will eat what's on offer.

Why are people rising to Janethegirl's bait?

Op, your friend sounds unhinged. Since when did you need bread for a proper lunch?

It might not have been what she would have given the for lunch, but most people accept that when they go to someone else's, you get what you get.
What you offered was absolutely fine, and even if it had been a bit odd or small or whatever, it wouldn't be the end of the world and is just one of those things.
Children need to be taught that people eat different things and at different times to the way they might have meals at home.

Blimey. If someone looked after my kids all day while I moved house I'm not sure I'd care if they fed them deep fried pizza all day - they're doing you a massive favour, just be grateful and polite!

That's a great lunch, but I'd never complain about what DC are given to eat at a friends - esp if they were doing me a favour.

I only ask DC what they've eaten when out to judge what to give them for the next meal.

Make sure you take the sandwiches back and tell her they were too full to eat them.

They have eaten no meat, might impact their brain development if they don't have meat every meal.

You must be a vegan then.