I probably am but this has pissed me right off.

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Friend asked me to go round for a catch up and DC's to play during the holidays.
We agreed on yesterday afternoon, only for friend to text me yesterday late morning to say she couldn't make it and could we rearrange for lunch time today.
I was okay with that because I understand that stuff crops up.
Anyhow, got another text this morning to say lunch time wasn't a good time for her because she's decided on the spur of the moment to go out for lunch with another friend and her DC.
She now wants to know if we can go over when she gets back from lunch but she's not sure what time that will be because her and her friend aren't sure when they will be back, but it will be some time this afternoon.

I would probably understand it more if she rarely saw this friend, but she spent all afternoon with this friend yesterday and they see each other regularly.

I'm beginning to feel like she's not really that bothered and would have preferred her to just cancel rather than rearranging so many times.

Now DD and I are waiting for the text to say she's back and ready for us to go over.
It was my friend who suggested we go over in the first place btw.

I feel like just Pissing off out instead, but AIBU to be pissed off. I think my shitty mood might be affecting my logic here.

this would piss me RIGHT off and YANBU. How fucking rude!!!!

I know it may be difficult to cancel her if DD is looking forward to going, but in your shoes I'd be concerned that friend may well cancel anyway and you will have wasted all this time waiting for her. So I think you may well be better to take DD out somewhere nice instead.

"Now DD and I are waiting for the text to say she's back and ready for us to go over."

Why??

She's thrown you over for a better offer & you're waiting around to see what scraps she'll deign to offer you.

She sound horrid.

Only good thing-she was honest, so when you don't bother with her any more, you don't have to feel bad!

Omg, you are really just going to hang around until you get a text summoning your presence?
Fuck that. Get some pride woman. Go out do your own thing. Make some new mates. Ignore the text.

It's not unreasonable to feel annoyed that you have been dumped for a different option. People who treat others like that are not real friends.

Most people understand others having to cancel if they have a good reason why, but deciding you fancy doing something else instead is not an acceptable reason and anyone who does this shows a clear lack of respect for the feelings of others.

Yanbu, seems like she sees you as the fall back friend. That yourll be around if no better plans come about. I would not wait around, take your dd out and do something nice.

I'd call it off too. Yanbu.

This woman is teaching shocking bad manners to her dc.

If you do go you're not going to enjoy it so why wait? Get out with DD and have a fab time. She's rude.

If you wait around this afternoon, you might as well have 'doormat' tattooed on your head.

Where is your pride? Take your dd out and don't give this woman another minute of your time.

you should have text
"let me know when your busy schedule can fit us in"

she will be mortified

YANBU to be pissed off and I wouldn't go either.

Ive got a similar 'friend' she only used me when she was having an affair. I was the shoulder to cry on.

Then when her and her new fancy piece got together out in the open, I hardly heard from her. She only comes to mines out of habit, not because she wants to see me or my dds.

Go enjoy urself or have a nice sofa movie day. Tell her you cant make it because you decided to go out and make the most of the day. Dont waste ur day on her

Very rude of her to put you off for someone else. Agree with the posts saying you will probably end up getting a text putting it all off till another day. So don't get stuck in that position. Tell your DD it will be a different day now and go somewhere else instead.

If it's because something unforeseen crops up, that's one thing , but because she thinks she's got a better time with someone else ? No no no. That's just fucking rude.

This.

Get some pride woman. Go out do your own thing. Make some new mates. Ignore the text.

And this.

Please go out and do something fun with your DD and forget all about her.

Yes, pride! Why would you put up with this, and question yourself for being pissed off?

No, sorry, we are going out now'. Maybe you should omit the 'sorry'.

If it was me, I'd take dd out somewhere nice and tell her that you are going to have fun elsewhere.

When your friend sends the royal text, I wouldn't reply and would ignore it. A true friend wouldn't do this.

Just text her 'sorry cant make this afternoon, off out with a friend'

And go and do something nice with your DD

Its not petty. She is fucking rude and effectively ditching you for someone better (who she deems to be better).

Don't bother waiting for her and I wouldn't be making plans with her anytime soon either.

How rude!

Take your dd somewhere nice instead and if the sacred text does arrive just say you are busy now and see how she likes it.

I'd not go over, I'd have gone for a walk or something similar where there's no signal.

I'd then text her when I got home, tell her that I'm sorry I missed you earlier - seemed a waste of day staying inside so decided to make the most of it (or something like that).

Then I'd leave it a while before we made plans again.

Wait till she texts you and then text back to say "oh no sorry now's not good am meeting a friend."

I would be put doing something else. I maybe wouldn't text. If it was just your friend, I wouldn't.