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to want to give this family the money?

67 replies

thepolymysticovary · 17/04/2014 16:04

Dp and I are away. There is a mum staying in the guest house with her two boys. We haven't talked apart from exchanging hellos in the breakfast room. The mother is single and works three jobs to provide for her family but barely is able to cover the bills. I know this as she was talking to another mum and dad staying.

Now this afternoon the mum and her boys were sat in the lounge and the boys were asking if they can take a trip on the boat. It just goes out in the sea for half hour for 2 each. The mum said that they only had enough spends left for dinner and the train home so they couldn't. She got her purse out to see if she had any extra but she didn't. The boys accepted this but the look of disappointment on the little ones face was so sad.

So i would like to just give the mum the money to take her kids out. It's only 6 and we have holiday money left so won't miss it. Besides, we are leaving later so we don't need it. I just remember when i was little and my mum didn't have money to do things like that.

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thepolymysticovary · 17/04/2014 16:06

I don't know why my pound signs came out as question marks!

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PollyCazaletWannabe · 17/04/2014 16:08

I would. Go for it OP :)

whatadrama · 17/04/2014 16:09

Would you be able to buy tickets and tell the Mum that you have to go home so wont have time to use them?

wowfudge · 17/04/2014 16:10

You could, although you risk offending them/being seen as interfering: it might be that the mum doesn't want to go on a boat trip for whatever reason and has used money as the excuse to get out of it. Children also need to learn they cannot have everything they want.

If you do make an offer - try and do so when the kids aren't around so the mother doesn't feel pressured.

DrewsWife · 17/04/2014 16:10

What a wonderful person you are OP. can you go to boat place, buy the tickets and leave them somewhereGrin.

wowfudge · 17/04/2014 16:10

whatadrama - that is a great idea

Runningtrainers · 17/04/2014 16:12

Please OP give her the £6. :)

Ive seen a £10 fall from someone's bag once. they have no choice but to take the £££ if you've seen it fall and less embarrassing for her

EverythingCounts · 17/04/2014 16:16

Yes, good idea from whatadrama. Get the tickets and pass them on. Although if there's 2 of you and 3 of them that doesn't really work as you wouldn't have bought 3 tickets. Maybe say you found them in the drawer in your room, someone must have left them behind and it's not your thing so would she like them?

thepolymysticovary · 17/04/2014 16:20

Thanks for your replies. Dp and i will buy the tickets and will leave them in an envelope with ladys name on and pop them on her breakfast table late tonight so she doesn't know who has done it and thus no need for any embarrassment.

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nailslikeknives · 17/04/2014 16:23

Even if your end result is something kind, don't fib, the mum will see through it.

Maybe buy the tickets, put them in an envelope and post under their door?

nailslikeknives · 17/04/2014 16:23

X posts, sorry!

thepolymysticovary · 17/04/2014 16:28

I just struck up a conversation with her. Boys were playing outside so i started talking to her about how imaginary nephew likes boats and i had overheard her boys talking about the trips from harbour. I said we had a tenner spare from our spending money and seeing as we are heading home later i would love her to spoil her boys. She gave me a big hug and was very grateful!

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nailslikeknives · 17/04/2014 16:30

Fab! A legal high to end your holiday!

ILoveWooly · 17/04/2014 16:30

I really love hearing that someone has done something lovely.

MariaJenny · 17/04/2014 16:30

How wonderful. That's lovely.

dwinnol · 17/04/2014 16:31

How lovely. You'll get more joy from that tenner than any other you could have spent. Smile You are a lovely person OP.

Blithereens · 17/04/2014 16:32

You are lovely. Well done you Thanks

AnimalsAreMyFriends · 17/04/2014 16:33

What a lovely thing to do - I bet those little boys will remember that boat trip for a very long time.

xx

HelenHen · 17/04/2014 16:33

Aww how lovely Smile

SauvignonBlanche · 17/04/2014 16:34

Grin Good for you! Flowers

olympicsrock · 17/04/2014 16:34

Hooray! Well done- I hope you have a lovely warm feeling>

Strokethefurrywall · 17/04/2014 16:36

Awwww, got the warm and fuzzies here - lovely gesture, what a kind heart you have x

Bluestocking · 17/04/2014 16:36

What a lovely thing to do, OP.
Have you seen this ad from Thailand about the long term effects of a kind gesture?

HerRoyalNotness · 17/04/2014 16:37

Oh dear, I seem to have something in my eye.

To see the look on the boys faces would be priceless!

Chocoholism · 17/04/2014 16:38

Oh gawd I'm definitely a hormonal new mum, reading this had me welling up! Lovely thing to do OP

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