Jane Norman dress

[nickthedad]

I'm a dad with a daughter who turned 12 last week. Her gran (my mum) bought her a tight fitting size 6 orange Jane Norman dress as a present. Link here - www.ebay.co.uk/itm/like/231146520084?hlpht=true&ops=true&viphx=1&lpid=95&device=c&adtype=pla&crdt=0&ff3=1&ff11=ICEP3.0.0&ff12=67&ff13=80&ff14=95
Me and my daughter's stepmum think its way too old for her to be wearing. Are we being over protective?

I wouldn't want her to wear it.

But I'm old-fashioned.

It would depend on the shoes and how she accessorised it.

I see no problem with a dress of that style, any shorter and I wouldn't want her wearing it.

I suppose it depends on the occasion, its length and the accessories.

I'm afraid noting that it's a multiple listing I feel rather cynical about this post and I'm wondering if it's an undercover method of driving traffic to the listing. Apologies if that isn't the case.

Ok possibly with leggings? And a hoody over? Maybe surreptitiously stretch it a bit?

This is just genuine concern as I worry that my daughter is being encouraged too fast and the dress is from an adult designer and marketed at young women, not children. I value honest opinions. Many thanks.

YANBU, it's far too grown up for a girl just turned 12. Could you 'buy' it from her and then return it?

I have a 13yr Dd and I would not let her wear that dress , it's too grown up and colour and clinginess " tarty" . There are so many lovely dressed in the shops even New Look has loads of spring time tea dresses and skater style .

Yanbu. I wouldn't want my dd to wear that either

I am seriously laid back and let my dds wear practically anything they choose as I think clothes are a daft thing to argue about.

My main opinion is that she would see it as old fashioned. It's a dress for the office or a wine bar I would say.

My dds 14/15 would see it as old.

Does she like it and feel comfortable in it?

Yes, let her wear it, no send it back.

By 12 DDs have a pretty good idea of what they like and what they don't. Unless it's wildly inappropriate for event or the weather it's best to keep well out of it.

I'm with Euphemia how sad that if a girl puts a piece of clothing on she becomes tarty, somehow dangerous. She's just a kid in an orange dress

Is it the sort of style she would normally wear? Do you think she will like it?

Not my cuppa chai for a 12 year old I'm afraid.

I do see where you're coming from and YANBU.

Each to their own btw.

Its OK if she wears it with leggings and trainers

NOT OK if she wears with heels

HTH

Jane Norman dresses are really tarty, they don't seem to do anything that isn't skin tight and very short. I wouldn't be happy, but could be alright with leggings and a cardy?

Of course a 12-year-old can look tarty if they are wearing inappropriately adult clothes, what a bizarre thing to say. Doesn't mean they are tarty, of course, but they can certainly look it.

It's your job to disapprove!

My daughter would love that and I would let her wear it - she is 12

It's a dress and she is allowed to chose things for herself rather than me dictate her style

I also hate the idea of a child in a dress being labeled a tart

My Dd who is almost 12 wouldn't like the dress. It is too grown up looking for her style.

Does your dd like the dress? If not, you don't have a problem.

It's an adult's dress and I would like my 12 yo to wear it.

Yanbu looks very inappropriate.

She likes the dress, but would probably equally have liked something less clingy and adult-looking had she been given the choice. To me it looks like something an older teenager or young adult would wear to a nightclub, then again I've not been to a nightclub for a few years! It's designed to accentuate curves - I'm not sure that's a look a 12 year old should be going for.

God, what's with the tarty comments? It's just a dress, not a value judgement.

OP if you feel the dress is too adult in style for your 12 yo, I suggest you let her try it on, then smirk a little and say 'oh darling, you do look lovely but it's like you're dressing up to go to work in an office.' Job done.

I don't think a 12 year old (or anyone really) "becomes tarty" because of their clothes, but come on the clue to purpose of a bodycon dress is in the name - and I have a few myself! A bodycon dress is there to hide nothing about, and deliberately draw attention to, every contour of the wearer's body. They are designed to display "This is the shape of me without my clothes on". I am not sure I would like a 12 year old wearing it either, not because they become tarty.