To ask - how your parents gave you 'the talk'?

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No one actually gave me 'the talk' but after visiting my 82 year old granny, some how We got on the topic of introducing sex education early in schools.

She thought it shouldn't happen - kids should be 'left to be innocent'.

She told me that her talk with 'her boys' (df and two uncles) consisted of..

'Seeing two dogs at it and when asked why they were fighting? Replied with, 'there not - he's giving her puppies !'

She was happy that they would have had the connection.

I replied with, "well maybe he (df) should have had early sex education - then him and mum wouldn't have had a shot gun wedding at 17!"

Im aghast !

Two dogs at it!!!

FFS !!

Were yours this bad??

Lol Melanie - that sounds about right! DC are definitely more knowledgeable though. When Dd was about nine we were in a country pub garden with some of her school friends and their parents. Girls were running off to the far end of the big garden and into a wooded corner. I went to check on them and found Dd looking at some used condoms lying at the base of a tree. 'Oh, that's not nice', I said, 'don't touch, and come back over with us'. 'Do you know what they are?', asked Dd. I started to explain in vague terms, but she interrupted me, saying 'Oh, I know, I didn't think you did!'

Liverpudlian catholic (ex, of course) so no proper talk, just whispers about periods (didn't tell me about tampons, ffs, just horrible cheap towels) and "down there" or "front bottom". I love my mum, but she did mention a few years ago that "I would have killed you, if you'd have come home pregnant". WTF? Talk about damaging someone's sexuality.
Us ex Catholic school girls had a lot of catching up to do, no?

Hope I've made up for it though; DS1 (11yo) was happily standing on the bottom stair in order to show his new pube.

I never had The Talk. In any way shape or form. Thank god for Just 17 magazine.
That and Judy Bloom's Forever.

Another one who didn't get 'the talk', I think it is one of the reasons I am so open with my children

Never had any kind of talk. The only reason I knew anything is because we did sex ed and my periods didn't start for ages. If it had been the other way round, I'd have been buggered really. Had no towels in the house when I started and I wasn't allowed to use tampons because they wouldn't 'keep me nice'. Years of riding horses had put paid to any bloody nice keeping!

Oh yeah, I remember j-17, I got everything I knew from that magazine!

Another here that didn't get any "talk" bar what we were taught in high school & yes, I agree that its also made me far more open with DD as a result

I don't think there's any "only" way. I think it's best to tailor it to your own children.

My older brother had "the talk", I think age 13-14. It suited him, my parents knew the type of person he was and that he would need an in-depth sort of explanation/discussion. I don't know exactly what that talk was like, but I do think they went over emotional aspects and full consent with him as well.

They never gave me the talk, because I was bookish and learned everything I needed to know from Judy Blume and all the rest. They asked me if I had any questions but never sat me down for a talk - it honestly would have humiliated me and I'm glad they didn't. I'm very prudish, and painfully shy. FWIW, I didn't lose my virginity until age 19 and have always been impeccably safe.

We'd also gone through sex ed at school (this is in the US). Mostly about "our changing bodies" around age 11, specific to each sex, with just a little about sex and pregnancy, and a more in-depth explanation around age 12-13 about sex, conception, pregnancy and STD's.

MInde dont know yet,they know that babies come out of womens "minnies" and that the dads put them in there,but they havnt got round to asking how yet.

I got the talk from my mum when I was nine, but it was a little too late as the boy who lived next door to us had already told me all about it, albeit pretty crudely. My Mum told me recently that she was shocked by the language I used when she broached the subject

I'm determined to do things differently with my DC, DD is 7 and starting to ask questions. I don't plan on giving her all the info at once, but have ordered this book online: www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0142410586?pc_redir=1396942194&robot_redir=1
I'm hoping this will answer her questions for now, but at the same time anticipating that there will be more.

Never ever did my parents give me the talk!
And when I started my periods and told my mum I got sent to the chemist and was told "buy sanitary towels only under no circumstances buy tampax"!

My 2 teenage boys knew about sex from an early age and they speak to me regarding anything about it

I don't remember that MrsDV but most of my classmates were sent to bed when Bouquet of Barbed Wire came on. My mum let me watch and talked to me about it. Funny how it was me who ended up so square.

We had to watch a series of videos at school, I asked DM about them when I got home and she proceeded to tell me that the video had forgotten to mention that 99.9% of people the first time get stuck together because of a vacuum effect which proves the woman wasn't ready and that you have to phone 999 and go to hospital to be separated!!!

I was terrified ( and was only in year four)

I didn't get the talk. I learnt at school and from magazines. DM once told me she felt that she had to have the talk with my DB because he had introduced her to his first girlfriend. I told her very firmly not to and that it wasn't necessary.

My DB was 22 at the time.

Jackie photo-love stories....a Jilly Cooper style bonking book left on my bed (must have been recommended at the time!) and being told rather randomly after school one day that homosexuality was disgusting and "willies weren't made for putting up bums." That was it!

Hah Op - I received the talk after seeing two dogs on the corner of our road at it.

The same evening 'Ain't Half Hot Mum' had a woman lying on top of Lofty and I asked what was happening. The same as the dogs on the corner I was told.What's that? I asked and so I got the talk from both mum and dad.

By the way I was 7 y.o. and when I say 2 dogs I mean 2 dogs and not a dog and a bitch Though I didn't get told about gay relationships until I was older.

My mum bought me the Usbourne book about growing up when I was about 10. This coincided with the sex ed lessons with the school nurse which actually was just about periods and puberty stuff.

Neither parent ever discussed it with me, and I really wish they had. The full extent was at the age of 17 when my lost purse was posted to my house, my mum opened it and went ballistic because there was a condom in there! Apparently at 17 with a boyfriend I was 'far too young' and 'couldn't cope'. Biggest. Row. Ever.

And I still don't get why!

My mother decided to give me The Talk the day I moved out into a bedsit. Early 90s, me aged 17. I rather scuppered it by killing myself laughing.

Thankfully my school did sex ed to a rather obsessive level (all girl boarding school) so after my inital shock of finding out about Human Reproduction in first year - I'd previously thought the sperm swam across the bed - we learnt huge amounts of detail, including weekly lessons on contraception for a whole year in third year. And way too many anecdotes from the teacher concerned, possibly designed to put us off. The biology teacher was fab though, covered homosexuality despite saying "I'm not allowed to tell you any of this because of Section 28, but you need to know...."

Thank goodness for Judy Blume as thanks to her I had at least asked what periods were - age 10 or 11, so just as well I hadn't had one yet.

Dcs have a reasonable understanding for their ages - eldest is 5.

I got my sex education from listening to Prince and reading just seventeen