To Think 'No' It's Not Something We Should Just Put Up With..

[NurseyWursey]

Warning TMI and long!

I have a variety of health problems (believe me I would have died in days of yonder) but there's one thats particularly worrying me.

Everytime I have an orgasm, I bleed. And I mean I have to run to the toilet because there's a gush of blood, about a cup full. Followed by extreme pains in my lower abdomen. It's not just through penetrative sex, it's orgasm and only orgasm. (good job I don't fake them!)

I've had all sorts of tests done, they've found nothing.

I recently saw a consultant, who had a look with a camera and put it up on the screen. She kept saying 'look at your cervix' and I didn't really want to, but she was insistent. There was a tiny scratch on it and she went 'aha, we have found the problem'. I told her that most definitely wasn't the problem, there was far too much blood, it doesn't explain the pain and doesn't explain why only during orgasm.

She then said 'oh well, it looks like it's something you'll just have to put up with - part of being a woman ey!' then a wink.

I've been to A&E through the pain, I'm now terrified of the pain, I'm scared of the amount of blood... but it's something I should put up with because I'm a woman?

Sorry I know it's ranty but could do with some advice and if anyone has experienced the same?

[NurseyWursey]

I've read conflicting things regarding female ejaculate. I was always taught it comes from the urethra, but then I had a look into it and it's apparently glands around the urethra. There isn't much study on it unfortunately.

It's worth a try, I will try anything at this stage. Thankyou for your research

[NurseyWursey]

funky Oh yes!


I might just get in touch with Dr Christian, I have him on Twitter and he's replied to me before I'll see if I can get a spot on Embarrassing Bodies, shout out to the Mumsnet Folk!

[NurseyWursey]

House will of course first think it's Lupus, then he'll have a rummage around my apartment and come up with some strange disease!

[enriquetheringbearinglizard]

I have no useful insights at all, can offer sympathy and backup to say please don't be fobbed off any longer, you know this isn't something you should just take in your stride and the fact it happens without penetrative sex as well means it's all the more a mystery that needs a solution for you.

[Wibblypiglikesbananas]

Gosh, sorry to hear you're suffering. Have you tried the Raggedies thread on here? Someone there might have an idea, as there seem to be lots of experts on GYN issues about. Otherwise, can you see an OB/GYN privately? You can't go on like this for the rest of your life!

[Littlebluesock]

Are you on the depo injection OP? My friend had this with the depo.

[NurseyWursey]

I may have to go private I think if it doesn't get resolved - just struggling with funds at the moment.

little I used to be, I'm on the implant now. Oh did she?? That's really interesting! Did she have to stop taking it then? I wonder if the implant could have a similar effect.


Right thanks to this thread I now have an action plan in my mind, you're all fab

[BadgersNadgers]

How awful, your consultant sounds like a hairy arse.

Have you ever had a c-section? Is it possible they left something in there?

[Littlebluesock]

Yeah she was really worried but when she came off it it stopped after like 2 months, she never got and luck with the doctors either :/ maybe something to do with hormones? Really hope you get it sorted!

[Featherbag]

Have you ever had a hysteroscopy? No idea if it would show anything, but by the sounds of things a good look inside the uterus couldn't hurt!

[hiddenhome]

If you're not sure of where it's coming from, then insert a tampon, into the vagina obvs, and masturbate to orgasm. Remove the tampon and see if there's any blood on the tip of it. Give your vulval area a wash before removing, otherwise the tampon may end up with blood on it from that area when you remove it.

If it's coming from your urethra or vulval area then the tampon will come out clean.

At least it might help narrow it down to whether it's the uterus or bladder.

[NurseyWursey]

It's coming from my vagina because it ended up all over DP :(

Never had a c-section and will certainly look into the hysteroscopy. I will do ANYTHING to be normal again. I shall keep you all updated on my escapades and adventure to a blood free orgasm (I have to joke otherwise I'll cry)

[hiddenhome]

Fluid and other materials can collect in the Pouch of Douglas and this can cause pain, sometimes severe. Orgasmic contractions must be pushing the blood/fluid out.

[BadgersNadgers]

If all else fails we'll get Scooby Doo to have a look up there - he's good at solving mysteries.

[HerrenaHarridan]

Use a tampon, I already used my dp

Hope you get it sorted nursey

[GarlicMarchHare]

Good heavens, I never knew I had all those pouches! Just looked up your reference on Wikipedia, hidden.

So glad you have a plan of action, Nursey. What an absurd thing for your consultant to say! Good luck

[Vintagecakeisstillnice]

Please bear in mind I'm on some serious meds here(am post-op, not out partying…)

BUT if it's only on Orgasm couldn't the fluid be coming from a variety of places? As suggested above.

I wonder if you have a slow filling hematoma/cyst etc.
that the muscle contractions/spasms are popping it, but if it's slow filling when you're investagated all looks 'normal'.

Other thought do you have any bowel issues? Could you have a tiny fistula and the issue is outside the uterus, and this is just the escape route?

Sorry if I'm repeating anyone or talking rubbish but this PCA pump is very good.

Good Luck.

[Vintagecakeisstillnice]

Aghhh. Actually logged on to say the consultants comment was so out of order, totally unprofessional.
And I would, maybe not complain depending on the relationship you have with them but comment on how unprofessional this was. Not to mention fucking stupid.

[TwittyMcTwitterson]

Pouch of Douglas?



how the hell did it get that name?!

[hiddenhome]

Presumably some bloke called Douglas discovered it

[candycoatedwaterdrops]

You said you've had an ultrasound, was it in internal one?

[DearTeddyRobinson]

Hi OP, are you in London? I highly recommend Prof Tom Bourne if you are, he is at Parkside and on Harley St (London women's clinic I think). I had mysterious gushing at the gym and he tracked it down to my c section a year prior, sometimes there is a little kink left behind in the uterus where blood pools. I know your problem is different but he is the best, I saw 2 other highly recommended gynaes who basically told me to put up with it

[mymiraclebubba]

Sounds awful hun! I hope younger answer soon!

I was going to suggest that it could be a build up of mucus on your cervix that isn't letting your body expel all menstrual blood which is what I get and it can be quite heavy but if it is fresh blood then the lady above who mentioned slow filling cyst could be to blame

Have they checked you for pcos? It took me years to get a diagnosis as I "wasn't trying to get pregnant so weddon't test" but after about my fifth appearance at a&e screaming in pain they did finally test

[OnIlkelyMoorBahtat]

"It's all part of being a woman"? FFS. Hope you get this sorted OP

[mymiraclebubba]

Sorry justice read my post, the cyst is obviously to blame jot the lady who suggested it!