And this women is becoming a childminder

[Mintymoomoo]

Lived in this house for a year and have a young couple living behind me (our gardens back on to each other) they have 3 young children (2,4/5) and in the whole time I have lived here I have never ever heard a nice word come out of her mouth! It's always FUCK SAKE don't do that, fuck sake you will go to bed in a minute, fuck sake don't jump on trampoline when dog is on there etc ect!

And her poor husband lets just call in pete* is currently upstairs cleaning windows while she is sat on her arse smoking and playing on phone, I'm guessing facebook as she is currently on her 8th status update in 2 hours claiming how busy she is spring cleaning and enjoying the sun in her garden!

Her child who is sat next to her has asked for a drink, so she is currently screaming Pete Pete child so and so wants a drink..... He has now downed his window cleaner and as just came and brought child a drink!!!!

And this women is currently in the process of becoming a childminder!!!!!!

She acts like the perfect mum on facebook always saying about her wonderful family and people are always commenting how much of a great mum she is, I wish they could hear her in RL and not just from her fb updates!!!

I won't but I really want to comment something along the lines of you fat lazy cow stop swearing at your young kids who are little more than babies, put down your fags and get your bloody 2 year old a drink and that Pete needs to bloody man up!!!!

Rang over will go put my next lot of washing out now

You will have to stick with the garden stalking now you have binned her off FB.

oh lovely another childminder bashing thread.

op I suggest you defriend her and then go and tell her to stop swearing at her kids.

if her own 3 children are under 5 then she won't be allowed to cm anyway as they will all feature in her numbers and 3 is the normal limit.

she won't be Ofsted registered so won't be a legal cm

that's why I suggest your post is goady and at best incorrect
op.

I think that you have to ignore. Difficult as it is.
People like social workers and many other professions have to learn to switch off, otherwise they are apt to think that the whole of the country is in parenting difficulty.
None of us can suitably parent the whole country unfortunately.
[This is not to say that we should not report things if there are big problems].

Ask Pete to put your washing out. You might miss her scratching herself or something.

Oh. And you are on AIBU. So unfortunately you are going to receive some abuse from posters on here.

I had a neighbour like this, minus FB and she was not married. Lazy, neglectful, noisy, annoying shyte she was. My sympathies.

Unfriend her and keep your distance.

funniest post, thats why my children went to nursery yes dear because all cms are crap and all nursery are fantastic.

how ridiculous.

mybody the 5 yr old will be at school, possibly the 4 yr old too if not now then in September, leaving only one at home. Plus you CAN be an ofsted registered childminder without caring for EYFS children. Hope that clarifies.

she won't be registered to childmind as she has 3 children under 5

please note.

OP I don't think you'd have to be particularly nosey to notice this behaviour. Two weeks ago my neighbour (a divorced bloke who has his DC every other weekend) asked me with a big grin on his face if I heard the kids making much noise when they were there... It was the perfect opportunity for me to tell him ... ' no not really, but we do hear you!'. His face was a picture because he knew exactly what I meant ... 'Shut up you f'er, f'ing get upstairs you f'ing cnut, if you don't f'ing eat your f'ing dinner I'll f'ing do you...' ad infinitum. This is out of the windows on a nice spring day or in the garden or even at the bus stop as I happened to be passing.
I'm not looking for it with binoculars or being nosey, just living my life in my property and the surrounding streets. I think he was shocked I let him know by the look on my face and tone of voice what I thought of his parenting. You see I'm not a mosey neighbour and don't feel I can ring SS just because his language is atrocious and he lets his young DC run feral from morning until night.

I don't have him on fb though so goodness knows how he comes across there although I suspect he's the type of guy to do the 'I'm a single dad and I dote on my DC'. If he was going for child minder I would be ringing ofsted.

My DP cleaned the windows today while I sat in the garden drinking a vodka and coke and having a fag.

Nick thanks but her children will figure in her numbers until the end of their 5th year.

so even if they are at school she can't have minded children while they are also in her care.

most cms work 8 to 6.

*she won't be registered to childmind as she has 3 children under 5

please note.*

Of course she can. what planet are you on?!?

Was your neighbour gardening with flapping ears and pursed lips?

No they don't! When children are in full time education, a 4 or 5 year old may be counted as an over 5 for the purposes of ratios.

Statutory guidance 3.40.

I couldn't hear any tutting from next door.

A CM neighbour goes to the same toddler group, we were considering using her but I have seen she is totally miserable and doesn't interact with the children at all. Bizarre - especially as you'd think she'd be trying to make a good impression!

She's nosy because she's salivating over her facebook and counting the statuses. And because she apparently had a women she despises on there. Why else would you have someone on facebook if it wasn't because you wanting to know about them (aka nose at them when you barely know them).

I'd report her if you hear/see anything inappropriate if she does CM.

yawn

another cm bashing thread. still makes a change from mils and mum/toddler parking threads.

I can't believe anyone thinks it's acceptable to shout "for fuck's sake..." at children. Even if it is in their own garden.

Nor will anyone like it when their kid comes back from the child minder with a newly extended vocabulary!

...maybe this is taboo to admit, but I totally love spying on my neighbours.

My current ones are pretty boring though. And I don't have any of them on Facebook.

She doesn't sound like someone I'd want watching my children.

Do you chat with her often?