To be slightly annoyed at HV or DD.

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Had my DDs 2.5 yr check up today. I'm certain (as is childminder) that her speech and understanding is good. Better than my friends kids and I mean that in a totally unbiased way, I promise and better than 'the books' say she should be. 2 childminders have assessed her at better than her age.

As soon as she walks in to HV room, she gets hugely excited about the toys and exciting items and says 'mummy, lots of either babbles or slurred words' and instantly HV says 'her speech is very delayed isn't it' so I use the animal books to tease words out of her and she basically speaks like a twat the whole time we are in there. The HV is a little concerned and will be in touch in three months to see how she is doing.

Before we went in I said.'youve got chocolate milk all over your face' to which she said, clear as day 'no mummy, I not got choc-late milk all over my face, I got choc-lote milk all over my mouff' I was pleased as punch. HV looked like she didn't believe me. I tried everything to get her to speak properly but as soon as we walked out and I put her coat on she said 'here mummy, hold my milk'

AIBU to think kids do it on purpose?

AIBU to think HV should believe me and not say DD is behind and delayed?

I think I am BU regarding HV as that's her job but it hurt

I've spent ever since listening intently to every word she says. I simply can't be sure. My MIL is HV and she's never said. I'd have thought she would say something and not be nervous to offend me. I'd have hoped.

I understand some people don't/won't accept these things as I have seen someone do this. I don't think I'm thy person tho. So much doubt...

No lady, I mean she's the t word for speaking so badly at the one time I could do with her shining obviously DD is not and never would be an actual twat. Nor is anyone with a speech impediment.

Yanbu.

They should take into account that this is a situation which is unusual, not a reflection of how a child normally speaks.

Ds2 was asked to identify a cup from a picture at his two up year assessment. HV asked what Mummy drinks, to which he replied 'Water, in Mummy's bag.' Thus was because we had gotten a bottle of water to drink on the day. He refused to say cup even though he knew fine well what it was.

I think they should get extra points for playing Mum like a cello

My daughter no longer knew of the colour yellow, and lost the ability to stand on one leg when the hv came for the pre school check just after her 4th birthday

Loads of kids get 'recalled' ie asked to see again in a few months time. It's nothing personal, kids aren't performing monkeys. They have good and bad days like everyone else. Your Hv is just doing her job and it's a good thing that she's keeping an eye on the situation. I really wouldn't worry about it or be offended.

SPEAKS LIKE A TWAT?!!

Are you kidding me? Is that how you talk about your daughter? You need to check yourself, fast.

I'm not ott I promise but I took DDs learning journal which I received a few days before to show her, I was told she'd be interested, I got it out and said 'look, this is what she can do' I instantly felt like I was one of those parents in denial. Trying to prove a point that just wasn't there.

I'm so glad you've all had similar experiences. Each one makes me feel so much better!

I was once pouring my heart out to the HV and saying how tired and stressed I was that 5 month DS only ever fell asleep on the breast. She looked at me a bit funny and I realised that he had fallen asleep on my lap whilst I was talking to her

Crispy, I feel you are more offended by the word twat than me. Which is perfectly fine and normal. I don't mean it as bad as it sounds. I promise. As I said she definitely isn't that! She's perfect.

Speaks like a twat. Charming.

I'm sorry, I can't get over that. Twat is the same as cunt to me, a slang swear word to describe female genetalia.

Maybe find a different word to describe your baby.

Twit...

You have a really unfortunate turn of phrase, OP.

But then twit implies she's stupid. There is no word that be 'correct' on all fronts. I simply can't think of one.

Ha! I took mine for their 2y checkup at 21 months and they refused to do, like, half the stuff she was asking even though they do them all the time in the house. As they were a bit young though I think they did enough not to warrant further intervention so it doesn't make much odds for us either way. (Anyway it was the HV I don't like, who wrote "artificial feeding" on their red books (meaning FF) and mixed their weights up at 6 weeks (they're twins) and then told me DT2's weight was a concern because she was losing weight when actually the daft bint had just looked at her sister's weight! So I'm glad they didn't perform for her...)

A foreign friend who was bringing up her DS to speak both English and her native tongue knew he was capable of counting in both languages, reciting his name and address, colours, identifying parts of the body etc. When they went along for a check she said it was like the HV spoke to DS in Russian for all the response he made. No matter what was asked of him he either got silly and showed off or clammed up, staring at HV.

As soon as they got outside he asked her very earnestly and fluently about the lady's large and colourful earrings, she could have cried.

Toddlers are not performing seals, they don't always do what you want them to do. I feel so much is expected so young. Dd 7 paedritrician told me that a lot of development takes place between 3-5 years.

OP would you mind it if anyone other than you told you "your daughter is speaking like a twat"?!

It might just be a turn of phrase but it's a particularly unpleasant thing to say about anyone IMO, let alone your own child.

Why do you care what the HV thinks? I understand that engaging with them is purely voluntary.

Hence they were waiting until she was a bit older before dx. Dd was dx with ASD at 6years.

trust MNetters to jump on the twat comment. she was making a joke? well that's how I took it anyway.

OP, my friend had the exact same thing. HV was trying to get her to go to a speech therapist. when HV saw her again in 2 weeks friends DD spoke like she normally did and she was actually ahead a year speech wise .

Dd7? Sweet Jesus! Have you slept at all recently? Are they all girls? Or do you mean she is 7?

Loving all these stories!