To ask people to only ring the bell once or am I being precious?

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I live in a flat and our buzzer is really, really loud. I have a 6 week old baby who doesn't like to sleep. I am knackered.
At least once a week he's woken up (usually after me spending an hour trying to get him to sleep before he gets overtired and spends the next 2 hours screaming) by someone (normally the postman, sometimes visitors) standing with their finger on the buzzer until I get to the door. They only need to press it once, I will hear them!
The postman has just delivered a parcel and as I was still in my pyjamas I had to get my dressing gown on before I could answer the door. So the bloody buzzer was going for about a minute and a half which woke DS up. I'd just spent ages trying to get him to sleep so I could have a sleep and now he's screaming again :(
DP says I'm being precious to put a sign on our doorbell asking people only to buzz once. AIBU and precious?

I don't know anyone stupid enough to stand with their finger on a bell without releasing it! If they are stupid enough to do this, then they probably need a sign!

YANBU - I don't think it is precious and if it is waking your baby up then do it!

YANBU

I think it is very sensible to put a sign up. I know loads of people whose doorbells don't work, so the bell ringer might not know whether yours works or not.

Do it.

I think it's because they can't hear it ringing, they're probably not sure if it's ringing or not or how loud it is so they stand there until I come to the door. Still makes me

Id do it. My phone always rings just as DS goes to sleep so ive now unplugged it. It was only ever a cold caller or MIL anyway so I'm not missing anything important! And ive asked MIL repeatedly not to call the house phone during the day but she still does it because apparently 'i don't always answer my mobile'. Maybe its because I'm getting the baby to sleep you stupid old bag! (love her really).

But i feel your pain OP!

JR I've also had to unplug the house phone on occasions - also MIL-related!

Are you sure there isn't something wrong with your buzzer? I lived in a flat with a buzzer for years and this never happened.

Of course not. I had a sign up that said something like "New baby. Please do not knock unless strictly necessary."

akachan no I know there's nothing wrong with it because when my mum or DP's mum come round they only ring the bell once or ring me when they're outside as I've told them to.

YANBU, of course not! Maybe if your DP was at home doing what you are doing he would realise how the early days revolve around their sleep! I sometimes ask my friends to text when they get to the house, if DS will be asleep at that time and get very cross by the idiots who feel the need to ring the bell AND knock on the door loudly, just in case.

I have had many an argument on the doorstep about this. The best one was the meter reader. Rang the bell constantly whilst banging hard on the door at the same time !! I flung open the door and asked him what he was playing at. Erm ! I couldn't hear the bell! was the answer. I not to politely informed him that the general idea was caller rings bell, householder hears bell, householder answers door! No babies here just me but it drives me mad.

YANBU. Ignore DP, he isn't the sleep deprived one being robbed of such sleep opportunities as they get by this. Notice is a good idea.

YANBU
I'd stop ordering parcels to home though!

YANBU. Have the same issue as well only the people ringing are not my visitors but some random person who wants me to let them into our apartment building. I ignore and with a sleeping baby it is really a pain.

They might not know that you can hear bell, yes to a nice friendly note?

My post man used to scare the bejesus out of me when he knocked really loud and rang the bell as my desk is literally the other side of the door, a quiet word didn't work, a little friendly note did, we chat now.

I think it's perfectly reasonable to post a sign saying, 'The bell works and rings loudly in our flat. Please just press once. New baby sleeping.'

I get the twats too who ring the bell and knock at the same time with that major sense of urgency. They are always cold callers ignoring my 'No call callers' sign. Door in face usually ensues. I am normally polite, honest, but I do feel a bit invaded by this behaviour.

YANBU, leave a polite note.

I once nearly shouted at the postman because he woke my baby by continually ringing on the bell and hammering on the door knocker!

I did this.
Not precious, sensible
Congratulations on baba, btw.

Put a sign up, absolutely.

sparechange maternity leave has left me with a bad online shopping habit

Will put a note on when I go out today.

we have a new postie that rings bell and hammers the door knocker as well! drives me mad, DH opened it last time and said 'blimey mate thought you were coming through' his response was there are lots of students round here )not true) and its hard to get them out of bed.

I live next door to students and it is true in their case that can't be arsed to get out of bed at 11am to receive the packages that they have copiously ordered.

Stop trying to achieve silence, it is never going to happen,

I have noise CD, which we use on puppies (who will become working dogs) to make sure they are never startled by anything, and get use to unexpected noises from the beginning, it has things like drills, planes, beeps bangs and crashes ,all the annoying sudden things you hear when out and about, it stops from being jumpy.

I found that it also works really well on babies, with in a couple of days, nothing will wake them, even a smoke alarm going off in the same room.

I also recommend having radio 4 on in the background at all times, it helps.