'I'll be there all day Saturday,' was the promise.

[MikeWazowski]

AIBU to think all day is longer than 10:30 to 3:30. My poor DS is so upset that daddy has already gone and I'm fucking furious, mainly because of the upset and but also because I was looking forward to a rest! FFS, I might put visiting rules in place stating minimum length of time etc!

Now I've got to subject the poor little thing to Tescos as well, it's a sad world

Maybe something happened to make him want to leave early... Couldn't he have taken DS out for a bit?

It depends.

If I say 'all day' to one of the children, they tend to associate it with school hours (so yes, pretty much 10-4 at the weekend) as evenings are usually spent doing other stuff.

It depends a bit on where the 'all day' is to be spent I suppose.

It depends. I mean if we had been out 10:30-3:30 I'd pretty much class that as being out all day.

I'd be more annoyed that he's had no actual plans for the day to pass those hours

It's pretty much all day to me but obviously you two need to work out what you both consider to be all day.

How old is your child and why is his Dad visiting him at your house?

Id call that all day, especially if it was visitors!

10:30 - 3:30 might be ok for standard visitors.

But its a kid, his kid, he could stuck around for bed time atleast.

Well that depends on whether he was invited for lunch/dinner as otherwise he won't have eaten all day

Well isn't contact formalised through court?
You might be better posting in lone parents or divorce / separation ?

He's not likely to stay until bedtime if the child isn't staying overnight with him. If you can't take your children back to your own house 10.30-3.30 is quite a long time. We've always just done alternate weekends, if one of us just has the kids for the day we specify times.

I would say that's all day to be honest

I would say that's a day too.
It would be a day if I were visiting someone.
It would be a day if I were taking dc out somewhere.

But it doesn't really matter does it, what matters is the mis-match in expectations between the 2 of you. How you describe the time isn't really what's important.

He would probably have been upset whenever he left. Why haven't you been able to rest 10.30-3.30?

What's so bad about having to go to Tescos?

Why is everyone assuming he is at your house? Why couldn't he take them elsewhere?

If he was at your house I can maybe understand why he didn't want to stay long. Your relationship doesn't sound very good.

I would regard that as all day.

If you want longer/different times you need to communicate with your dc's father and agree on times.

If you agree that 5/6 is a good time for him to stay until just go out and don't come back until 5/6.

Totally depends on age of DC and the agreed contact schedule and reasons behind it.