I probably am but this has pissed me right off.

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Friend asked me to go round for a catch up and DC's to play during the holidays.
We agreed on yesterday afternoon, only for friend to text me yesterday late morning to say she couldn't make it and could we rearrange for lunch time today.
I was okay with that because I understand that stuff crops up.
Anyhow, got another text this morning to say lunch time wasn't a good time for her because she's decided on the spur of the moment to go out for lunch with another friend and her DC.
She now wants to know if we can go over when she gets back from lunch but she's not sure what time that will be because her and her friend aren't sure when they will be back, but it will be some time this afternoon.

I would probably understand it more if she rarely saw this friend, but she spent all afternoon with this friend yesterday and they see each other regularly.

I'm beginning to feel like she's not really that bothered and would have preferred her to just cancel rather than rearranging so many times.

Now DD and I are waiting for the text to say she's back and ready for us to go over.
It was my friend who suggested we go over in the first place btw.

I feel like just Pissing off out instead, but AIBU to be pissed off. I think my shitty mood might be affecting my logic here.

What a cow! (her, not you, OP!)

I hope you told her you were busy when she finally graced you with a text.

I ditch friends that just use me as a fall back option.

Did the Royle see what I did there text ever come

I've got a friend like this- lovely girl but flakey and pointless making arrangements with her a long time in advance. You just have to play her at her own game and be equally flakey about arrangements and not too bothered.

DD and I have just got home.
Thanks for all of your replies.
Friend texted again shortly after my last post to say 'What time are you coming over? Friend and I are going to be back in half an hour.'

I replied 'You seem to be struggling to organise your social life to squeeze everyone in, so I'll make this easy for you and give this afternoon with you and your DC a miss. Have a great afternoon. DD and I are busy doing something else now.'

She texted right back with 'So are you coming or not?'

I haven't replied because there seemed no point. I took DD to the park where she played with a few other children there and I caught up with my book.

Is it normal to now feel embarrassed to bump into her anytime soon?

No need to be embarrassed. Be casual. And busy.

If and when you bump into her, be bright, breezy and cheerful. Don't even mention this afternoon or the text. If she mentions it then laughingly say "we weren't going to waste the lovely afternoon waiting for you to text, we made other plans" and don't fall into the trap of feeling as if you need to apologise to her or justify yourself.

Don't suggesting doing anything with her, let her be the one to suggest and arrange your next meet up. And remember, if you do arrange something, don't bank on it actually happening. Therefore if you get a better offer, go with it.

Great text!

Shame she didn't bother to read it!

I agree with WhoNickedMyName; if you see her around, just be friendly but busy. And vague.

If she suggests meeting up, keep in control of the situation by saying "I'm not sure if we're free that day, I'll get back to you"

Great text. You've done nothing wrong. You friend should be embarrassed but probably won't be.

I agree old, big 'whatever'

Your friend sounds like a twat.