to expect dd not to get into a flap each morning getting things ready for school??

[CocktailQueen]

She is 10 btw.

She has a history of this, so every evening I make sure she has her PE kit/science club stuff/packed lunch etc ready, and check she has no homework for the next day. Last night I asked her to get her World Book Day costume and book ready, and checked they were. OK.

Come this morning, she gets dressed but can she find her book anywhere??? No. (They have to take in book as well.)

Cue big strop and lots of looking at the bare table and saying, 'but I left it here.' (No, she didn't.)

10 mins later, she's cross and upset, we've all been looking for the book, but it cannot be found.

I asked her to get another one, and to go with that, but told her it was her responsibility to get things ready herself and that was why I had asked her to do it last night.

WWYD??

It's normal. Well, in our house anyway! It worse when they first started at secondary, but once they got used to checking their stuff, it improved. However, DD(14) still regularly accuses us of taking/moving her stuff, despite us asking what would we want with her science book/art homework.

You have to pass responsibilty to them and let them deal with the consequences of not being organised. It is very frustrating when they seem unable to leave enough time before school to get sorted. Or do it the night before!

It's normal, DD1(16) will always be vaguely disorganised.

DD2 goes in phases, at your DDs age she was brilliant, in Y7 it all went to pieces, in Y8 she can sometimes be OK and sometimes hopeless.

Neither of them understand the night before!

Quite normal.

They all do it. Unfortunately...