To hate potty training with a passion?

[Pollycracker]

It doesn't help that I started DD on the potty a week ago today then this week I've got ill and DP is working away. But I'm slowly going insane.

I HATED potty training DS so I've put this off as long as possible, even though DD is extremely bright in all areas. She's 3 in 4 weeks, so I'm not exactly starting too early.

On her first day, she was fantastic. I expected accidents galore but she barely had any and weed and pooed in the potty/toilet.

Since then it's been downhill! She hasn't actually wet herself for 2 days, but every day since Saturday she's shit herself. She hasn't done one poo in the potty, and now almost refuses to use the toilet.

I ask her every 5 minutes if she needs a wee or a poo, and take her to the potty every 15-30 minutes. But she'll just shit herself regardless. Then she'll come and tell me with a smile on her face, or says she wanted to poo in her knickers, so it's as if she's doing it on purpose!

I can't stand it any more. We're normally so close but I'm feeling really angry towards her about this :( her grandma has taken her for the afternoon as I've got two other DC and still feel poorly.

It's rubbish!

Interesting re the floor! DD is considerably more upset by poo on her foot than on her bottom, probably because the latter is "normal"! Eugh.

Interesting re the floor! DD is considerably more upset by poo on her foot than on her bottom, probably because the latter is "normal"! Eugh.

You have all my sympathy, ignore all helpful posters( why is it that anything about potty training being tough brings them all out of the woodwork?) Both of mine were really tough to potty train, what got DS2 sorted was a lovely jar of those white chic buttons with sprinkles on (£2 I'm Asda!) on show all the time! and reminders that when he did a good try/wee/poo in the right place we could both have one ( I needed the chocolate too!) , no pants and potty in whatever room/grader we were playing in. His favourite toy got taken to the potty about once an hour to start with too, as doggy definitely needed a try!

Oh, and trying my damdest to be completely neutral about accidents but doing a literal song and dance (and phoning nanny/grandad/daddy every time ) we had success!

Good luck, you are bringing back some very unhappy memories. I wasn't the most patient in this department either.
Here have a bunch

we used bribery... 1 plastic soldier for a potty-pee, 2 for a poo.
then it was a badge for a poo (bought a badge maker)

and he chose an angry birds game in the toy shop which was his reward for 3 days of totally clean and dry pants. lots of cheers and well dones and acting impressed too

Feeling that potty training pain op! We are trying with just turned 3 ds and it just feels like an ordeal. He has only poo'd himself once but he really didn't like that at all so I'm hoping that might have some effect. He actually asked his sister to use the potty this morning do fingers crossed we're getting somewhere. Just fed up of mopping up wee (cos the dog thinks he can do it anywhere in the house too because of ds!)

Deffo small bribes for wees and poos and something bigger when she has done 3 days/ a week. My so. Was super quick with wees but saved poos for nap time or bed time nappies. He got a matchbox car when he did a poo on the toilet the first few times then a reward chart with a present when he finished it. I can see when you 'train' early like 18 months - 2 years it would be confusing to go back to nappies, but at your daughter's age I bet she gets it! She will probably decide to do it.

My sister's little boy was a right pain. Completely refused until well over 3. No 'big boy' talk would work, he has always been a mischievous little sod and would demand nappies. One day they walked past a bike shop and he wanted a particular bike. Sister said you can't ride bikes like that in nappies, they get in the way - no accidents for a week and you can have it. They were back a week later!

So I think younger children need 'training' - lots of asking, lots of sitting on the potty, cheers etc. Honestly, older ones just need to be ready to do it for themselves IMO. So I would just remove the pressure. And I think having something big in mind for when she is done might help. You know best though - really nursery need to suck it up!

NOTHING is worth doing if it's stressing everyone out. Three things you can't 'make' kids do - sleep, eat and defecate. Sadly they will always be in charge of these things - hence nearly all parenting issues being related to these three things!

My dd was similar - happy to wee on the potty but wanted to poo in her pants. I solved it by watching her closely and managed to catch her when she did her 'about to do a poo' face and sit her on the potty so she had no choice! Then a chocolate biscuit and lots of praise. Once she had done a poo on the potty once she was much happier to try again. This was a couple of weeks ago and she has had no accidents since, but still asks for a treat every time she has a poo - I've reduced the treats down so now she just gets a sticker - had to give her a chocolate biscuit for a week or so.