to be offended my husband has been invited to a wedding without me?

[PurplePotPlant]

Friend of DH, who I know but am not close to, is getting married at a location bloody miles from where we all live. Save the date arrived yonks ago, now invite has arrived for just DH.

I personally feel its rude as its basically asking my DH to support and witness the importance of their marriage, whilst disregarding the importance of ours.

AIBU?

It is rude.

But you know somewhere in the backstory is a Bridezilla or a Mother from Hell...

"married couples can actually spend time apart!"
Of course they can. Dh and I do loads of things separately. But I'd be hacked off if he got a wedding invite and I was excluded.

"It's their big day, their choice."
Well, in theory, yes, but I don't think that excuses bridezilla behaviour that's going to upset half your friends and family.

And re: doing things separately/together, we have a kind of unwritten rule that weekday nights are open for doing our own thing (albeit consulting each other first as a courtesy and to ensure we have the dcs covered), but weekends (particularly Saturday nights) are for us both/the family.

Its very rude to invite only one half of a married/long term relationship/cohabiting couple.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I think YABU.

Of course it's nice if people can invite other halves, but there should be never be any obligation to (unless one is incapable of attending without the other).

But it's always been acceptable to invite only the one person you want, on the general basis that no one loses their capacity for independent action just because of their relationship. Actually, it used to be far commoner to treat people as individuals in this way, and I find it mildly baffling that people seem to be less tolerant/independent.

Debretts says either is OK (though notes the move away from independent individuals).

To everyone who mentioned gifts - whilst DH is capable of doing things alone, the chances of him managing/remembering to buy a gift alone is tiny and I feel no inclination to help him...

My DH was invited to a wedding without me and I was rather offended too. Although, I'd only met the bride once and never met the groom, so at the time I suspected I was being U. They knew DH through a mainly male club, so invited most members of the club minus us wives and partners.

Unfortunately, at the wedding dance the bride had a go at the 'club boys' for not dancing! I would definitely have dragged DH up to dance had I been invited!

YANBU. It's rude to invite only one half of a couple to a social event.

Perhaps at least one of the happy couple think you're quite likely to get divorced and don't want the associated hassle anywhere near their wedding photos?