to have let 5 year old dd take her top off at easter party because she was too hot?

[milkysmum]

Just that really. Went to an easter party at local club this evening. The place was really warm and all the children red in the face from running around playing games. Ds age 2 became cranky with the heat and took his top off and was much happier. A few of the girls dd's age had taken their tops off but had vests on. Dd asked to take hers off but had no vest on. I was fine with this. My sister who I was out with thought this was really inappropriate but couldn't really explain why. Dd was happy. She cooled off and then put her top back on later on. So was I being unreasonable as my sister seems to think?

Can't believe some people have said YABU, what a laugh! I wouldn't of looked twice. My ds is aged four, if he is hot, I take his top off, indoor play, parties, beach etc, he is a child and so is a girl at that age. People are very odd.

YANBU, i find it very strange that anyone would find it inappropriate, for whatever reason, she's only 5, let her be a child instead of constraining her with adult values.

YANBU. She is only 5! Very little, still.

I'd say yabu.

If i'm out with the dc and they're too warm (age 4 and 6) then we do something to cool down. Sit down and have a rest, get a drink, go outside and get some fresh air.

I wouldn't a 5 year old run around topless at a party/event. It's unnecessary IMO. Commpletely different to a baby/young toddler who sometimes you have to strip off because they're not old enough to reason with/explain how to get cool.

So glad that the vast majority of responses are sensible

YADNBU

Your 5 year old dd is a child - any "breach of etiquette" is in the minds of the beholder and is their problem. As you quite rightly say, why should her ds (or any other boy) be comfortable and she shouldn't be ?