to expect people to spell my name properly???

[Dukketeater]

I have a fairly common name, there was another one in my year at school, lots of famous people with my name etc so its not as if it is unknown to people... Lets assume it is Rebecca ... Now I know there are variations in the spelling, but my spelling is by far the most common...

Now what bugs me the most is my email address is [email protected] and people still start emails regularly with 'Hi Rebekah' ... Seriously you just bloody emailed me with the right spelling in the email address... Get it right when you address me!!!

I think it is lazy and rude... AIBU?!?

YANBU I have a very common name that is sometimes spelt with an i, sometimes not. Yet my half sister insists on spelling it incorrectly , just to make the point that I am not realy very important.

That is different Nigella. Misspelling on purpose is deliberately hostile.

My first name is double-barrelled - both parts invariably spelt wrongly; my surname also always incorrect. Annoyingly it's the name of a psychological condition (!) and I am often asked if I am a (surname)? Cue much hilarity on their part...

Also why,when I give my first name as xxxxxx-xxx, do people still call me by the first part only as if I must be giving extraneous information?Literally one second after I've told them my name? Do they get to choose from the selection I've apparently given them???

Both my maiden name and my married name get spelt wrong, they are both the simple and easy phonetically right spellings but people go off on a tangent and add letters in and make them more exotic looking. Lol

Or my married name has the first letter changed to make new words.

I think it's funny rather than annoying.

I have a first name and a surname that no-one can spell. My great grandmother used to spell it the German way, with a J, in birthday cards (but used to call me Christina, which is nothing like my name), and my grandmother used to spell it correctly in cards, but used to call me Sandra - which, again, is nothing like my name! Our surname is unusual, and similar to something that is a bit more common, so people automatically "hear" the more common version and use that.

I have an unusual surname and an accent... Had some interesting versions of my name over the years and I spell it out every time...

Once had someone question it though

'So that Mrs Xxx (shortened surname)'
'No Miss Xxxxx - spelt x-x-x-x-x'
'You sure?'
'Positive'
'Never heard of that before'
'Its unusual yes I know'
'Right then Mrs Xxx (back to shortened version)'

I use my middle name now but my first name was mis-spelt ALL the time too...

Strangely enough no one has EVER spelt our surname incorrectly on my son's letters / reports though I am frequently Mrs (sometimes Mr & Mrs!)... He's obviously etched on their mind

I always ask how to spell names and addresses and lots of other things besides. Why wouldn't you? People are quick to complain when you get it wrong.

If anyone sneers: 'Don't you know that?' I say: 'No, that's why I'm asking.'

I'm always happy to spell my names out to people, no problem with that at all. But it's the people that then spell it wrong regardless. What is the point in asking if you are not going to listen?

I also get some people thinking that my first name is my surname. I don't understand why, it's a common Welsh name which doesn't resemble a surname at all.

Our surname is very unusual. Only us and DH's siblings with it in UK. Always getting it spelled wrongs whatcgets me is when I spell it out and people say 'are you sure?' Wtf???? Yes, I do know how to spell my surname....

My name is not that common and it is often misspelt which I'm generally ok with, apart from when someone is replying to one of my emails where my name is in the email address and in my signature. Although it really pisses me off when they refer to the male version of my name, eg I'm Paula and they reply to Paul.

The other one that annoys me is the pronunciation of my name, I. The uk there are 2 different versions, mine is the more unusual one, so I don't mind so much if someone gets it wrong, unless I say "hi I'm xxxa" and they then refer to me as xxxb. Did they not just hear what I fucking said? It's like introducing yourself as Suzanne and then being referred to as Susan.

ARRRRGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for letting me rant!

My maiden name was foreign, very unusual and no one could spell/pronounce it right.

Married a man with the most boring surname in the world.

Happy days.

Yanbu op it's maddening.

I agree with you OP!

