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To think me taking a picture with no makeup on

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softlysoftly · 18/03/2014 23:37

isn't going to cure breast cancer?

Correct me if i'm wrong of course.

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diddlediddledumpling · 20/03/2014 22:07

www.ted.com/talks/dan_pallotta_the_way_we_think_about_charity_is_dead_wrong
Sorry it's off topic, but worth watching/reading the transcript.

The gist is that in order to grow a charity (and therefore bring in more donations), you need to spend money on marketing/fundraising.

And I'd imagine the stuff you describe cost about 50p in total.

HeadfirstThroughTheTimeVortex · 20/03/2014 22:08

The majority of my fb friends are posting their pics with the donate number. People are donating, so it's working!

But yes it a fundraising exercise not an "awareness" gimmick.

But if it gets a few ladies checking their breast then where's the harm?

HeadfirstThroughTheTimeVortex · 20/03/2014 22:15

And yes, i have done one, and yes I have donated as has my dh.

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McNickenChuggets · 20/03/2014 22:30

Lot of posts on here but I'll just throw in my tuppence-worth. I took a pic late last night when I was about to go to bed. I snapped it in the bathroom, posted it and just put "no make up, I nominate x" and left it at that. Then went to bed.

Reason being was I checked FB late last night for the first time in days, realised I had a couple of nominations (that had no donate details of where to send money, might I add). But I got the general gist of what it was all about.... #breastcancerawareness as was pointed out by my nominators.

Anyway today at work I got thinking. It smacks of hypocrisy posting pics and not actually raising money. I logged onto FB on my coffee break and saw the number to text my donation to. Fine I thought. But rather then donating money I logged onto cancerrrsearch.org and requested a fundraiser pack. I want to organise my own event to raise money for research.

Anyhow iv had a stupidly busy day. So tonight after DS was in bed I donated money to the charity, then posted a status on FB which read 'hoping to do my own fundraising event for cancer research. Will get my head on it when I have a moment. Ladies, do regularly check your bits for irregularities and please keep up to date with your smear tests- they save lives. And fellas, keep an eye on your meat and two veg!'

My point being is that when I logged on to FB last night I never gave cancer or donating to charity much thought. I do sporadically donate to certain charities but not on a regular basis. No, my friends didn't give me details of how to donate, yes my selfie probably comes off as vacuous since I didn't specify what it was about when I passed on the nomination (friend I passed on to did tho and donated herself) and yup I have a little giggle about the way I look.

But in return I have donated, I have told people to check their bits and I have been inspired to start my own fundraiser for this fabulous charity. Something I would have done or thought about if it wasn't for self-absorbed selfie-taking. Genius!

I think most people - whether rightly or wrongly - are of the mindset that if something doesn't directly effect us we just simply don't think about it. Give people something to think about and they will! It's that simple

Kellylesley · 20/03/2014 22:40

A surge in donations obviously means its working and what's so wrong with doing something for a bit of fun and raising money for a great cause??
I've done it and donated and wouldn't have done that particular donation otherwise and pretty sure I speak for lots of my friends who have too.

RandomInternetStranger · 20/03/2014 22:45

But who ISN'T aware of cancer & what a bastard killer it is? I mean I don't have a huge circle but within my small one I can name easily 10 close people who have/had cancer of some form. I don't think it needs to be so much about raising awareness anymore as much as a reminder about symptoms, when and how to check, what to look out for etc. But even then with Google every medical issue you look up points to cancer. My lymph nodes are up this week - leukemia apparently. Hmm I think it needs to be practical information about symptoms and facts now more than "Have you heard of breast cancer? Oh it's this really nasty killer bug!" I mean I am not proud to admit that I don't check my breasts, never have, wouldn't have a clue how to, no idea what is normal and what isn't, and I have 2 close aunts & a great grandmother who have had breast cancer, but I know all about wearing pink ribbons & running 5k every year. Instead of posting selfies, wouldn't posting a video of how to do a self exam and what is normal & not be better? For women and for their partners? I would think a lot of cases are discovered by boyfriends before they are notices by the woman?

RegularVoltaire · 20/03/2014 23:08

I never post pics of myself on fb and I rarely wear makeup.

I was nominated (3 times actually) but as many have pointed out, there was no information on how to donate, so I googled "no makeup selfie" and found the number.

I put a photo on (which I hate) and made my donation.

I'm happy with my decision and I stand by it.

