And this women is becoming a childminder

[Mintymoomoo]

Lived in this house for a year and have a young couple living behind me (our gardens back on to each other) they have 3 young children (2,4/5) and in the whole time I have lived here I have never ever heard a nice word come out of her mouth! It's always FUCK SAKE don't do that, fuck sake you will go to bed in a minute, fuck sake don't jump on trampoline when dog is on there etc ect!

And her poor husband lets just call in pete* is currently upstairs cleaning windows while she is sat on her arse smoking and playing on phone, I'm guessing facebook as she is currently on her 8th status update in 2 hours claiming how busy she is spring cleaning and enjoying the sun in her garden!

Her child who is sat next to her has asked for a drink, so she is currently screaming Pete Pete child so and so wants a drink..... He has now downed his window cleaner and as just came and brought child a drink!!!!

And this women is currently in the process of becoming a childminder!!!!!!

She acts like the perfect mum on facebook always saying about her wonderful family and people are always commenting how much of a great mum she is, I wish they could hear her in RL and not just from her fb updates!!!

I won't but I really want to comment something along the lines of you fat lazy cow stop swearing at your young kids who are little more than babies, put down your fags and get your bloody 2 year old a drink and that Pete needs to bloody man up!!!!

Rang over will go put my next lot of washing out now

Im just pissed off some of you are enjoying sunshine and sitting in the garden. .its dull and cold where I am in Scotland. She sounds a delight your neighbour. .id be pissed off listening to her foul mouth. Maybe hubby fancies you! Upstairs cleaning windows.. (trying to catch a better view! )

I speak to her and her husband in passing and of course my children speak to her's over fence when everyone is outside, and they both come across like lovely people, this post is not slagging off CM, I myself use a lovely local minder two days a week after school, nor was it a moan about her sitting outside having a fag.... I to have enjoyed sitting in the sun having a cigarette and a cuppa this afternoon! It was more of amazement that she is even bothering to become a childminder when she doesn't even seem to like children, surley if your 2 year old is screaming for a drink you get them one?

It must just be me who thinks it's totally unreasonable to but the words "fuck sake" or "you little shit" in front of every sentance you say to your children!

But the general option seems to be that i would be wrong to do anything if I hear her continuing to behave like that once she is in sole charge of other people's children.

I swear around my own children.

I was a CM for a long time and never swore in front of my mindees.

I'm also a lazy arsed caaaaah with my own DC at the weekends because my husband is a star and likes to be busy while I sit on my fat bum and drink Prosecco and smoke fags now and again.

It's a bit like (exactly like, in fact) judging somebody as being a rubbish, I dunno, beautician for eg because you've seen them on their day off looking like a bag of spanners.

You might not be able to avoid hearing her but you can certainly avoid looking over the fence/hedge to see how many fags she's smoking and how much time she spends fiddling with her phone (which you must be doing to in order to see that she has updated her Facebook status 8 times in two hours.)

Things like this make me glad that I live in a part of London where we barely know who our neighbours are!

It's just unfortunate that because we live in a flood zone our patios and houses are built high up with steps going down into garden, so when we are both out on our patios we are looking straight at each other, down on the grass is not a issue as we have 6ft fences..... And yes I have already had someone over to price up lowering the patio and having steps down from my French doors onto it, I would rather risk my patio flooding once a year than having to share whatever I do on my patio table

Well that's a bit silly risking a flood on your patio. How about just ignoring the woman and perhaps not ever sunbathing naked.

You were right to de-friend her on FB, you certainly wouldn't want to see her comments about your naked bod

fuck sake don't jump on the trampoline when the dog is on there

Is it just me imagining another neighbour offended by a willy waving trampolining canine?

[Channels an ancient thread]

well they can't really be lovely people if they call their kids little shits to their faces! behind the back is fine.

this thread has made me laugh though op. you sound a but like the aunt Bessie's woman.

Im still at the dog on the trampoline

She's not swearing in front of her children, she's swearing at them. Big difference.

OP I wouldn't want her looking after my children, she sounds awful.

YABU

Nothing worse than nosy neighbours, her family life has nothing to do with you cough snob cough

Swearing is a large part of many many people's social vocabulary, especially in working class areas. Its normal to many people. Thousands of kids grow up around parents who swear on a regular basis. It really is nothing to do with you, god I hate people who try and impose their views on parenting and family life onto someone who does it differently.

Its none of your business.

Yes but its not HER child is it? Its her neighbours and its up to her if swearing infront of her kids is acceptable. Its no one else's business. Why can't some people grasp this?

You are a snob if you cannot grasp that different things are acceptable to different parents. I personally wouldn't dream of leaving my young children with babysitters/childminders etc everyday rather than raising them myself but I don't judge parents that do. I would never move my new boyfriend into my home with my kids in it but lots of women do. Should I judge them? If not, why?

As has been said, she may swear infront of her own kids but any decent childminder worth their salt wouldn't infront of others and would follow every rule given by the parent to a tee.

Any swearing done to kids in an abusive tone and manner is not acceptable IMO by the way.

yeuk, I hate to hear swearing either around or at kids. what a total lack of control and horrible behaviour.

I swear like a trooper around my friends but never around kids or to adults who don't like swearing. that's just rude.

what's with the working class crap too. I am working class and can manage to control myself.

You don't have to be nosy to notice the neighbours.

I don't watch my neighbours but our gardens are next door to each other. When we're all in the garden I can pretty much hear every word from next door, there's not really much you can do to not notice it.

My neighbours are the chavviest commoners ever (I don't care if it makes me sound a snob - they are). They have two young children close in age to mine and similarly, he seems quite quiet and reserved, SHE is a gobby old tramp.

When we first moved in two years ago I was horrified at the way she was shouting at her kids in the garden. 'X get FUCKING down from there NOW or I'll smack your FUCKING arse', 'X I'm FUCKING warning you you little PRICK don't fucking push me' etc.

It really was unbelievable. I lasted two days in listening to this (we moved in in Summer so we were outside every day) before I asked DH to take the kids inside, called her over to the fence and told her it's none of my business how she speaks to her own family but I was NOT having my children subjected to her foul mouth every day so please shut the hell up or I'll call the police and report her for anti social behaviour.

We now get very loud mutterings about the 'snobby cow' next door but no more swearing so it seems to have worked.

I personally wouldn't dream of leaving my young children with babysitters/childminders etc everyday rather than raising them myself but I don't judge parents that do

Oh fuck off.

'Rather than raising them myself'? That's not judgemental? Mmmhmm. Okay.

My children go to a cm for 6 hours a week. I highly doubt she would say she was 'raising' them for me.

I have heard that she is becoming a childminder through people we both know I.e my other neighbour and her fb page....... That I'm longer subscribed to.

I'm certainly not a snob, I grew up on a rough council estate and live back in a council house now after leaving a abusive marriage 6 years ago, but if on the world of mums net im a snob because I don't think swearing at children is acceptable then I'm guilty as charged!

I was actually more concerned with how she might behave towards other children she is minding, could be anyone of your children in fairness!