I probably am but this has pissed me right off.

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Friend asked me to go round for a catch up and DC's to play during the holidays.
We agreed on yesterday afternoon, only for friend to text me yesterday late morning to say she couldn't make it and could we rearrange for lunch time today.
I was okay with that because I understand that stuff crops up.
Anyhow, got another text this morning to say lunch time wasn't a good time for her because she's decided on the spur of the moment to go out for lunch with another friend and her DC.
She now wants to know if we can go over when she gets back from lunch but she's not sure what time that will be because her and her friend aren't sure when they will be back, but it will be some time this afternoon.

I would probably understand it more if she rarely saw this friend, but she spent all afternoon with this friend yesterday and they see each other regularly.

I'm beginning to feel like she's not really that bothered and would have preferred her to just cancel rather than rearranging so many times.

Now DD and I are waiting for the text to say she's back and ready for us to go over.
It was my friend who suggested we go over in the first place btw.

I feel like just Pissing off out instead, but AIBU to be pissed off. I think my shitty mood might be affecting my logic here.

Sounds petty now I am looking back on what I've written.

Um. I think I would be "unavailable" to go round this afternoon given the change of timing. If you do go round, won't you just feel utterly pissed off and have a crap time?

It is a bit petty, but it would piss me off, too. She had a better offer, so is putting you off until it suits her.

Your options are either to accept it or not! If I were you, her rescheduled time would be inconvenient for me.

I don't think you're being petty. But I wouldn't be waiting around for her either. Go and do something fun with your DD and tell her you're too busy when she texts yuk to summon you over.

Oh, and YANBU.

YANBU, she's being rude. Is there something else you could do this afternoon so your DD doesn't miss out? If so I would "have a better offer" and see how she likes it.

You don't invite someone round, then decide on the spur of the moment to invite someone else instead. She can piss right off!!!! No you are not being unreasonable. Cheek of it. Be very busy (dunking biscuits in your tea).

She was rude to have re arranged you twice, when the second time was simply to replace you with a different friend!
I would probably just let it go though if dd is looking forward to seeing her dc.

I would go and do something fun, out of the house, with DD and be unavailable when she texts you.

I probably would feel pissed off, yes.

Although if IABU, I would probably not be as pissed off.

I wouldn't be able to say anything anyway because apart from it sounding petty, the friend is going to be there for the afternoon so doesn't feel appropriate to say anything.

Get yourself out.. why would you wait around until you're summoned?

Do not wait in for her to tet you. Go out and have fun as she may never text and then you'll be REALLY pissed off.

YANBU or petty.

YANBU, she has had a better offer and is being rude. I wouldn't be available this afternoon at her beck and call!

Thanks everyone.

And yes, DD was looking forward to going over to see her DC and wants to wait for the royal text so she can go and play.

I'd call it off for today. Not in a 'going in a huff' way but just because no-one should expect you to hang around all day waiting for them to be available.

The moment I got her next text , I think I'd be deciding on the spur of the moment to go and do something else . I don't do being stood up for something 'better' , by anyone . If it's because something unforeseen crops up, that's one thing , but because she thinks she's got a better time with someone else ? No no no . That's just fucking rude .

'Royal text' is about right.

YANBU. highly annoying. dont go. that is all.

I don't think yabu. I think that's a shoddy way to treat you.

She sounds very self centred.

I'd go out somewhere nice instead.

and then you'll get one saying that they're tired and can you do another time instead.

She is rude.

Yanbu

organise something much more fun, so your DD doesn't feel put out.
what is the best trick you save for special occasions do that instead.

go out - send her a message when she contacts you saying "sorry, can't do now, we got bored and went out, must catch up soon!" and leave it at that. Next time she tries to arrange something, you must be busy.

I would certainly be thinking of something else to be doing. I don't think this person is really a friend if she's dropping you for a better offer. In fact, by your posts, the person your "friend" had lunch with is also going to be there, so if you went I'd bet that most of the conversation will be between those two and you'd probably be feeling left out.

Sod that OP. It's a lovely sunny day here, I'm assuming it is where you are, take your DC out and have a lovely afternoon on your terms.

She's bloody rude in my opinion. You don't keep someone hanging around like that and then summon them to your presence when you feel so inclined.

I be unavailable and busy for the foreseeable future in you position.