I'm in no way perfect ; but am a bit .... Re friend

[sugar4eva]

Friend has only child . Oft eat s with her dh in back room and dd eats in other room. Have own adult room in house for space. Have left dd asleep gone out . Very posh . Very we need our time, in need to understand d this . Struggling.

You were not trying to help Calamity. Don't be so disingenous.

Posting 'is it that difficult to at least read a post...' is not being helpful. It's just enjoying being a cow.

parents gone out. child teenager
probably ok

is this haiku?

Feeling guilt is a horrible horrible feeling.. especially when you can't turn back time.

Try not to beat yourself up too much.. there's still things you can do to help if you want to.

Getting in a unit is the hard part.. This bairn will get loads of help while in there.

sugar, are you ok?

How come poor Sugar gets all this criticism for her writing style when another prolific poster who writes in a similar way gets off scot free?

which I pretty much exclusively ignore that other poster!

Di l : am fine thanks and vey grateful for your sensitive and mind support and that of others . Hope to return favour one day . You rightly picked up
That I was distressed which was shown in sticato style post ! Thankyou so much .

Meant kind not mind!

I hope things start to improve for this child.
Good luck . And try to focus on how you can help going forward rather than feeling bad about things you might have done.
We mostly do our best and its hard to reflect on that with any satisfaction but that's what we all do

Glad to hear it!
Hope the teen is good too.
Time heals :) and we keep on learning lessons, somethimes the hard, horrible way.

No need to repay, pay it forward.

There are a plethora of cunts on this thread.

OP I can understand your distress. The poor girl. I hope things get better for her and she comes out of this dark time. All the best.

Pag and voyage- just seen yr posts. Thanks so much.
As for the negative comments made on this thread I guess if they want to judge on the basis they seemed to do then over to them.
I'm just grateful that folk such as yourselves recognised the distress SOS and feeling of being overwhelmed behind the telegram style post; born out of the strong feeling which was going on .that people can do that is lovely and shows human kindness and emotional intelligence and that is heartwarming so good has come out of it. I chose to give the negativity no energy or importance .
:)
I've been helped and as d il says I can pay it forward so x :)

umm my daughter ate in the kitchen by herself from around 3/4 ish because she wouldn't stop talking and asking questions i prefered to eat my food so she went next door it wasn't really an issue

Deaky that is not the only issue here!

Deakymom
But the eating separately was not the only issue was it? The op gave that simply as an example of what she saw as the child being excluded/separated all the time
And as the child has had a breakdown there obviously is an issue, isn't there?

is this haiku? ha ha ha