to wonder why men dating online...

[giggleshizz]

...seem to only want to date younger women!

I am a 40 year old female revisiting the land of online dating and am struck by the difference in age ranges between male and females.

My (and many of my female friends of a similar age who date online) age range is a few years below and a few years above so say 37-47 seems reasonable.

A 40 year old man seems to think that 25-37 is reasonable. I have seen a few 45 year olds asking for women 20-35 and even those who can consider a woman in their 40's seem to have a cut off age as one year below their own e.g. a 45 year old man seeking female 35-44.

Why!!! I can to some extent see that childless men in their 40's might think that a 40 year old woman can no longer have a child but really....it appears that 90% of men in their early 40's are just not interested in a 40 year old woman.

Sigh...goes off to change age range from 18-34.

Because men think we are gods gift in general.

Is it not also something to do with being genetically programmed to be more attracted to more fertile women hence younger? Think I read that somewhere.....may be wrong.

My ovaries were practically interviewed this weekend.

I've only scanned this thread so apologies if this has all been said. I was on Guardian Soulmates for about a year when I was 38 till 39, when I met DH (4 years younger). A lot of the 40+ year old men were looking to meet women up to the age of 35 - it seemed very cheeky to me. They wanted to have children and didn't want a woman who couldn't have them, even though they were the same age.

How did they get on glucose... thumbs up for your ovaries or not?

I suspect there will be large numbers of applicants interviewed with regards to their ovaries potential to assist in the desire for a well hidden ego to reproduce himself, and successful candidate will have no previous experience win this department.

My ovaries were practically interviewed this weekend.

G;ucose O think that is the best onine date report I've ever read

Feedback from interview...'we had a laugh' Heck. Save me John Bishop...Alan Partridge..anyone.

I remember seeing a TV program with Robert Winston in it where he showed that (some) younger women were attracted to wealth and status as much as physical attributes in men, whereas men were more turned on by physical attributes - so I'd guess it works for some of these older guys, for a while anyway. I suspect keeping a younger woman satisfied is a far tougher ask.

It's about their ego. Probably.

I don't know about "satisfied" but I certainly have higher standards and expectations now than I did in my 20s. While I'm sure a fit 23 year old could probably shag all night, I doubt if he would satisfy me in any sense for very long!

Yeah, well, Robert Winston would say that wouldn't he!!
Never been attracted to men of " status" myself. Or older men. In fact,I worry that I am becoming like one of the men i hate - i get older, they stay the same age. Help me someone, i am Rod Stuart.

I agree Bit. My standards have risen significantly since my twenties. Not in status and material expectations but in behaviour and what I will tolerate from someone.

Susie yes that's exactly what I meant. I expect a man who treats me with respect, makes me laugh, is kind and thoughtful and who can make me come like a train

There are beautiful young women who are attracted to relationships with much older men because the men are rich/powerful. You can see it in the media all the time.

Unfortunately that means there's a lot of everyday older guys who delude themselves that they are also attractive to beautiful young women, lol.

Deluded is a word that often popped into my head while browsing POF kentish!

A lot of older men fancy themselves as sugar daddies without realising they don't actually have the means available to attract the younger model types that go for that.

As kentish says - it's pure delusion.

One very memorable occassion I (23) turned up for a date with a man who had said he was 25 - he was at least 40 and had assumed I wouldn't notice. I was too polite to leave straight away but ran pretty quickly when he invited me back to his "for a bit of fun"!

because online they have more choice and this maybe their preferred choice as really it is about attraction rather than personality at first

in rl not many of them would get to go on a date or would ever ask out a younger what they may perceive as more attractive women

I am amazed at these stories where people have lied about their age! I can't imagine lying about anything, age, height (I am really tall), or looks!! Imagine if I said I was 5 5" just to get some response and then turn up like the 6ft giant I am, lol....I once when on a date with a guy in his 40's (I was in my 30's then). A year or so later I saw him online again but this time he had changed his age shaving a good 5 or 6 years off! I contacted him to query it, needless to say I received no reply

It makes me laugh when all these foul old men want 20 years. IMe often the most gorgeous young bucks want an older women for 'experience!'

Not just for experience - DP is 12 years younger than me but we've been together nearly 4 years and have just had a baby!

Here's an idea.

A MN dating service (unless there is one already?)
Do posters think that's a good idea or not?

Rules like...try not to get a photo of you holding phone to your face...just seen some poor old guy in some sort of military uniform on match. I am going to be single for a while.