WIBU to phone the police?

[welshnat]

Apologies if this is a duplicate but I jut wrote a AIBU and it doesn't seem to have posted.

It's just myself and my 2yo in the house at the moment. I was fast asleep about 2 this morning when I heard 3 massive bangs on my back door - plastic part not glass part. It honestly sounded like someone was using a hammer.

I stayed in bed for 10 minutes absolutely petrified and finally get the courage to go as look out the windows so see if anyone wa there. Couldn't see anybody outside the front or back of my house.

Now my garden is very easy to get into, no side gate, just walk down the side of my house and you're there. It's far off the main road, so nobody just wandering past doing it for fun.

So should I phone the police or would they think I'm wasting their time? I just don't want to wake up in the morning and find out that someone else's house has actually been broken into.

Hi welshnat is all still peaceful in your neck of the woods?

Nothing since the second time it happened my fathers friend who installed the £8.99 security light let everyone one know how amazing my £120 security light with built in camera was in front of fathers weird ex-friend so think he's been well and truly deterred

"my fathers friend who installed the £8.99 security light let everyone one know how amazing my £120 security light with built in camera was"

Cunning Hope that's the last of it.

Well after 2 weeks of nothing it happened again last night at 4 this morning but they knocked my front door this time instead of the back door with the "amazing light". I actually saw the man in suspicious of yesterday for the first time an wen said to my friend I was with, if it happened again then I would know it was him.

So I logged it with 101 but didn't mention any names. I know I have no proof but should I still mention my suspicions when they call me later? Or will it make it worse for me if it is him? I'm really quite scared, especially since my father is working away so I don't have him to come around.

I'm going to look at getting a CCTV camera to just put on my window sill too.

I know you might not be comfortable with giving exact details - but I feel we need a bit more info to determine whether it is safe or not to mention your suspicions (as realistically with no proof all the police could do would be to have a chat with him and depending on what kind of man he is this may not deter him) ... What is his beef with your dad? Does he have prior for being weird or aggressive? Does he give you 'the creeps' ... or did they just have a falling out and now he's making himself a nuisance because he's an idiot?

If you are fairly certain it is this man and he could be deterred I would mention your concerns and then I'd be tempted to leave a note on the front door that said something like "smile for the camera" and put a camcorder or camera looking box into the front window somewhere very visible just in case....and then give him back one of his smirks the next time you see him.

But if you think there could be anything dodgy about him other than him wanting to be a nuisance I'd maybe wait until I had more proof ... perhaps stage a conversation in front of a witness about being home alone a certain night or that you think you know who's doing it and mention somebody else name .... then when he comes over to do it that night said witness could be sitting in their car quietly somewhere where they can see and could give the police evidence?

Is there a reason why this person could be targeting you?

Theres a very long story about why he hates my father but he has been spreading rumours about my father sleeping with his best friends gf. This is because he was obsessed with her and she wouldn't have anything to so with him.

The only reason I can think he is now targeting my is because my father just ignores anything he does. He must at least have been checking my Facebook regularly as he had noticed I had blocked him within an hour. You have to search for the persons name to find this out.

He really isn't a very nice person and I think he may retaliate I I send the police to him and he talks his way out of it.

I'd be tempted to leave a note on the front door that said something like "smile for the camera" and put a camcorder or camera looking box into the front window somewhere very visible

That sounds like a good idea to me. It also sounds like the light at the back worked, could your Dad's friend it one to the front door too?

Do you know if the guy you think it is is likely to just be trying to scare you or if he's dangerous? Either way he's a prick but while the police having a word with some twat who is trying to scare you might scare him away, police talking to a potentially violent prick when they can't do anything may make things worse, especially if he knows they have no evidence and can't do anything.

Have you or your Dad got any big scary looking friends who could mention in front of the creepy ex-friend how pissed off they are/what they think of pricks who go rounding scaring women? obviously don't say it to the creep as that would be threatening, just loud enough for him to realise there are people looking out for you.

I would put a note on my door saying HI xxxx persons name, dont bother knocking tonight I am out.

I've got an old video camera that doesn't work but I'm going to out it in the window and stick a sign to my door saying "smile for the camera". See if that puts them off.

You think you know who it is, but don't want to tell the Police. How do you expect them to help you? Are they supposed to guess who it is, or maybe have officers tied up for days waiting outside your house? You've clearly been subjected to harassment - you should have no hesitation whatsoever telling the Police everything you know.

It's easy enough to say I should just tell the police, but I have no proof. And I can't guarantee that the person won't react badly to being accused. I will be getting CCTV so will hopefully get evidence.