for being annoyed at a shop cashier for suggesting I was rude for ommiting please

[SuzzieScotland]

Just bought a bottle of bleach from a shop, said "can I have a carrier bag" he replied with "please? Good manors don't cost anything.." I was stunned and replied "indeed".

He offered the other two people before me a bag, even though they had small items but didn't for me, and never seams to. Maybe its something to do with age as I look quite young.

He said "next customer " and "place your card in the machine" both without a please before that so despite me being very big on mannors I didn't feel the need to ask him for a bag with a please.

But you were rude! He shouldn't have said anything just called you names when you left like I would have done but regardless of age you should have said please.

If he is always stroppy with you write a letter of complaint to the shop, then stop giving them your business.

It's not an age thing, it's a manners thing and neither of you were well mannered.

Just forget about it.

It really isn't worth being confrontational at work, at times. It can cause all sorts of unpleasantness not least if you are one day confrontational with the wrong person. There must be lots of people who don't say please but on the other hand aren't unmannerly and aggressive about it. I think if I worked behind a shop counter I just wouldn't call someone out for not saying please or if that was my habit, Id fully expect trouble one day. You just never know. I think people like him choose, tbh...if it were a man his size perhaps he'd have let it go. Then again I have a thing about men berating me including men unknown to me I won't stand for it. ever. Unless I know I was confrontational first. Not saying please wouldn't elicit from me the reaction that man had..maybe its a small local shop but if not Id expect a manager to pull him up on that one

I don't think failing to say please is necessarily rude though. I almost always do, but it would be quite possible for the following to be polite:

Could I just have a bag for this?

or

Ooh, forgot my carrier this morning! Can I have a plastic bag?

I was also raised to believe that the ultimate, ultimate rudeness is commenting on someone's manners. That trumps any other rudeness short of spitting in someone's face. If you need to "comment" a raised eyebrow will do.

Just ask yourself.... What would Jeeves do?