I'm assuming you're being rational when writing your comments back to others, and your responses aren't in fact made in anger or frustration.
If I am to assume correctly then I personally find you rude, condescending and at times a bit of a bully. I hope that your children don't/will not ever feel belittled by your responses when they voice their opinions.
Please don't think I feel belittled though. I'm not a child and can put perspective on matters, even when an adult is responding to me in a manner similar to a petulant teenager.
You have done me a huge favour though my confirming my own attitudes to parenting are absolutely the right ones. Thank you.
Granted, some people haven't been gentle in their responses to you, which they probably should have done. That doesn't give anyone licence to retort in a derogatory manner though, I understand emotions are running high on this thread though.
Yes I did read your last post, found it incoherent and rambling tbh but I got the general idea.
I think I agree to a degree that naughty step/time out etc aren't always that practical and for some children not an enjoyable experience. I do fail to see though how in the long run they will look back on it with a notion that their parents abuses them.
I can honestly say that on the occasions I was told to stand in the corner for being naughty (rather than a smacked hand/backside) I don't look back at those moments and remember the feelings of hate/disrespect/humiliation/pain. I remember being grateful that they didn't hurt me and therefore respect that they controlled themselves enough. This was a much better motivation to behave than having a smack.
I don't there can be a black and white answer as to what discipline method works for all children. I think a child's individual personality has to come into some consideration. My own dd doesn't respond well to the naughty step at all and like your own dd Fefifo has a huge meltdown and defeats the whole object of it. So I had to work bloody hard to find another solution. Took a bit of trial and error but I resolved to never threatening smacking as a discipline.
I do understand completely that there are sometimes when pure rage takes over and a parent swipes at their child's hand/bottom etc, those are moment of pure rage for whatever reason. They aren't great but we, as humans aren't infallible, and as we forgive our children for the mistakes they make when they are angry or frustrated, they may as little as they might be able to understand. I'm not certain on this by any means but I certainly think it's easier to explain that a calculated one.
Makes me think of the legal terms mens rea and actus reus.
I fear I too have become waffly and drawn out, apologies.