And this women is becoming a childminder

[Mintymoomoo]

Lived in this house for a year and have a young couple living behind me (our gardens back on to each other) they have 3 young children (2,4/5) and in the whole time I have lived here I have never ever heard a nice word come out of her mouth! It's always FUCK SAKE don't do that, fuck sake you will go to bed in a minute, fuck sake don't jump on trampoline when dog is on there etc ect!

And her poor husband lets just call in pete* is currently upstairs cleaning windows while she is sat on her arse smoking and playing on phone, I'm guessing facebook as she is currently on her 8th status update in 2 hours claiming how busy she is spring cleaning and enjoying the sun in her garden!

Her child who is sat next to her has asked for a drink, so she is currently screaming Pete Pete child so and so wants a drink..... He has now downed his window cleaner and as just came and brought child a drink!!!!

And this women is currently in the process of becoming a childminder!!!!!!

She acts like the perfect mum on facebook always saying about her wonderful family and people are always commenting how much of a great mum she is, I wish they could hear her in RL and not just from her fb updates!!!

I won't but I really want to comment something along the lines of you fat lazy cow stop swearing at your young kids who are little more than babies, put down your fags and get your bloody 2 year old a drink and that Pete needs to bloody man up!!!!

Rang over will go put my next lot of washing out now

Mumsnet is weird

I 'd be more concerned about the fact that my own children were being exposed to that sort of talk. The mindee's parents need to sort that out for themselves and they can easily change minders if they come to know of it. You can't easily move though . My dad once asked a neighbour to keep his swearing down when we were outside playing and he was working on something obviously frustrating in his shed next door. They had a cockatoo that would sit on the wood paling fence between the properties and screech "Piss off!! on occasion. We thought it was hilarious.

Wow as if the rest of the posters would not be judgey mcjudge, judge if they were listening to their neighbour swear as her kids nastiely everytime she went into the garden. Of course they would. I also would not like the idea of someone who behaved so inappropriately with her own children becoming a chilminder. I do think it will become blatantly obvious to parents very quickly if she is unkind and sweary with their kids and if it isn't then you definitely should let them know.

I think maybe you need a hobby. My grans like this with her neighbours, we just put it down to old age.

Leave alone OP, what she's doing doesn't effect you.

There are some non-sweary CMs

If you hear her swearing in front of mindees, report her.

Would Pete do my windows do you reckon?

22Honey

Swearing is a large part of many many people's social vocabulary, especially in working class areas. Its normal to many people. Thousands of kids grow up around parents who swear on a regular basis. It really is nothing to do with you, god I hate people who try and impose their views on parenting and family life onto someone who does it differently.

I'm feeling really patronised now. Anyone else? Just as I thought the whole "it's their culture innit" tripe couldn't get any worse.

I'm working class, not a member of a different species!

And personally, you know what? Sometimes people need "views on parenting and family life" imposed on them! This may, or may not, be one of those times, but some people need it.

Everlong - of course they should all be non-sweary, but although it is ok (by some people's standards) to swear in front of your own children, it is not ok to swear in front of mindees. Therefore you could get a sweary CM who does not swear while working.

Interesting contrast between 2 threads at the moment, there is one where the OP is being told how unreasonable she is to call her nephew a little shit- on here that is not to his face. Yet on this thread it seems it's fine to swear at your kids and call them names

Elefant1 well, you see, it's a choice between giving a kicking to a third-party, who will never see it, for swearing at some children, or giving a kicking to an actual MNer, who will see it, for judging someone else's parenting (because they swear at their children). Surely you can see the dilemma MNers are facing here?

Plus, there's the chance to pretend the OP just doesn't understand the working classes. at that one.

This woman has children at home in the day. That she swears at. I think it would be pretty hard to switch to " non - sweary " just because she had mindees there
I disagree. I never ever swear in front of my own children or in front of my mindees.
As soon as they've gone home, and my own dc are in bed, I feel free to swear .
I will try to remind people though of a thread a few months ago where the vast majority of people seemed to think it ok to swear in front of children and those of us against it were in a minority.

maybe she'll have to say everything twice " get off that fucking trampoline" to her own dc and "lunchtime little petal, time to hop down off the trampoline" to the mindee

I call my dh to get dcs things as he is as work sll week so we chip on together when we are both there.

Disclaimer I think hes probably cleaned windows once in 15 years

Really Mumsnet?

You think it's clever to judge the OP because she can hear her neighbour swearing at her kids? It just makes her a judgy snob? We all have bad days with our kids but I don't swear at them!!!

Or is this just a case of the pervasive mumsnet refrain of "Ooh you are a meanie with no life because you came on an anonymous Internet forum to have a bit of a whinge.'

A lot of vitriol directed towards the OP I think.

YANBU to sound off about your lazy neighbour. She does not sound like she is suited to childminding - I wouldn't want my boys with someone who doesn''t even care enough about her own children to get them a drink.

I agree everyone has off days, I have had them to, but I certainly don't call any of my children "little fucking shit" when I'm having one, and yes according to half of mums net I'm scum of the earth who is a single working ckass parent. as stated in my post this is not a one off its constant and has been going on for a year now, I was just trying to get across more my amazement that this women is even bothering to register as a childminder (which I understand is now expensive and hard work to do) when she doesn't appear to even like her own children let alone someone else's!

I'm glad that there seem to be many on this thread that also agree that talking to children like that is unacceptable, and people wonder why young people are growing up so rude and disrespectful nowadays

Actually I have not just heard second hand she has also me she is registering and I have seen through facebook (which is now removed that she has been doing her courses/traing etc to.

Cold light of day, it's totally different your child hearing you swear under your breath and swearing at a child

You need to get out more