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To send this reply to letter about attendance from school

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FamilarSting · 10/04/2014 17:33

Today I received a letter from school about the attendance of my 5 year old. She has had 6 days off school since January (4 of those were last week - she had a throat infection) and had perhaps another 3 from September - December but the letter doesn't mention those.
This is the letter I received and I will paste my reply. I'd appreciate thoughts on if my reply is too OTT, or rude etc. But to be honest, I am furious and want the letter to convey a certain level of how annoyed I am.

Would I be unreasonable to send this reply?

(FROM SCHOOL)

10th April 2014

Dear Parents of X

Here at X Primary School we take attendance very seriously.

In the Home School Agreement you signed to say you will ensure your child attends regularly and on time. I would like to bring to your attention that X's attendance this term is below the school average. I would like to see some improvement next term.

Please find below the summary from the school register with is recorded with X Education Authority.

(table showing she's had 12 'sessions' off out of a possible 124 which is equal to 90.32% attendance, 0 of those being unauthorized)

Yours faithfully

X (Headteacher)

(all typed, nothing signed)

(MY RESPONSE)

Dear Mr X,

I am sorry that you find X’s attendance so troubling. However, I as a parent find her health more important than keeping above your school’s average attendance statistics. I do ensure my child attends school regularly and on time. Unfortunately she has had several periods of illness this year involving very high fevers. I myself was aware of how frequently she has been off school, and so on Monday 1st April, I sent her to school despite her having a fever. She was subsequently sent home from school and spent a week rather ill at home with a throat infection. I can acquire a Doctor’s note about this if required.

As your letter states, X’s 12 sessions absent from school were always authorized and I always made sure to inform school as to what was happening.

I would also like X’s attendance to improve, but not at the expense of sending her to school with a high fever so that she can feel miserable all day.

When X has been unwell at home, in between doses of paracetamol to bring down her fevers, and when she has felt up to it, we have made sure to do extra practice of her reading books and letter sounds etc.

I and her class teacher feel she is doing well in school and I do not feel these absences have had much negative impact on her studies at her reception class level. If this is not the case, or if these days off have caused her teacher to have to spend extra time in helping her to catch up then I apologise, but I suspect this is not the case.

I find the tone and impersonal quality of the letter I received quite frustrating. You may take attendance very seriously, but perhaps you might like to look at the overall picture of the child; her performance at school, and perhaps the possibility that she might have been unlucky enough to be ill several times in the winter months, amounting to 6 days off school.

X will be taking four days absence next term in order to visit family in Norway.

I will no longer concern myself about whether this being marked as unauthorized might upset your records, as if doing the best we can as per the ‘Home School Agreement’ is not good enough, then I doubt anything will be.

Yours Sincerely

FamiliarSting

OP posts:
HappyMummyOfOne · 11/04/2014 11:10

You lost your argument the moment you mentioned your holiday was more important than education. You can't slate them for the letter then go and break the rules.

If you send it, I suppose they at least have an idea of the type of parent you are.

Your daughters attendance is low, yes she's been ill but if you believe she was to ill for school then just ignore it. Some parents lie about illness or let little Johnny stay off for every sniffle. The school has to tackle absence, Ofsted can't rate them as outstanding if attendance is poor and children slip through the net if these things are bought to attention.

Longtalljosie · 11/04/2014 11:15

Dear Headteacher,

Thank you for your letter, dated 10 April.

On each of the occasions X was absent from school, she was ill, with a high temperature. Following your letter, which seems to imply I have handled this incorrectly, can you confirm this is no longer an issue for school attendence, and it is now perfectly in order to send them to class with an infectious illness? It would make life a lot simpler for me.

Yours etc.

sezamcgregor · 11/04/2014 11:21

I would not reply but instead talk to the Head Teacher. I'd tell her that I did not appreciate receiving a generic letter regarding her non-attendance due to illness.

I would ask them to clarify whether the policy for keeping children off school until they are over an illness had changed and whether they would rather you brought sick children to school to improve their attendance figures.

I would suggest that the use of generic letters was abandoned.

If the child had an unauthorised absence, the parents would have been fined and would not require any further reminder to keep their child at school.

FamilarSting · 11/04/2014 11:28

Now I find myself having doubts about whether I should send the new letter/talk to the head.

If I'd have got a snotty reply to the absent request form, and it had also mentioned her sickness absense in order to back up reasons for refusal, I think I would have accepted it and let it go as I know we are 'breaking the rules' in that case. But the letter I received made no mention of that and I still think the point needs to be raised about the rudeness of the attendance letter which will no doubt also be sent to parents whose children have also been genuinely ill.

