To ask what kind of social life you have?

[stuckindamiddle]

Posting here for traffic (and because I can never find the Chat thread on the mumsnet app...!)

I'm curious to know to what extent other parents have a social life. I mean, nights out with your friends, does your partner have the same, do you socialise with other couples / families and do you have any regular
activities - sport, choir, book club, politics etc.

Just asking as me and DH feel our social lives have taken a real dent since we became parents and would like to hope things improve as kids get older. I think the current situation isn't helped by us having no real couple friends where we now live (we moved cities just before we became parents), only one babysitter we can call on and also because we both
enjoy spending as much time as possible with DS and / or are pretty knackered most of the time still.

I guess a lot depends on how old your kids are, whether you have a partner or not, if you have access to reliable babysitters and how long you've lived in your area.

Please tell me how it is for you and give me hope!

This thread has made me realise I'm really lacking a social life!

I don't have any close friends who have children, which is a shame. However, I have a few child free friends that have weekdays off, and normally find one of them will come and visit each week and spend the day with me and my younges ds.

Not much of a social life here. Both work FT with a 3.5 year old and a 10 month old. DH goes out more than me. He will stay for Friday drinks or go and watch a sports game with work colleagues most Friday nights. We will sometimes go out for dinner just the two of us (once a month, twice a month maybe) or with another couple. I catch up with my friends once a week or fortnight by having them and their young babies around to our house. My two closest friends have toddlers so they come around for afternoon tea on a Saturday and we catch up. I go to the gym during the week very early in the morning so that's my sport. DH plays social basketball once a week. I find I am really tired by the end of the week and I can't be bothered going out. Day time during the weekend I try and spend as much as I can with the children. I look forward to when they are older and we can go out for dinner as a family. Holds no appeal at the moment given their ages. It's easier to stay at home.

It doesn't bother me to be honest. I work so hard and get my exercise in. These are more important than going out to me, plus I still get to catch up with my close friends.