to think that if a 14 year old hasn't got their homework sorted by 8am Monday, they should not be bailed out

[LooSeatInTheSkyWithDiamonds]

We asked several times if she had homework or if she needed to take anything to school on Monday. Find a recipe and take the ingredients came the answer, which i thought she had sorted but it turns out (10 mins before she leaves the house) that she hasn't got the recipe she needs to take. So DH offers to look it up and get it to her at school within the hour. WTF?! She spends her entire life on her phone; it takes 30s to google a recipe. This is not the first time that something like this has happened (and I'm sure it will happen again). AIBU?

Surely neighbours don't borrow ingredients anymore? No longer necessary now shops have such long (even 24 hour) opening hours.

We live in a rural village and I regularly send a child to NDN or across the road to borrow and onion, some tinned tomatoes, etc and they do the same to me.

Our nearest 24 hour shop is 20 mins drive away.

We borrowed stuff from the neighbours once every few weeks or so, and they from us. But we lived in the middle of nowhere, 30mins drive from the nearest shop. It was lethal; it usually turned into a glass of wine and a chat and before you knew it, you'd have forgotten what you were trying to cook in the first place.

LooSeat, you sound like our kind of neighbours!

goldmandra yes I totally agree with you and said that up thread.

we are talking about the ops dd whose dad repeatedly steps in to save the day. that's daft. of course you teach the skills and support. then let them toddle with support and then fly.

as I said sometimes we all fuck up and of course that's when you step in especially in times like GCSEs but not all the time every time.

independence is a skill that has to be taught, practised and learned over time.