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AIBU?

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To let dcs go without tea?

22 replies

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 03/04/2014 18:32

One says she can't possibly decide what she wants after I told her she wasn't having jam on toast for her main meal. She had a chocolate spread sandwich today for lunch as a treat, she's not having sugar on bread for tea.

The other one asked for pasta, which I did to the usual requirements, and has now left the best part of it on the plate and gone off whining that it doesn't tase the same. Admitedly it was wholemeal pasta but once it's cooked you can't tell.

They're seven and five. I've clearly let them run rings around me haven't I?

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wishingchair · 03/04/2014 18:35

No. They're 7 and 5 and so are very fickle. One minute they love something, next it'll be too spicy/weird. My DD currently hates toast (how?).

They'll be fine.

Nomama · 03/04/2014 18:38

Sugar girl can go hungry. For the sin of "I can't possibly decide" - obviously said in that Made in Chelsea, TOWIE manner that automatically gets any human being demoted to 'Erk'.

But you are being absolutely, totally, utterly Fucking U if you seriously think that wholemeal pasta tastes the same as the real stuff just because you cook it.

Total Freakin Biatch of a Mum for that dirty trick

EatDessertFirst · 03/04/2014 18:38

Sounds like they are typical kidlets to me!! Mine (5&3) do this occasionally so I call their bluff and give them nowt.

They'll be fine. Maybe just very hungry in the morning.

SaucyJack · 03/04/2014 18:39

You haven't let them go without dinner. They've chosen not to eat the pasta you've made for them. Big difference.

Stop fussing over them is my advice.

Mrswellyboot · 03/04/2014 18:40

I don't think wholemeal tastes the same but they are only small children so I think it goes with the territory

I would do one more choice

MrsC1966 · 03/04/2014 18:41

Oh dear, who's in charge there? They're certainly not going to die, so stick to your guns. If they're hungry they'll eat the food put in front of them - your house, your rules! Not easy being a parent but start exercising some authority and pop some cotton wool in your ears.

PenelopePitstops · 03/04/2014 18:42

Why are you letting them decide what they get for tea?!

Tell them what they are eating and that's that. You aren't a bloody café as my mum would say!

thebody · 03/04/2014 18:49

let them go hungry and then it's toast or cereal.

nowt else.

bless.

Stropzilla · 03/04/2014 18:55

My 2 year old is currently screaming that she's hungry having refused to eat the pasta bake she ASKED for, and normally loves. I'm not giving her the bagels she's after. I'm mean. Wholemeal pasta is nasty though!

mrsjay · 03/04/2014 19:04

stop asking what they want of course toast and jam is nicer than pasta she will be fine next meal just cook dinner you know what they like to a degree just give them dinner and if they dont eat then you tried, wholemeal pasta is rank it taste like soggy brown bread

wishingchair · 03/04/2014 19:05

And agree. Wholemeal pasta not the same. And defo not as nice.

RedRoom · 03/04/2014 19:17

No, yanbu. As SaucyJack said, the food is there for them, they are just choosing not to eat it. As soon as kids start turning their nose up at food so that meals end up being re-cooked to suit their whims, it will never end. Don't give in!

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 03/04/2014 19:17

We always either have wholemeal pasta or dried pasta. Not much difference usually.

Pasta hater lied and said she'd eaten it when she had in fact tipped the whole plateful in the bin. I could have bloody well eaten it. My dinner is a long way away after I've negotiated tonight's tantrum and I'm bloody hungry.

They've gone to bed. And once I've necked a big glass of wine that's exactly where I'm headed.

Christ, we haven't even started the holidays yet. And dh is away for another two weeks.

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GreatUncleEddie · 03/04/2014 19:19

Ah don't worry. It's par for the course. Tomorrow will be better!

wheresthelight · 03/04/2014 19:20

My dsc's are very used to going without dinner as one week they will eat sausages and the next week they hate them - rule for all the kids (and adults) is eat it or go hungry.

thebody · 03/04/2014 19:21

enjoy the wine op.

by glass 3 they will be the cutest best children in the world and you will be kissing their sleep flushed [if hollow from hunger cheeks)

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 03/04/2014 19:29

thebody

They are adoooorable when they're asleep aren't they?

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Nocomet · 03/04/2014 19:36

Brown pasta is very nasty.

YABVVU to try to con any poor child into eating it.

Rexandralpf · 03/04/2014 19:49

Don't you just cook one family meal? Do you cook different things for different people? Crazy if so

magimedi · 03/04/2014 19:54

One says she can't possibly decide what she wants

You give them a choice?

You ask them what they want for tea?

YABVVU (and mad )

Dish it up - the only choice (taking into account genuine loathings) for my DS was take it or leave it.

Rexandralpf · 03/04/2014 20:13

I agree magi. Mine all had fish pie tonight, they all had chicken casserole yesterday and tomorrow we will all be having curry.

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Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 03/04/2014 20:17

I know, I know.

I took the viewpoint that it was easier to get them to eat something that they'd asked for, as opposed to making them eat something they didn't want.

I realise now the error of my ways.

We do all sit down and have a family meal together perhaps two or three times a week, when I do something that I know everybody likes. The rest of the time I just ask them, especially if they're hungry straight after school and dh and I aren't eating till he comes home later.

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