IneedAwittierNickname · 20/03/2014 23:23

Lj I don't seem to have many mature friends either.:(
One friend has just posted her 'cancer selfie' and tagged some others. A few commented saying "omg hun, didn't know you had cancer, r u ok?"
Her is is "oh lol, no I don't have it! You have to post a selfie with no make up to raise awareness of cancer thou"
One commented says "how does a picture of my
bare face help?.don't get it?"
The friend has replied "it just does, its for cancer awareness week"

I did comment with points about donating/self examining and have been told I've missed the point. It's not about money, its about awareness Confused
I want some new friends!

MarianForrester · 20/03/2014 23:27

YANBU. It has been annoying me all day.

It panders to the no make up is worthy righteousness too.

Pointless claptrap.

vikkik888 · 20/03/2014 23:37

I don't even pop to the shop without my face on let alone showing the bloody world.

I have donated via the BEAT text and it probably took less time that the selfie takers getting their light/angles right.

Grrr

DakotaFanny · 21/03/2014 06:25

But it's raised so much money it can't be bad.....I don't think it's about beauty or vanity, but a kind of sisterhood. I do think that people need to be posting links to self check guidelines, or info about different cancers too though, not juts pics of themselves.....

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Blondeshavemorefun · 21/03/2014 07:19

selfies are fine --tho some of my friends look
Awful without their make up-- Grin if also donate

and seems People are donating so that has to be a good thing as more money going to cancer research

ladypete · 21/03/2014 08:18

I donated yesterday after seeing 100s of no make up selfies on my fb wall. I was later nominated so posted a "no make up selfie" of my own, alongside donation information, a screen shot of my own text to 70007 and tagging a few people who I want to get involved.

It may be "annoying", but Cancer Research UK have posted thanking everyone involved as they have raised £1M in the last 24 hours. I for one wouldn't have thought to donate otherwise. My sister was also put off by all the "this is so stupid" comments that are cropping up everywhere, which all in all is a shame because her embarrassment could have cost a charity a donation, and an 18yo encouraging her many fb friends to donate during the campaign. Luckily, it didn't, and 9 of her friends donated, etc etc....

I just think if it's working for the charity, and isn't offending anyone, then let people donate as spread the word as and how they chose.

candycoatedwaterdrops · 21/03/2014 08:35

Dakota HATE the term 'sisterhood', perpetuates sexist stereotypes. Also, men get breast cancer too or love someone with breast cancer.

Joysmum · 21/03/2014 08:46

Don't let the people who do selfies only for ego stroking or as sheep put you off. Not everybody is like that.

If even the tiniest proportion are prompted to donate then loads of money with be raised as this is viral, that's proven to be the case.

If even the tiniest proportion, like me, question what 'awareness' is being raised without a message with the selfie and look to find our own, that'll have been prompted by the ego stroking selfie takers.

Not having a message passes up the opportunity to make the most of the change to change awareness. Of course everybody knows cancer exists. The awareness part comes from all this hopefully prompting people to learn about the symptoms of various cancers and actually checking themselves.

I'm sure many of us know we ought to check ourselves for breast cancer, be honest, how many confidently know how to, what to look for and how often? I'm guessing most women have a bit of a grope at best and don't know how to properly. Many others that do know may have forgotten to do so.

So, everybody, even the pissed off people who think the barefaced selfies to be pointless and self indulgent, think to check yourselves and do it today, don't forget. That's what 'awareness' is in its truest and most specific sense. The money is one thing, but raising specific awareness directly saves lives and might save the life of you or one of your nearest and dearest Wink

To think me taking a picture with no makeup on
Shinyshoes1 · 21/03/2014 09:39

The latest one is " odds socks for Downs syndrome " and people posting photos of their feet in odd socks

No numbers to make a donation . Nothing . Just pics of peoples feet in odd socks Hmm

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MrRected · 21/03/2014 10:07

Thank fuck for the voice of reason - OP . I don't wear makeup so am totally with you.

What does surprise me is how many of my most down to earth friends have posted and look terrible without makeup on.

EmpressOfJurisfiction · 21/03/2014 12:16

My step-niece posted a selfie - no mentions of cancer. I asked why she'd done it and the confused response was "why wouldn't I?"
So I've asked her if it's for the cancer campaign but no response yet.

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catwithflowers · 21/03/2014 13:21

diddle I just watched your link. Really interesting thanks