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To chop my H's head of if he doesn't stop snoring

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Creamycoolerwithcream · 14/03/2014 19:32

DH's snoring is driving me really mad. It's always worse on the weekend when he has had more to drink. About three times a night I have to push him and try and wake him up to het him to stop snoring. Any tips please?

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Ohwhatfuckeryisthis · 14/03/2014 19:38

Yes of course you are bu. everyone knows you put a pillow over his face.

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Creamycoolerwithcream · 14/03/2014 19:39

Less mess, I like it.

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LettertoHermioneGranger · 14/03/2014 19:40

YABU. The sheets would be ruined.

summertimeandthelivingiseasy · 14/03/2014 20:02

I usually find that pulling the duvet over to my side of the bed spurs DH into moving enough to give me some respite.

Icimoi · 14/03/2014 20:04
scarffiend · 14/03/2014 20:08

Swift boot to the calves then pretend to be deep asleep when he wakes up - works every time.

PurplePidjin · 14/03/2014 20:09

Is it the snoring that's the problem or the drinking? "It's always worse on the weekend when he has had more to drink."

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Creamycoolerwithcream · 14/03/2014 20:11

I have tried the pulling the duvet to over to my half but now I'm a certain age I just get really, really hot. I know people makes jokes about snoring but it's no laughing matter.

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Creamycoolerwithcream · 14/03/2014 20:12

Snoring is definitely the problem, I'm used to the drinking!

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Thudercatsrule · 14/03/2014 20:13

"I usually find that pulling the duvet over to my side of the bed spurs DH into moving enough to give me some respite"

I'm so pleased I'm not the only one who does this! I could cry sometimes when my DP snores so much I can't sleep! I also make a big deal of rolling over and that wakes him up just enough to move! I did tell him it was his chubby neck making him snore, but that seem to upset him and make the snoring worse!!

letsgotostonehenge · 14/03/2014 20:15

you might be being slightly unreasonable to chop his head off, ear plugs? different room? ummm, another house?

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Creamycoolerwithcream · 14/03/2014 20:18

Has anyone had any experience of their snoring DH/DP actually stop snoring or does it get worse?

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summertimeandthelivingiseasy · 14/03/2014 20:23

Well, if the duvet trick does not work, then a Hard Poke is next thing. DH used to do this to me when I was pregnant and snoring* . I like to return the favour occasionally.

*breathing heavily! due to swelling in mucus membranes due to twins.

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Creamycoolerwithcream · 14/03/2014 20:26

Plan of action
1-duvet plan
2-poke
3-hard poke
4-kick in the shins
5-either head of or get pregnant with twins.

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TeacupDrama · 14/03/2014 20:31

on a more serious note, snoring generally can be helped but it is not always simple or straightforward, depends on the reason for snoring

my Dh snores all the time every night separate rooms helps lots but not an option for everyone

the most serious kind is sleep apnoea when breathing can stop for a while upto 40 seconds this needs medical treatment and if his is the case your Dp needs to see a doctor as can lead to daytime drowsiness which can be very dangerous if driving or operating machinery

some simple remedies include sleeping on side, stopping smoking drinking less alcohol losing weight but other snorers require either acceptance that they are snorers or more drastic treatment not all can be treated simply and cheaply but it has to be acknowledged that the long term sleep deprivation of the DP of a snorer is not funny and can be serious too

collar size is an indication a collar size or more than 16 is a significant risk of snoring not everyone with large collar size is overweight

HopeClearwater · 14/03/2014 20:55

I wish my DP did have sleep apnoea, then we could do something about the snoring. As it is, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, but is way overweight - and won't do anything about that. I give up... The kids have to share because of it too. Resentful Angry

hels71 · 14/03/2014 21:07

It is something I often threaten to do.....so yanbu.....

IMurderedStampyLongnose · 14/03/2014 21:11

YANBU stupid irritating snoring bastard husbands.

gamerchick · 14/03/2014 21:18

separate bedrooms.. I can't think of anything else because that's what worked Grin

im grinning but it took a lot of sleepless nights before I got to that point. I'd rather sleep separately than think dark thoughts.

bio ears are pretty good as well.. they're not cheap but work pretty well. I just don't want to use ear plugs every night in case the bairn wakes up.

Meerka · 14/03/2014 21:25

YANBU! also if you smother him, hopefully the sheets will be fine after.

I have trained my husband to roll over in bed if i poke his shoulder which usually shifts his head to a different position, which stops the snoring for a while at least.

Every so often I kick him out to sleep in the spare room so I can get two nights' reasonablish sleep (i have insomnia so it's never great). That's going to be harder once our second child arrives though, no spare bedrooms.

if he's overweight, loosing weight would def help.

Lack of sleep is a killer, you really got my sympathy!

I believe you can get noseplugs which can help some people? or is it worth askign the doctor if there are any medical reasons?

firstbaby01 · 14/03/2014 21:29

Have you tried those nose strips? I got some the other day as I am fed up if DP snoring! they are fab. He still stores a little bit but it's more like heavy breathing than a proper snore so it's bearable compared to what it was like before Smile

travailtotravel · 14/03/2014 21:30

YY we tried those no strip things.

And drinking less, because it really really really is drink that's part of the problem - particularly at weekends and he does agree at least now that it is way not fair that I don't sleep just so he can have a beer or five.

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Creamycoolerwithcream · 14/03/2014 21:33

Thanks everyone. Tomorrow I am going to investigate nose plugs and strips. DH is overweight but realistically he's been this weight for a number of years so I'm not sure if will lose the weight.

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NorwegianBirdhouse · 14/03/2014 22:06

Hi OP. You are so right. Snoring is no laughing matter. It's like a cruel joke of nature. My DH snores terribly and has sleep apnoea. This means he makes the most dreadful noise, esp when he catches his breath. He is a very thoughtful man yet he falls asleep so quickly sometimes I hate him for the noise he is making.

Anyway, we have one DC 2 yo and we now use separate rooms. I wish we didn't have to but I don't want to stress at night. However DH has tried a snore guard - you know a mouth guard that pushes the lower jaw forward slightly to open the throat. Last weekend we had guests so I slept in with him and it wasn't too bad at all. Quiet and some gentle rumbling. The only thing is I know he has to lie a certain way so was probably thinking a lot about this, and I am not fully convinced he slept as well as he claims. That's why we don't use it all the time but well worth looking into. There are several.

www.therasnore.co.uk/?gclid=CMDFmYuBk70CFdShtAodOQEAUQ

Best of luck

lovestea · 14/03/2014 23:16

This is a problem for us too. DH only has to have two glasses of wine and the problem is x 10. He is not overweight. I too do the swift nudge followed by the not so swift nudge.
If he can keep on his side with his chin up it is less of a problem, but why am I the gatekeeper of this?
He is upset that he keeps me awake and I am upset that he keeps waking me up, and the only solution that I can see is that we sleep in different rooms. Not great.