to be sat in the living room in the dark hating DH?

[Wizardsleeveoh]

Hate is a strong emotion but I am fed up if it all.

I'm a SAHM to two lovely children but I am starting to resent DH for it all. He does nothing to help me and uses "I've been working all day" as his excuse. I completely lost it when I went downstairs in the morning and saw that he left a knife in the sink. I know it's only a knife but he couldn't be bothered to wash it so he kef t it for me to wash, despite knowing how stressful my mornings are.

He comes home to cooked meals, clean house and he never runs out of clothes. All this and my youngest is 3 weeks old. I have only peed once the whole day because DD is constantly attached to my breast.

I text DH to give me an hour to myself to be able to poo, shower and just sit with my own thoughts. He replied with "but I have things to sort out on my laptop".. So I waited to see the important things he needed to do. Only renaming fucking pictures!!!

I have had my shower etc but only because I brought DD in with me.

I hate being a SAHM for the reason that I have no adult interaction at all (recently moved so no friends or family here) and I'm doing the same things every dang day. nothing new or spontaneous. suicide is certainly an option bec and I've had enough, I can't even be fucking bothered to worry about spelling and grammar in this post

Sigh - I am sure if she rang the number she would be directed to 111.

Was thinking about you op.

Hope you're ok Wizard.

Wizard come back & let us know how you're doing when you get a sec. We all care....strange as that may sound about someone I have never met!

I can really really empathise with your situation so I'm thinking of you...

Xx

Hope you've had a better day Wiz

Wizard I want to give you a big unmumsnetty hug and help you out. I am so sorry he is such a bastard, you are doing an amazing job, and you have two lovely children and you can do it on your own if you need to.
Find your local surestart centre, they are fab, and have helped me greatly with my pnd, so I am sure they will help you out too. Ive also made great friends too

Gosh I live in Mexico and here traditionally the mother has everything done for her for the first forty days after a baby is born.

My Grandchild is 8 months old and my daughter had three people there to take the load off her shoulders. I totally feel for you. Is your husband a father or a sperm donor?

Thinking of you OP.

That's so shit. Once he is in the house you should be sharing the childcare. Don't ask just leave the kids with him and go shower or do whatever. He's being pathetic. Don't clean or cook. Looking after children is tough he needs to realise. Do not have another child with this man.

Thinking of you, wiz. Those first months are SO hard.

You asked for things to do: I went to the library as it was free and the librarians would entertain DD whilst I just enjoyed being out the house; walk! I went for long walks and breathed fresh air and took stock, thought things through, felt more like me; I took DD to book shops where they generally welcome little people and didn't mind if she yelled a bit.

Have you joined NCT where you are? I learnt crochet in the eves at a local class at the end of my pregnancy and went to little classes in the evening. Cheap and a great way to get out of the house for a few hours.

I hope you're feeling better.

How are you doing today Wizard?