But when he reads the absence request form, assuming he hasn't already, it's likely to deem my opinion worthless as I'm such a terrible, inconsiderate parent for taking DD out of school next term.

OP posts:
FamilarSting · 11/04/2014 11:30

*absence

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Aussiemum78 · 11/04/2014 11:33

Stupid beaureacratic waste of time. Children get sick. Processing letters must cost the school system a fortune.

It's probably worse when kids are sent to school sick, feeling miserable and sharing their germs with the class.

SetPhasersTaeMalkie · 11/04/2014 11:33

So you are intending to send in a letter complaining about an absence letter on the heels of an absence request?

I really wouldn't.

redskyatnight · 11/04/2014 11:51

davidbrent surprised DS was sent home on the basis of just saying he felt sick.

When my DS (also Y5) told his teacher he felt sick, teacher told him to think about something else and he'd feel better soon.

An hour later when DS was wrapped in his coat shivering, curled up in a chair, not talking and deathly pale, teacher decided that maybe he did actually feel sick.

Point being that teachers must be surely used to children saying they don't feel well and don't instantly ring parents every time it happens!

pumpkinsweetie · 11/04/2014 12:15

I might do the same, I got a similar letter for 3 days off over 2 terms.

Floggingmolly · 11/04/2014 12:34

Yes, I'd imagine he'll be thinking something along those lines, op. as would I.

A letter like that while simultaneously requesting time off for a holiday doesn't make you look too clever.

Badvoc · 11/04/2014 13:09

3 days over 2 terms!!!
Bloody hell!
Ds2 started reception last year...this term alone he has had 11 days off :(
Ear infection
Conjunctivitis
Tonsilitis
Cold/cough
I wonder what teachers want us as parents to do?
I have given up and requested the dr send him for blood tests. I will also be speaking to his asthma dr. Maybe I will get a letter or something for his file.
:(

leolion · 11/04/2014 13:25

Schools are damned if they do, damned if they don't. I think you've just been caught up in procedure that is intended to reduce absence taken by poor attenders, when your child's attendance isn't that bad, but has obviously hit a trigger point.

Yes, the tone is completely inappropriate for your case, but I would just bin it and forget about it. You may want to rethink taking a holiday in term time again though, as this is not going to help any argument you have with the school at all.

schooling16 · 09/01/2016 20:13

Reading the comments above I guess every one shares the same sentiment about these letters (which is really unfortunate) however yesterday I got a letter from my son's school that we need to see the head teacher since his attendance has dropped to "93.57" percent!

I understand that the letter is standard one (and nearly every one finds the tone rude and unnecessary) but I fail to understand whats the need for calling a meeting here? We made sure that if he was off sick then we call the school first in the morning and obviously make every effort that he is in school well before time.

I am thinking of writing to the school first and asking them that whats the purpose of the meeting? (since we have always notified them if he was off sick and considering this his overall attendance seems fine).

More interestingly he is not even 5 yet and as per the gov.uk link below education is not compulsory as yet (although I never considered this before the letter and this was never an excuse) so how can they send the letter in the first place?

www.gov.uk/school-attendance-absence/overview

schooling16 · 09/01/2016 20:16

Reading the comments above I guess every one shares the same sentiment about these letters (which is really unfortunate) however yesterday I got a letter from my son's school that we need to see the head teacher since his attendance has dropped to "93.57" percent!

I understand that the letter is standard one (and nearly every one finds the tone rude and unnecessary) but I fail to understand whats the need for calling a meeting here? We made sure that if he was off sick then we call the school first in the morning and obviously make every effort that he is in school well before time.

I am thinking of writing to the school first and asking them that whats the purpose of the meeting? (since we have always notified them if he was off sick and considering this his overall attendance seems fine).

More interestingly he is not even 5 yet and as per the gov.uk link below education is not compulsory as yet (although I never considered this before the letter and this was never an excuse) so how can they send the letter in the first place?

www.gov.uk/school-attendance-absence/overview

echt · 09/01/2016 20:30

schooling16 I would imagine that the system runs something like this:

97% = first standard letter
95% = Def Con 2 letter
Below 95% = meeting with parents.

They'll have to show OFSTED a spreadsheet of their actions as so much of OFSTED enquiries is data-driven.

I would still write in and ask the purpose of the meeting is, even if it's to get it in writing that its only purpose is to be able to show OFSTED what the school has done, especially as I assume you fully intend to continue keeping your DS off if he is ill.

hippoinamudhole · 09/01/2016 20:49

Below 90% attendance is now considered a persistent absentee by the government. Last year this figure was 85%. The school will be wanting to discuss how to avoid being in this category.
For perspective 90%is one month off during the year

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