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Original poster

To be annoyed that I have my sick nephew round for the day

78 replies

MajorJohn97 · 17/04/2014 10:27

My sister called early this morning asking if she could bring him round so I could 'look after him'. She has a very demanding job and I try to help as much as I can so said yes. He has been hear for about an hour. The poor boy has very bad diarrhea, which might spread to my DC.

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BobPatandIgglePiggle · 17/04/2014 10:28

You could have said no.

Perfectlypurple · 17/04/2014 10:29

Agree with bob

Sleepingbunnies · 17/04/2014 10:29

Demanding job or not I would have said no.

LeBearPolar · 17/04/2014 10:30

You could have said no: since you didn't, YABU to whinge about it now!

RuthlessBaggage · 17/04/2014 10:30

Why did you say yes?

It isn't inevitable that it will spread if you are absolutely assiduous about hand hygiene etc.

EyelinerQueen · 17/04/2014 10:31

Why on earth did you say yes??

I don't get these threads. Why do people say yes to things they don't want to do only to bitch and moan about it?

No is a full sentence. Use it.

Tinkerball · 17/04/2014 10:31

Well of course OP could have said no but maybe she wouldn't mind looking after him I'd he was well and sister didn't saying about him bring ill?

ikeaismylocal · 17/04/2014 10:31

Did she not tell you he was ill? I'd call and say he's ill and unfortunately your unable to look after him as you don't want your family catching it.

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 17/04/2014 10:31

Maybe the OP didn't know he had diorrhea (sp) until too late.

17leftfeet · 17/04/2014 10:32

Did you know he was poorly when you agreed?

SlimJiminy · 17/04/2014 10:32

Did you know he was ill when you agreed to have him? If yes, then YABU. If you didn't realise/it's come on since you've had him, then call your sister and say he's not well and she'll have to come and get him.

Scrounger · 17/04/2014 10:32

Can you call her and say that her child is ill and needs his parents. She shouldn't have asked you to do this, he is ill and probably doesn't want to be at yours and you have your children to think of. I'm assuming that she knew he was ill when she dropped him off. I find it bad enough looking after my children when they have D&V let alone anyone elses.

HeggateChocolatier · 17/04/2014 10:34

I assume she didn't tell you.

Phone her and tell her to come and get him, because he is ill.

Original poster
MajorJohn97 · 17/04/2014 10:35

I didn't know he was ill, just that their was 'no one to look after him'. Sorry I should have made that point. I found out by him that he has diarrhea. She didn't even get out of the car when dropping him off.

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SoonToBeSix · 17/04/2014 10:35

It's called helping family out, unless your dc have compromised immune systems stop being so precious.

EyelinerQueen · 17/04/2014 10:37

Apologies OP - I presumed you knew he was poorly.

She dropped him off knowing he had the skitter and didn't let you know? Very unreasonable. I would call her and tell her to come get him pronto.

Family are not there to be used as free childcare.

Original poster
MajorJohn97 · 17/04/2014 10:37

I have tried but her phone is off. I doubt she would come and get him anyway.

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DejaVuAllOverAgain · 17/04/2014 10:37

The OP is not being precious at all. If anything the sister is taking the piss by asking the OP to have him knowing he isn't well.

feathermucker · 17/04/2014 10:38

Just be extra extra careful with hand hygiene and you should be okay.

Did your sister know or has it started since she dropped him?

If it's that bad, phone her.

Scrounger · 17/04/2014 10:39

Soon yes helping out family & friends is great. Will the OP's sister be helping her out when her children come down with it? The last time my children had something like that they went down one after another and so did DH & I which impacted on everyone, their work and school. There is being helpful and there is being taken advantage of, this is the latter one.

EyelinerQueen · 17/04/2014 10:40

Wow she sounds like a calculating mare.

Can you ring her H? Or her place of work?

If you go along with it today she'll think you're a pushover anytime she needs free childcare in the future. I'm Easter Angry on your behalf.

KEGirlOnFire · 17/04/2014 10:40

There is no way I would look after my DNieces and DNephews if they were ill with D&/orV. No way at all. A cold maybe.

But to the same degree I would never ask any of my DSis to look after my DD if she had it either, no way.

Your DSis is being very unreasonable not telling you and expecting you to look after him. We all have to take time off from work when our DCs are ill, why should she be any different?

Scrounger · 17/04/2014 10:41

Do you have her main work number? Call her through that.

RuthlessBaggage · 17/04/2014 10:43

That cheeky mare! I'd be tempted to ring her workplace and inform them that her child is now pretty poorly and needs her to come home right this minute.

Original poster
MajorJohn97 · 17/04/2014 10:43

She is in court today (is a barrister), trust me I wont get hold of her and even if I did she wouldn't come to get him.

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