Has anyone ever called you fat to your face?

[EmilyMortimer]

Long, sorry

Background is I was anorexic for years (maybe self-indulgent manipulation or whatever but I was & it never goes away - maybe like always being a recovering alcoholic).

Have been very lucky to have twins in later life but still have massive abdominal split

In a car park I'd never been before yesterday I came across this very angry woman. Unbeknownst to me I had parked across 2 spaces. There was no marking - she obviously knew the cArpark well.

After she knocked really hard on my window & was shouting away I got out because I was frantic (my only break in a very long day) she'd wake up DT's. I didn't even know what the matter with her was but because she was quite elderly & it wasn't down town LA So I got out. As I say she was really yelling. I said "I'm really sorry but I had no idea I was parki g where I shouldn't (really meek & submissive).
She stomps off saying "we'll anyway you're a fat woman so it's just what I'd expect"

I went after her & said excuse me I'm not fat but I have an abdominal split (wish I hadn't given her the satisfaction) her rey "yes you are, you're a fat woman " me "do you have any idea how much you've hurt me with that comment?" Her "I really don't care. You are FAT".

It sounds pathetic written down but I feel really depressed - I was half asleep in the car @ it all happened so quickly - I felt really shocked

I wish I could get it out of my head

For the record I'm size 12 but have no waist

I just can't get over how angry & nasty she was. She was spitting the words out as if she hated me.

Yep she definitely lacked intelligence. I think what blew her mind is that she couldn't have a go at me because of the parking space because when we checked the road surface she realised there was no markings.

She was one of those people who are posing as being civilised - a real Hyacinth Bouquet but when she was riled the veil fell.

Sorry OP, she sounds like a bloody headcase. I've had a group of young men tell me I have a fat arse, I just said, "Yes I know and I'd appreciate it if you stop staring at it thanks" think they expected me to blush but I know I have a fat arse so waste of an insult on me!

Ignore her - she said it to hurt and she sounds a bit loopy - once she knew she'd got to you she repeated it to hurt you more.

OP, YANBU. That woman sounds horrible. Hope you never have the misfortune to run into her again.

A few weeks ago my MIL arrived at my house with a Slimming World magazine for me. I have never been on a diet nor have I ever voiced any desire for Slimming World stuff.

I'm a size 12, which is the same fecking size as her!

I told her I didn't want her magazine and she sort of smirked at me and said, "Oh, but I think you should read it."

My students used to call me fat. Charming, teaching 16-19 year old boys from deprived backgrounds can be "challenging" at times. I would tell them that, as I have a brain the size of a small planet, it can't fit entirely in my skull so has to be housed somewhere....

Bless them not one of the ever got the Hitchhikers Guide reference they they were all left bemused by indifference to the insult.

For the record, I am fat.