I have a good friend with a similar name - not at all unusual, but there are a couple of ways to spell it. I see people posting things like 'hi XXXX, lovely to see you yesterday' and spelling it incorrectly. It's right there in front of them! They must have searched her name on facebook in the first place, with the correct spelling, to have been able to find her name in order to post on her wall. I think it's quite aggressive - its a way of saying to someone 'you are so insignificant to me that I can't even be arsed to spell your name correctly, in fact, here is the way I think you should actually spell your name'. It would be different if it was just a spelling mistake, swapping one letter for another, or reversing a couple of letters, but actually going all out and changing the way the name is spelt? Rude.

Thank god its not just me being a diva then! My surname is unusual and so was my maiden name so general misspelling and mispronunciation of those I can forgive but copying a common name down wrong drives me mad!

To the person who said about their DCs name being pronounced wrong once you have even corrected people... We get that too with our son. His name is not English and people pronounce it wrong time and time again even after I correct them!

My first name is only two letters, and people still manage to spell it wrong even though it is in my email address, my auto signature and the name of my company!

I have a classical name, common for women of a certain age. It can be spelled one of three ways and I was given the trickier/less common spelling. It can also be shortened to at least three different things, which I hate and I changed my surname on marriage (even though I'm a feminist), because DH's surname is easy compared to my Eastern European maiden name.

I am just pleased when people get my first name right now.

I hate it with a passion. I really hate when you are for example, waiting for an appointment, the receptionist/nurse/consultant/whoever, looks down at your name and then calls the wrong name, eg. Diane for Diana (not my name). I am rude. I've had 55 years of knobs being unable to read the simplest thing. Aarrrrghhhhh!

My first name is Welsh and isn't particularly common. It gets spelt incorrectly all the time. The worse though is a former boss who told me that I pronounced my name wrong. It's my name! I told my dm and she nearly phoned him up to correct him!

I will always reply to people as they refer to themselves, eg If someone signs their email as Sam, I'll reply to that.

I've even cut & pasted to ensure spellings, etc are correct. It really isn't hard at all to do this.

I do have partial hearing loss so will often ask how to pronounce a name and may need a couple of attempts to get it right, but will keep trying as I hate having my own name spelled or pronounced wrongly.

These days, my first name is more commonly heard, although it's still not very often used for naming children; DD is aware of one child at her school with the same name, and I have only ever met one other with this name.

I have a double barrel surname where both parts are very very common surnames out together, and I get asked how to spell it.

It is very annoying. I can have a conversation where someone asks my name and I reply "Joanna" for them to then turn around and say to someone else "oh, this is Joanne" - its not the same name!!!

And my surname is a well known one that has a couple of different ways of spelling it 99% of the time, ours is the 1% spelling and always confuses people - "is it with an i or an a" "an a and an e on the end" "so x x x x??" "with an e on the end" "sorry how do you spell it" arghhhhhhhhh

I used to accidentally mispronounce the name of a colleague. If she'd said something to me I'd have made an effort to remember. It's a name that I'm always going to stumble over but I'd have tried.

However, she grumbled to everyone except me. Someone eventually told me in a: 'Limited, can you stop doing that because she thinks it's really disrespectful?' kind of way.

By that time I disliked her so much for doing things to me that were far worse than stressing the wrong syllable in a name that I did it deliberately.

To this day I can't remember whether the stress is supposed to be on the first syllable or the last. And I don't care.

On another note, I used to work with an arrogant arse who spoke to everyone like they were shit, I used to write in emails, "Hello darren" lower case d, he probably never noticed but it made me feel better, lol

ikcaj "I must daily inform people that my first name is NOT Barbara no matter how much they insist it is, and should we pass that point, I must then explain that my surname spelled "like the person that cuts a man's hair". "

Is your name Barbara Barber?

A girl in my class at school used to get so annoyed when people called her MEE shell rather than mi SHELL (Michelle) it was so hard to remember as the one she didn't like came out more naturally

OMG BumpNGrind I too have a welsh name and when I corrected someone I worked with for the billionth time that they were pronouncing my name wrong, they too turned round and said 'I thought it was you saying your name wrong?' I gave them a confused face and literally said 'what the fuck?! why would I be saying my own name wrong?' haha